Positive Psychology – The Secret to Optimal Well-being

For many years, Psychology, following in the footsteps of Medicine, was preoccupied with the alleviation of suffering. A worthy objective, but the treatments were focused on how to reduce depression or anxiety, not how to increase happiness. Does not feeling bad equate to the same thing as feeling good? If someone is no longer feeling [...]

7 Life Lessons That We Can Learn From Hollywood Movies

I was recently reading a book titled 'Writing Screenplays that Sell' by Michael Hauge and was fascinated to see how psychologically informed screenwriters need to be to create engaging stories with meaningful plots and entertaining characters. Although Hollywood sometimes gets bad press for promoting materialistic and unrealistic goals for the audience, I do believe that [...]

The Need to Belong

Historically Before the industrial revolution, humans lived in small groups that they were born into and had minimal interaction outside these groups for the duration of their lives. Because humans were not great at surviving in the wild, we used our frontal lobes, communication skills and opposable thumbs to work together to build villages and [...]

Dealing With Toxic People

What is a "toxic" person? Sometimes in life, we come across people who defy our natural belief systems about how people "should be". While we assume that most people follow the golden rule of "treat others the way that you would like to be treated", there are definitely some individuals who are not guided by [...]

What Are the Secrets to Long-term Happiness, Health and Wellbeing?

Recently I've begun taking an interest in a field called public health. The World Health Organisation has defined public health as: "The art and science of preventing disease, prolonging life and promoting health through the organized efforts of society" -- Acheson, 1988 As time has gone on, there have been some studies that have helped public [...]

Do You Love​ Your Loved Ones in the Ways They Want to be Loved?

Where do we go wrong? One of the saddest things I see time and time again in my work as a Clinical Psychologist is partners who both love each other and try their best to show this to each other, and yet neither of them feel loved and appreciated. The same thing also happens frequently [...]

The 10 Things You Need to Know About The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study

1. There are 10 categories of experience that are considered to have adverse consequences on the later development of children These include: Abuse: Emotional Physical Sexual Neglect: Emotional Physical Household Dysfunction: Domestic Violence Substance Abuse Mental Illness Parental Separation/Divorce Crime 2. It is possible to determine your own Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score The ACE [...]

Are You Asking the Right Questions In Your Search For a Therapist?

If you were searching the web as a consumer, looking for the best Psychologist, would you know what to look for?  If you said that you would look for someone experienced, it is a good guess, but years of experience don't seem to make too much of a difference when it comes to improving therapeutic [...]

Divorce: Common, Tough, and Sometimes Necessary

In July 2015 my divorce was officially finalised. It was a tough decision to end the marriage, and for this reason, I have yet to speak about it on my blog, but there have been a few events recently that have made me want to speak up and share my story. The first is that [...]

The Top 20 Movies of My Lifetime (10-1)

Looking at the American Film Institute's 100 Greatest American Films of All Time list that came out in 1998, the majority of films are super old. 'Citizen Kane' (1941) ranked at #1, 'Casablanca' (1942) ranked at #2, 'The Godfather' (1972) ranked at #3, 'Gone With the Wind' (1939) ranked at #4 and 'Lawrence of Arabia' [...]