Can Someone Change Their Personality?

One of the benefits of being so interested in psychology is that I have performed nearly every psychology test there is on myself since beginning my Clinical Psychology Doctorate in 2010. This has no doubt given me many insights into myself, but it has also given me the skills and knowledge to help others to find out a lot about themselves too.

If you are wanting to learn more about yourself, a great place to start is a personality assessment, which I have already recommended in an earlier article: Personality Assessments – The Way to Figure Out Who We Are.

The best free test out there in my opinion is the IPIP-NEO, as it can be accessed and completed for free online (see the website personality assessor if you are interested). It then scores up your responses and compares them to other individuals from your gender and your country to give you a percentile score on the five factors of personality (Extraversion, Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Neuroticism and Openness to Experience) as well as six facets of each of these factors. In total, for answering 120 questions across 10-15 minutes, you are given a comparison to others on 35 different variables. I doubt that there is a test out there that gives you as much interesting information for as little time and effort.

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My Personality Assessment Results From 2011 – 2017

I’ve now completed the IPIP-NEO Assessment five times from 2011 to 2017. To look at how personality can change over time, I’ve decided to share my results with you of the 2011, 2014 and 2017 findings, with the description of each factor and facet written underneath it paraphrased from the descriptions found at personality assessor.

The Factor or Facet will be presented first, followed by a series of …, followed by the 2011 percentile score results, which are not in brackets or parentheses, the 2014 results, which are surrounded by [ ], and the 2017 results, which are encapsulated by { }. 

Extraversion…………… 78 – [58] – {48}

I have become less extraverted over time, and am now about average in extraversion. Extraverts are sociable, like to take risks, and feel lots of positive emotions. 

The six facets of extraversion are:

Friendliness…………… 56 – [67] – {58}

I’m about average in my desire to be around other people and show an interest in their lives.

This hasn’t changed much across 6 years. I also tend to value quality time more than quantity of time when it comes to spending time with friends.

Gregariousness……… 72 – [84] – {42}

I’m much less gregarious than I used to be, and am now about average in flocking toward other people and being talkative and sociable around them.

I am much more comfortable in having down time by myself or with one or two people these days, rather than going out to clubs or big parties or festivals. 

Assertiveness………… 54 – [22] – {13}

I’m much less assertive (based on how it is defined here) than I used to be with others, and there is now a very low chance that I’ll take charge and lead others.

I am now a strong believer in helping others to find the right path for themselves rather than trying to tell them what to do or where to go.

I actually feel like I am more capable of saying no to others and speaking up about what I feel and need, but these elements are probably reflected better in my score changes on the dutifulness and morality facets below.

Activity Level………… 94 – [54] – {79}

I prefer very high levels of activity, such as being on the go and staying busy.

This dropped in 2014, but has been picking up again lately. I could have potentially overdone it in the past, as I was often tired. I am now trying to find the right balance between doing things and just being, as well as activity and rest.

Excitement-Seeking… 66 – [78] – {87}

I like to seek very high levels of thrills.

This has continued to increase over time, indicating that there may not be enough excitement in my life at present.

Cheerfulness………… 76 – [54] – {54}

I experience about average levels of happiness, joy, and other positive emotions.

This has dropped from 2011, but has stayed consistent since 2014. I don’t think I have ever been that outwardly expressive with my emotions, but I do tend to experience a greater ratio of positive to negative emotions in 2017 than I ever have in my past.

Agreeableness…………… 68 – [53] – {89}

I am very high in agreeableness, and much more so than I was in 2014. Highly agreeable people tend to do whatever it takes to have positive relationships with other people. 

The six facets of agreeableness are:

Trust……………… 92 – [80] – {89}

I’m very high in believing that other people are generally good and not out to harm others.

This dropped a bit in 2014 due to the people that I was spending time with, but has been increasing again recently with the more open, honest and positive people that I am now closest to.

Morality………… 11 – [18] – {65}

Sticking to the rules and treating everyone fairly is of a much higher value to me than it used to be.

I am now much more honest with others in regards to what I think, what I need and how I feel. In the past I was much more guarded, especially with things that I thought other people may not like or understand.

Altruism………… 57 – [71] – {85}

I am very high in generally wanting to be good to other people, including helping them when they need it.

This has continued to increase over time, which is great to see. Some psychologists talk about getting compassion fatigue, but cutting my clinical days down to 4 days per week in 2017 helps me to give my all with each session that I have.

Cooperation…… 80 – [64] – {99}

There are extremely high chances that I’ll try to get along with other people.

This dropped in 2014 due to the interpersonal conflicts that I was having in my life at the time, but has increased dramatically since then.

Modesty………… 45 – [35] – {71}

I am now much more humble than I was in the past.

One of my supervisors told me that he thought I was arrogant during a placement that I did at the end of 2012, but I think I was actually trying to overcompensate for the internal low self-belief that I often had. Modest people don’t like to brag or show off, because those types of behaviors can be harmful to relationships.

Sympathy………… 73 – [84] – {84}

I have very high levels of sympathy for other people, which includes caring about them and wanting what’s best for them.

This improved from 2011, but has stayed consistent since 2014.

Conscientiousness…………… 65 – [73] – {70}

I am slightly higher in conscientiousness than I was in 2011. Highly conscientious people are diligent, hard-working, and responsible.

The six facets of conscientiousness are:

Self-Efficacy………… 67 [62] {62}

When I need to do something, I believe that I have the ability to get it done and do it well.

This has stayed fairly consistent over the years.

Orderliness……… 18 – [80] – {80}

I prefer very high levels of cleanliness and order in my environment.

It wasn’t that I didn’t prefer this in 2011 and before that, but that I really struggled to stay organised with everything. Doing a Doctoral degree definitely helped with this, as did having a very organised partner in 2014 and reading the book ‘Getting Things Done’ by David Allen.

Dutifulness……… 78 – [60] – {27}

I’m low in sticking to my word, keeping my promises, and upholding my obligations.

As bad as this description makes it sound, I am actually happy that I do less things out of a sense of duty or obligations these days, and that I am more likely to tune in and figure out if something is consistent with my values and my best long-term interests before committing to something or just saying yes and later regretting it. It means that resentment is less likely to build up for me because I am doing what I want much more than I am doing things because I “should” be doing them.

Achievement-Striving… 76 – [52] – {88}

I have very high desires to work hard and get ahead.

After my Doctorate finished at the beginning of 2014 I felt burnt out from studying and was happy just finding a job and working as a Clinical Psychologist in private practice. This has changed again since then, and I am now focused on making a difference where I can, not just in my working role.

Self-Discipline………. 36 – [61] – {49}

I have about average self-discipline—which is the ability to get to work quickly, stay focused, and avoid distractions or procrastination.

This has improved a little which is good, but sometimes I do try to do too much in a day or all at once, which leads to the lowered score in 2017. By being realistic with myself, prioritising tasks and putting less important things off until later should help me to increase this again over the next three years.

Cautiousness……… 92 – [94] – {89}

The odds are extremely low that I’ll just jump into things without really thinking them through.

This hasn’t changed much over the years, and I continue to spend high amounts of time planning what to do. I probably would benefit by being a bit more spontaneous at times with less important things, as well as get into more productive action as soon as I know what the right path is for me to take.

Neuroticism…………… 21 – [26] – {29}

I am low in neuroticism, but less so than I was in 2011. This means that I experience low levels of negative emotions, like anger, fear, and stress.

The six facets of neuroticism are:

Anxiety…………… 45 – [59] – {25}

Compared with other people, I have very low stress, fears, and worries about the future.

This was worse in 2014 due to the interpersonal conflicts in my life, and has improved substantially since then with regular psychological therapy, better relationships and ongoing self-improvement.

Anger………………… 1 – [3] – {7}

My levels of anger and irritability are extremely low.

I am actually happy that this has increased a little, as I often didn’t allow myself to feel angry when I was younger, and I tended to be passive aggressive or non-compliant, especially with authority figures, without ever fully realising why. By tuning into my anger more, it has helped me to identify when a goal of mine was being blocked, and has helped me to stand up for myself in more productive and less destructive ways.

Depression……… 30 – [19] – {10}

Compared with other people, I now feel extremely low amounts of sadness and like myself to a high degree.

This has continued to improve over the years thanks to regular psychological therapy, better relationships and ongoing self-improvement.

Self-Consciousness… 58 – [47] – {71}

I like to draw very low levels of attention to myself, and feel high amounts of unease when interacting with others socially (especially strangers).

This had decreased in 2014 when I was feeling a bit socially isolated, but it has increased again by 2017. One of the reasons this may have occurred is that I share much more about myself than I used to, with the idea that it will hopefully help others to do the same. It is scary to do this at times, but sharing more genuine things with others really can give people a greater sense of connection and belonging.

Immoderation…… 28 – [35] – {46}

I have about average self-control when it comes to resisting temptations; there are about average chances that I’ll give into my desires and binge (on shopping, eating, drinking, or whatever my vices are).

The increase in this score over the last 6 years may be due to the fact that I have more disposable income, or that I give myself permission to indulge and enjoy things more than I used to, or highlight the fact that behavioural change is hard. I used to not care if I ate poorly for example, but now that I try to eat healthily, I am more aware about how challenging this can be, especially when I am tired or stressed.

Vulnerability…… 28 – [29] – {45}

The chances that I’ll be overwhelmed by difficult circumstances are about average.

I think this has increased in 2017 because I am now more aware of my emotional experiences and needs, and tend to be in denial less about the impact that significant events have on my life. We all have a threshold for how much of something is good for us, and learning my limits with certain things has been an important lesson over the past 12 months.

Openness to experience…… 82 – [89] – {93}

I am extremely high in openness to experience, and increasingly so over the past six years. Openness is a broad, diffuse personality dimension with many seemingly different facets. In general, highly open people like a variety of new experiences, whether physical, emotional, intellectual, or cultural.

The six facets of openness are: 

Imagination………… 39 – [26] – {15}

I have very low imagination, and therefore tend not to use it too much to escape reality or daydream.

This has continued to decrease over time. I tend to stick more to the facts of a situation and how I can improve it than wistfully imagine that it will fix itself or that I will win the lottery.

Artistic Interests…… 69 – [69] – {69}

I have high openness for art, music, culture and other aesthetic experiences.

This has been consistent over the years, especially my love of music, movies, good TV shows and reading.

Emotionality……… 65 – [94] – {89}

My attunement to my own and others’ emotions is very high. Whereas cheerfulness and excitement seeking (facets of extraversion) capture my propensity to feel positive emotions and neuroticism captures my propensity to feel negative emotions, emotionality refers to my overall openness to/desire to truly feel emotions.

I am glad to see that this has improved from 2011 and remains very high in 2017.

Adventurousness…… 78 – [90] – {90}

I prefer very high amounts of variety and new experiences in my life, and have very high openness to new experiences.

This has increased over the years, and comes out in my love of travel, learning new things, and taking on new challenges.

Intellect…………… 79 – [95] – {90}

My desire to play with ideas, reflect on philosophical concepts, and have deep discussions is very high.

My high openness to intellectual experiences has increased since 2011, and means that I like to read widely and am very willing to have interesting conversations with anyone about anything, even if they don’t agree with my viewpoint on things. Learning about different cultures and their varied expectations and belief systems is especially interesting to me.

Liberalism………… 87 – [70] – {97}

My political liberalism is extremely high and my political conservatism is extremely low. I desire progressive change. 

I believe that our schools, legal system and political arena all need to change to help us to thrive more going forward into the future. My level of liberalism decreased in 2014 when I was trying to live a more conventional life, but has gone way up since then as I am now living more authentically and see the benefits that come with this. I now fully believe that everyone should be free to live the life that is right for them as long as it doesn’t do any harm to others.

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But Can Personality Actually Change?

Some people say that “you can’t teach a dog new tricks”. If you believe this, then you would expect my personality to stay fairly consistent even over a six year period, especially seeing that I went from the age of 25 to 31 during this time period. This could explain why the factors Neuroticism and Conscientiousness and the facets Friendliness, Trust, Self-efficacy, Cautiousness, Anger and Artistic Expression all changed by less than 10 percentile points from 2011 to 2017.

Buddhists take the opposite approach to this and say that “the self is a myth” and “there is no self”.  This could explain why the factor Extraversion and the facets Gregariousness, Assertiveness, Morality, Orderliness and Dutifulness all changed by at least 30 and up to 62 percentile points in only six years.

The reality is somewhere in between however, with 1 factor and 12 facets changing between 10 and 19 percentile points, and 1 factor and 7 facets changing between 20 and 29 percentile points. For me at least, some level of change is much more common than either extreme change or no change at all.

For most of the things that haven’t changed, I’m pretty happy with where they are at. I’d love to be less cautious at times and maybe slightly more friendly, but then again there are negatives that may come alongside any positive changes in these areas (such as being too impulsive or reckless or not having enough downtime to recharge and unwind).

For the things that have changed a lot, this has been through a combination of the experiences that I have been through, the things that I have learnt, and the work that I have put in. Becoming more orderly was definitely not easy to begin with, but the benefits this has on my stress and anxiety levels has more than made up for the effort that I have put in.

What I recommend:

If you have been trying to change something for a long time and haven’t been able to, maybe it is worth seeing if you can accept and embrace this quality about yourself, or if you can at least see some of the positives that come with it. People that are introverted for example might benefit by reading the book ‘Quiet’ by Susan Cain. It talks about all of the positive qualities that generally come by being more introspective and sensitive than your extraverted peers or co-workers.

If there are things about yourself that you would like to improve, seek out people who seem to do these things well, and learn from them what you can. If you don’t have anyone in your life who represents these qualities, a book, Youtube and many other online resources are now available to help give you the skills, knowledge, motivation, perseverance and ongoing support that is required for successful long-term change. If you don’t have the level of support you currently need, a referral to see a psychologist could definitely help.

Dr Damon Ashworth

Clinical Psychologist

9 thoughts on “Can Someone Change Their Personality?

  1. It’s interesting how you are able to put numbers onto what seems at first glance to be quite subjective facets: a person’s personality. I think people can change, it’s what happens when you mature, but parts of you (that you might least expect) stay the same. Interesting post!

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  2. A riveting read of how ones personality can change over time. What’s more we were unaware of such in depth personality categorisations and tests. Tools that are useful insights into ones self.
    A in depth and scientific article.
    Well done.
    Regards,
    Mr.Q

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  3. Interesting read. I appreciate the level of vulnerability here.

    Would you say that your scores early on come from a place where you were influenced more by peers and other external things?

    Maybe as your scores have shifted over time, you’ve come to trust and accept your inner nature?

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    1. Thank you. I definitely used to be more unaware of what I felt and needed, and was also much more influenced by external pressures, particularly from my family and friends, but also societal pressures at large. The pressure to conform is a lot more than many of us would like to admit, and it has taken considerable time and work to get to know, trust and accept my inner nature.

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  4. Fascinating Damon. I took a couple of these tests as I moved up the food chain.. I mean the career ladder! I enjoyed reading your own test results and as someone who retrained in a completely unrelated field than my career 20 odd years ago… I do believe you can teach and old dog new tricks. I have worked in nutritional therapy for those 20 years and I have seen transformations in personality brought about physical changes such as weight loss, improved health which have led to increased self-esteem and also less stress. I also think as we get older our personalities go through a softening (generally speaking) and some of the drives are muted that are also physical in nature. I wonder if I did the same tests that I did in my 40s if I would get the same result today. I am still ambitious and a workaholic but who knows. I also think that as a writer who creates characters that your posts will be invaluable. I have included in my Blogger Daily this evening. thanks again. Sally

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  5. Very interesting. I would like to come back and read this more carefully. My interest was piqued because I thought it was impossible to change my way of eating (if that could be included in personality). In a process of shrinking myself through awareness and acceptance of a sugar addiction, I lost over 75 pounds and changed my mind about how I take care of my physical and mental health. I found out by taking a pause and considering the trophy (apostrophe) I could change the impossible to I’m Possible. Oh my words. We are wonderfully made.

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  6. I really enjoyed reading about your fluctuating scores Damon. In many ways they are what one might instinctively predict as someone gets older the edges get knocked off we get more secure in ourselves and perhaps less tolerant of others.. or even more!
    But isn’t that true. When a personality test looks predictive across dimensions people turn round and say … oh but that is so obvious… when of course it isn’t. Our instinctive perceptions of personality traits are very elastic… and contrary, which it is why it is good to do what you did and see if things change over time.
    It would be interesting to consider if there were some profound environmental changes in your life around the retests (I don’t want to know your personal life) but as you have got a lot of objectivity, it would be interesting for you to map them and give an indication of a reason for the change and if it causes you to go in an ‘expected’ direction -like a break-up makes your more introverted or a strong relationship does.
    Then it begs the question is the test predictive? -like Carl Popper’s argument about whether psychoanalysis is a science.. or to put it bluntly you can’t have it both ways Sigmund!
    I would like to read your views after another 10 years of testing. It is a fascinating study even on an informal level and surely a subject of interest to every single one of us. Thanks for thought provoking and enjoyable article.

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