Category: Countdowns

  • Must-Read Non-Fiction for Personal Growth: 100-91

    Must-Read Non-Fiction for Personal Growth: 100-91

    Ever since I first began working as a Clinical Psychologist, I regularly get asked a question. People often inquire whether there are any non-fiction or psychology books that I would recommend.

    Sometimes a book recommendation can go really well. The client is ready to make a certain change but feels stuck in some way. The book connects with them. It helps them make the changes they want in their lives.

    Other times, for many reasons, the book, its message, or its author, doesn’t connect well with the client. They won’t read it all, or it can be demotivating rather than inspiring or energising.

    Back in 2016, I began creating a summary of my top 40 psychology book recommendations. I am amazed at how often I have referred people to this list. It can really help to build upon the ideas and skills we have discussed in therapy.

    Nearly ten years later, I would love to share more recommendations of non-fiction books I have been reading. I haven’t agreed with everything written, but each one has affected me in some way.

    Like last time, I will only include books that I have read personally. I won’t include more than one title in this countdown from the same author. But I include some books that I have written about it other posts. To avoid personal bias in the rankings, I will rank them from lowest to highest from their Goodreads.com star rating.

    Here is part one of my countdown: books #100 to #91…

    100. Nerve: Adventures in the Science of Fear by Eva Holland

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.54/5

    Eva Holland combines memoir with cutting-edge neuroscience to explore fear from every angle. After her mother’s sudden death, Holland embarks on a journey. A near-fatal climbing accident then pushes her further to understand and conquer her fears. She faces her fear of heights through exposure exercises and trying experimental treatments, like Propranolol.

    What makes it special: Holland doesn’t just research fear; she lives it. Her vulnerable storytelling makes complex neuroscience accessible while offering real hope through treatments like EMDR and exposure therapy.

    Perfect for: Anyone struggling with anxiety, phobias, or trauma. Adventure enthusiasts and those processing grief may find that it resonates with them too.

    Key takeaway: By combining scientific understanding of fear’s mechanisms with personal courage, we can transform our relationship with fear. Various therapeutic approaches can aid this transformation from paralysis to empowerment. Rather than being ruled by our fears, we can learn to work with them more skillfully.

    99. The Devil You Knew: The myths around depression, and Why Your Best Days are Ahead of You by Prof. Ian Hickey

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.59/5

    Professor Ian Hickie, with his 35 years of clinical experience, takes on the myths surrounding depression. He challenges misconceptions about antidepressants, childhood trauma, and treatment options. He also offers guidance through the mental health care system.

    What makes it special: Hickie combines compassionate guidance with the latest scientific findings. The book offers hope without sugar-coating the reality of depression.

    Perfect for: People living with depression and their loved ones. Mental health professionals could also gain from checking it out. Essentially, anyone seeking clear, myth-busting information about depression and mental health.

    Key takeaway: Understand depression’s true nature. Recognise that recovery paths are highly individual. If you struggle with depression, it can feel like you’re stuck in a maze. However, it is possible to find a way out and reclaim a fulfilling life.

    98. The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50 by Jonathan Rauch

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.64/5

    The midlife crisis stereotype that we often see depicted in stories has some basis to it. However, this does not mean it is a personal failing or that we need to leave our marriage or buy a convertible.

    Rauch reveals the U-shaped happiness curve. The data shows that life satisfaction naturally dips in midlife before climbing again. This pattern appears across nearly all cultures. Happiness tends to be high when we are young and in our late teens and early 20s. It then starts to decline until it is at its lowest point between 45 and 49. It then starts to rise again until our highest average reported well-being at age 75.

    What makes it special: Midlife dissatisfaction is a normal transition that the average person goes through. Other people’s experiences show that your later years probably won’t feel as bad as you imagine. In fact, 75-year-olds are often happier than the rest of us.

    Perfect for: Anyone in their 40’s feeling stuck. It is also great for young people worried about getting older. I’d recommend it to anyone curious about how happiness changes over time.

    Key takeaway: if you’re experiencing unhappiness in midlife, you’re not broken or having a crisis. You’re experiencing a normal, biologically-driven process. This will naturally improve as you age. You will develop different priorities focused more on meaning, relationships, and gratitude than on achievement and competition.

    97. Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope by Mark Manson

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.68/5

    Manson’s follow-up to his mega-hit delivers more blunt wisdom about hope, meaning, and living well in a chaotic world. He explores why we feel anxious despite unprecedented comfort and how to find strength in accepting life’s limits.

    What makes it special: Dark humour meets philosophy in a book. It disrupts traditional self-help with raw honesty. The book also fosters intellectual curiosity.

    Perfect for: Fans of contrarian thinking, anyone facing existential anxiety, or those who appreciate humour with their philosophy.

    Key takeaway: The central message is that meaning and hope aren’t given to us by the world. We must actively construct them through our choices, values, and how we interpret our experiences.

    96. Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don’t Matter by Scott Adams

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.73/5

    The Dilbert creator applies his knowledge about the topic of persuasion to explain why emotional appeal often trumps facts. Using Trump’s rise as a case study, Adams breaks down the psychology of influence and communication.

    What makes it special: Whether you agree with the politics or not, Adams provides fascinating insights. He explains how persuasion truly operates in high-stakes situations.

    Perfect for: Marketers, salespeople, political junkies, and anyone curious about influence and communication strategies.

    Key takeaway: Persuasion is less about logical arguments and more about understanding human psychology, emotional triggers, and cognitive biases. Adams argues that mastering these techniques can help you become more influential. It also makes you more resistant to manipulation by others.

    95. The Marshmallow Test: Mastering Self-Control by Walter Mischel

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.73/5

    The scientist behind the famous marshmallow experiment reveals that self-control isn’t fixed—it’s a learnable skill. Mischel shows how delayed gratification affects everything from financial planning to relationships.

    What makes it special: It offers hope by proving willpower can be developed, plus practical “cooling strategies” for managing temptation.

    Perfect for: Parents, educators, therapists, and anyone wanting to improve their self-discipline and decision-making.

    Key takeaway: Self-control is not a fixed trait. It is a skill that can be learned and strengthened. This occurs through specific strategies and practice.

    94. I Hate You– Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality by Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.79/5

    This groundbreaking book brought Borderline Personality Disorder into mainstream awareness. It explains the intense emotional swings and relationship patterns that characterize Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) with compassion and clarity.

    What makes it special: It validates chaotic emotions while offering hope through modern treatments like Dialectical Behavior Therapy.

    Perfect for: Loved ones of someone with BPD, people recognising BPD traits in themselves, and mental health professionals.

    Key takeaway: People with BPD can develop more stable relationships. They can better regulate their emotions. They can be more mindful. They can also calm their distress. There may be ongoing challenges. However, people with BPD can enhance their quality of life with better understanding, effective treatment, and support. .

    93. iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy — and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood — and What That Means for the Rest of Us by Jean M. Twenge

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.79/5

    Twenge uses massive datasets to show how smartphones and social media have fundamentally changed the generation born after 1995. She reveals both the positives (more tolerant, less risky behavior) and negatives (rising anxiety and depression).

    What makes it special: It provides data-driven insights into a generational shift that affects millions of young people. Decades of research supports Twenge’s claims.

    Perfect for: Parents of teens, educators, therapists working with youth, and anyone curious about how technology shapes human behaviour.

    Key takeaway: The smartphone revolution has fundamentally altered adolescent development. It has created the first generation to mature entirely in a digital environment. There are profound consequences for their mental health, social development, and preparation for adult life.

    92. The Mindful Body: Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health by Ellen Langer

    Goodreads.com star rating = 3.80/5

    Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer argues that our beliefs and mindset significantly shape our physical health. This isn’t mystical thinking—it’s grounded research on how expectations influence everything from blood sugar to aging.

    What makes it special: Secular, scientific approach to mind-body health that challenges “diagnosis as destiny” thinking without making false promises.

    Perfect for: People with chronic illness, healthcare professionals, and anyone curious about the psychology of healing and growing older.

    Key takeaway: our health is not predetermined by genetics or age alone. It can be significantly influenced by how we think about our bodies and health. We can improve our physical well-being through mental shifts. This is possible by adopting mindful awareness. We should also question limiting beliefs about illness and old age.

    91. Don’t Trust Your Gut: Using Data to Get What You Really Want in Life by Seth Stevens-Davidowitz

    Goodsreads.com star rating = 3.80/5

    Stevens-Davidowitz uses data from Google searches, dating sites, and health trackers. He reveals that our instincts about happiness, success, and love are often wrong. The data tells a different story about what actually works.

    What makes it special: Clever insights backed by massive datasets, delivered with humour and humility. It’s the antidote to feel-good self-help myths.

    Perfect for: Data enthusiasts, self-help sceptics, and anyone making big life decisions who wants evidence over gut feelings.

    Key takeaway: Our intuitions about what will make us happy, successful, and fulfilled are often wrong. By looking at large-scale data patterns, we can make better decisions about relationships, careers, and parenting. This approach could enhance overall life satisfaction more than relying on gut feelings or conventional wisdom.

    Would you be interested in checking out any of these books? Stay tuned for the rest of the countdown. Another 10 books in the countdown will be released each week.

    Dr Damon Ashworth

    Clinical Psychologist

  • Where Are the Happiest Cities in the World?

    Where Are the Happiest Cities in the World?

    For the first time, the 2020 World Happiness Report ranked 186 cities worldwide in terms of their level of subjective well-being. Moreover, by looking at the Gallup World Poll data across more than 160 countries and 99% of the world’s population, we can now tell which city’s residents evaluated their current life the highest. Well, at least how they evaluated their life satisfaction before the COVID-19 pandemic hit.

    If you want to determine your life satisfaction, you could also ask yourself: “imagine yourself on a ladder with steps numbered from 0 at the bottom to 10 at the top. Zero represents the worst possible life, and ten is the best possible life. Which step would you put yourself on based on your life currently?”

    Here are the top 20 cities, based on their inhabitants’ responses to the above question:

    1. Helsinki, Finland = 7.828 average
    2. Aarhus, Denmark = 7.625 average
    3. Wellington, New Zealand = 7.553 average
    4. Zurich, Switzerland = 7.541 average
    5. Copenhagen, Denmark = 7.530 average
    6. Bergen, Norway = 7.527 average
    7. Olso, Norway = 7.464 average
    8. Tel Aviv, Israel = 7.461 average
    9. Stockholm, Sweden = 7.373 average
    10. Brisbane, Australia = 7.337 average
    11. San Jose, Costa Rica = 7.321 average
    12. Reykjavik, Iceland = 7.317 average
    13. Toronto, Canada = 7.298 average
    14. Melbourne, Australia = 7.296 average
    15. Perth, Australia = 7.253 average
    16. Auckland, New Zealand = 7.232 average
    17. Christchurch, New Zealand = 7.191 average
    18. Washington, USA = 7.185 average
    19. Dallas, USA = 7.155 average
    20. Sydney, Australia = 7.133 average

    Scandinavian cities dominate, with more than half of the top ten cities worldwide. Australia’s happiest city is Brisbane, but three other Australian cities make the top 20, with Melbourne beating Sydney (yes!). NZ also fares pretty well, with Wellington the happiest city outside of Finland and Denmark and Auckland and Christchurch in the top 20. The happiest city in the US is Washington DC, surprisingly at #18, with Dallas just behind it in 19th.

    Which Cities Are Improving their Happiness Levels the Most?

    Here are the top ten cities with the biggest improvement in life satisfaction from 2005 to 2018:

    1. Abidjan, Ivory Coast = 0.981 average increase in subjective well-being
    2. Dushanbe, Tajikstan = 0.950 average improvement
    3. Vilnius, Lithuania = 0.939 improvement
    4. Almaty, Kazakstan = 0.922 improvement
    5. Cotonou, Benin = 0.918 improvement
    6. Sofia, Bulgaria = 0.899 improvement
    7. Dakar, Senegal = 0.864 improvement
    8. Conakry, Guinea = 0.833 improvement
    9. Niamey, Niger = 0.812 improvement
    10. Brazzaville, Republic of the Congo = 0.787 improvement

    Some of the most significant subjective well-being improvements come from Africa, with six out of the top 10 cities. Central Asia and Eastern Europe are the other two main areas with the most significant jumps in subjective well-being in the 21st Century.

    Which Cities Feel the Most Hopeful About the Future?

    Below are the top ten most optimistic cities and how they imagine their subjective well-being will be in the future:

    1. Tashkent, Uzbekistan = 8.390 average future subjective well-being
    2. San Miguelito, Panama = 8.372 average
    3. San Jose, Costa Rica = 8.347 average
    4. Accra, Ghana = 8.297 average
    5. Panama City, Panama = 8.286 average
    6. Aarhus, Denmark = 8.286 average
    7. Copenhagen, Denmark = 8.208 average
    8. Helsinki, Finland = 8.206 average
    9. Atlanta, USA = 8.204 average
    10. Freetown, Sierra Leone = 8.203 average

    Central America seems to be very optimistic about its future, especially the two countries of Panama and Costa Rica. Atlanta is the only USA city to crack the top ten in any category in this article, and Scandinavia remains hopeful about improving things as we advance, especially Denmark and Finland. Tashkent in Uzbekistan comes out of nowhere to win this category, although Central Asia has improved its subjective well-being over the last 15 years. Finally, Ghana and Sierra Leone expect that things will continue to improve for them, with greater levels of happiness predicted in their cities than anywhere in Australia or Western Europe in the future.

    Which Cities Experience the Most Positive Emotions?

    Here are the top ten cities in the world with the highest levels of positive affect:

    1. Asuncion, Paraguay = .892/1
    2. Mogadishu, Somalia = .877/1
    3. Vientiane, Laos = .873/1
    4. San Pedro Sula, Honduras = .867/1
    5. Quito, Ecuador = .862/1
    6. San Jose, Costa Rica = .860/1
    7. Cork, Ireland = .857/1
    8. Reykjavik, Iceland = .855/1
    9. Santiago, Chile = .853/1
    10. Montevideo, Uruguay = .850/1

    These rankings are from people’s responses to the positive and negative affect scale (PANAS). The 10-item positive affect scale measures how much people describe feeling active, alert, attentive, determined, enthusiastic, excited, inspired, interested, proud and strong on a 5-point scale from 1 = not at all to 5 = very much. South American cities seem to rate relatively high on this scale, with Asuncion in Paraguay winning by quite a bit, Quito in Ecuador landing in the top 5, and Santiago in Chile and Montevideo in Uruguay rounding out the top 10. Central America has two cities in the top 6, with Somalia having the only city from Africa, Laos the only city from Asia, and Ireland and Iceland representing Europe.

    Which Cities Report the Fewest Negative Emotions?

    The top ten cities with the lowest levels of negative affect:

    1. Taipei, Taiwan = .110/1
    2. Prishtine, Kosovo = 0.132/1
    3. Shanghai, China = 0.140/1
    4. Talinn, Estonia = 0.144/1
    5. Singapore = 0.144/1
    6. Ashgabat, Turkmenistan = 0.144/1
    7. Baku, Azerbaijan = 0.145/1
    8. Wellington, New Zealand = 0.152/1
    9. Almaty, Kazakhstan = 0.158/1
    10. Moscow, Russia = 0.159/1

    These rankings are also from people’s responses to the PANAS. The 10-item negative affect scale assesses how much people report feeling afraid, ashamed, distressed, guilty, hostile, irritable, jittery, nervous, scared and upset on a 5-point scale from 1 = not at all to 5 = very much. Unlike many other findings, Asia and Eastern Europe come out on top, with no sign of African or North, Central or South American countries in the top 10. Taiwan, China and Singapore all rank in the top 5, indicating low levels of negatively reported emotions in this region. Unfortunately, low negative affectivity doesn’t result in super high levels of reported happiness or life satisfaction. The only city to rank in the top 10 in any other section is Wellington, New Zealand.

    Conclusion

    If you want to go where people are most satisfied with their life, Finland is the place to be, as it has been rated the happiest country in the world for three years now. Of course, Helsinki also takes the crown as the city with the highest life satisfaction at present, but other cities in Scandinavia aren’t too far behind.

    When you explore the data a little further, it gets a bit more complicated as to where the happiest places in the world are. No Australian city ranks in the top 10 globally for the recent improvement in life satisfaction, optimism about life satisfaction in the future, or levels of positive or negative affectivity. Only one US city (Atlanta for optimism about the future) makes the top ten for any of these categories, and UK countries are nowhere near the top.

    Conversely, there are many cities in Africa and Central Asia where well-being has improved quickly over the last 15 years. Their citizens remain excited about the potential for what is yet to come. None more so than Tashkent in Uzbekistan. Central America also has several cities that feel happy and hopeful about their future, especially Panama, Costa Rica and Honduras.

    Based on the findings, South America has the most cities that report a lot of positive emotions in the present, and Asia and Eastern Europe win out on minimal negative emotions. Personally, living somewhere with minimally reported negative emotions and a high level of life satisfaction sounds pretty good to me.

  • My Top 20 Inspirational Quotes

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    20. “A Year From Now You Will Wish You Had Started Today.” — Karen Lamb

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    19. “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” — Maria Robinson

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    18. “Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.” — Benjamin Franklin

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    17. “Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. ‘To know all is to forgive all.’” Dale Carnegie

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    16. “Rules for Happiness: Something to do, Someone to love, Something to hope for.” — Immanuel Kant

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    15. “I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” — Jimmy Dean

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    14. “Though philosophers have traditionally been concerned with the pursuit of happiness, far greater wisdom would seem to lie in pursuing ways to be properly and productively unhappy. The stubborn recurrence of misery means that the development of a workable approach to it must surely outstrip the value of any utopian quest for happiness” — Alain de Botton

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    13. “In a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.” — Warren Buffett

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    12. “Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” — Albert Einstein

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    11. “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” — Helen Keller

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    10. “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” — Elbert Hubbard

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    9. “Find A Group Of People Who Challenge And Inspire You, Spend A Lot Of Time With Them, And It Will Change Your Life.” — Amy Poehler

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    8. “It Is Not The Strongest Of The Species That Survive, Nor The Most Intelligent, But The One Most Responsive To Change.” — Charles Darwin

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    7. “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” — Aesop

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    6. “The Ultimate Measure Of A Man Is Not Where He Stands In Moments Of Comfort And Convenience, But Where He Stands At Times Of Challenge And Controversy.” — Martin Luther King, Jr.

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    5. “Never Believe That A Few Caring People Can’t Change The World. For, Indeed, That’s All Who Ever Have.” — Margaret Mead

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    4. “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” — Michael Jordan

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    3. “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are!” — John Wooden

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    2. “Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.” — Rainer Maria Rilke

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    1. “Two roads diverged in a wood … I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference.” — Robert Frost

  • Which Countries Are Becoming Happier Around the World?

    Which Countries Are Becoming Happier Around the World?

    One of the least surprising findings by now for me when looking through the latest World Happiness Report (2024) is how high the life satisfaction scores tend to be in the Nordic countries. Norway is the 7th happiest country in the latest findings assessing life satisfaction from 2021 to 2023. Sweden is 4th, Iceland is 3rd, Denmark is 2nd and Finland is still on top in 1st.

    By asking people all across the world the Cantril scale, it can be possible to compare how satisfied people are with their life in comparison to what they would consider the best life for themselves. The question is as follows:

    Imagine a ladder where the highest rung is a 10 and represents the best possible life for you, and the lowest rung is a 1 and represents the worst possible life for you. Where would you put your current life satisfaction?

    Since the first World Happiness Report in 2006, there have been some countries that have much lower life satisfaction scores, some that have barely changed, and others that have higher life satisfaction scores on average.

    Seven countries now have a life satisfaction score that is more than one rung lower on the ladder in 2021-2023 than it was in 2006-2010. These are:

    1. Botswana = -1.20 rungs
    2. Zambia = -1.20
    3. Malawi = -1.20
    4. Venezuela = -1.32
    5. Jordan = -1.52
    6. Lebanon = -2.32
    7. Afghanistan = -2.60

    Seventeen countries have a life satisfaction score that is one rung higher or more on the ladder in 2021-2023 than it was in 2006-2010. The top 10 are:

    1. Serbia = +1.85 rungs higher
    2. Bulgaria = +1.57
    3. Latvia = +1.47
    4. Congo (Brazzaville) = +1.40
    5. Romania = +1.31
    6. China = +1.29
    7. Georgia = +1.29
    8. Lithuania = +1.23
    9. Phillipines = +1.22
    10. Togo = +1.21

    Out of the 134 countries that have had their life satisfaction tracked since 2006, 79 countries (58.96%) have improved their average score, and 55 countries (41.04%) now have a lower score in 2021-2023 than what they used to in 2006-2010. So even though life satisfaction scores have lowered in the USA, UK, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, and parts of Western Europe, there are still more countries worldwide that believe their lives have been getting better for them and not worse over the last 18 years.

    When we look at youth below 30, both the USA and Canada say that their life satisfaction has dropped by more than a full rung on the ladder in 2021-2023 in comparison to what it was in 2006-2010. Canada has seen the fifth largest drop in life satisfaction for people below 30, and the USA has seen the seventh largest drop.

    The youth in Eastern Europe are much more hopeful, with six out of the top seven largest improvements in reported life satisfaction occurring in Serbia, Bulgaria, Lithuania, Georgia, North Macedonia and Latvia, all improving by between 1.39 and 2.42 rungs on the ladder between 2006-2010 and 2021-2023.

    Congo and Togo saw the largest improvements in life satisfaction for people under 30 in Africa and were the third and the eighth biggest improvers worldwide. Armenia and Mongolia saw the largest improvements in life satisfaction for people under 30 in Asia and saw the 9th and 11th biggest jump for youth worldwide.

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    What Factors Might Be Important for Overall Happiness?

    1. How much money the average person makes in the country

    Top five:

    1. Luxembourg = $115,041
    2. Ireland = $111,256
    3. Singapore = $107,891
    4. United Arab Emirates = $73,318
    5. Switzerland = $70,670

    2. How much social support people have

    Top five:

    1. Iceland
    2. Finland
    3. Slovakia
    4. Hungary
    5. Estonia

    3. Having a healthy life expectancy

    Top five:

    1. Japan
    2. Singapore
    3. South Korea
    4. Switzerland
    5. Israel

    4. Having the freedom to make life choices

    Top five:

    1. Cambodia
    2. Finland
    3. Vietnam
    4. Sweden
    5. Norway

    5. How generous people are

    Top five:

    1. Indonesia = 85.7% donated to charity in the last month
    2. Myanmar = 77.9%
    3. Malta = 67.8%
    4. United Kingdom = 67.7%
    5. Iceland = 67.5%

    6. The less corrupt people perceive society to be

    Top five:

    1. Singapore
    2. Denmark
    3. Finland
    4. Sweden
    5. Switzerland
    6. Norway

    7. The more positive affect people experience

    Top five:

    1. Guatemala
    2. Panama
    3. El Salvador
    4. Paraguay
    5. Senegal

    8. The less negative affect people experience

    Top five:

    1. Taiwan
    2. Kazakhstan
    3. Kosovo
    4. Mauritius
    5. Vietnam
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    Conclusion

    Depending on which factors are most important to you, it may be that the best country for you to live in is different from what may be best for the average person. Interestingly, when people move to a new country, they are impacted by how things are in the country that they move to more than they realise.

    Just because some things are getting more challenging, especially in some parts of the world, and especially for some people, it doesn’t mean that everything is getting worse for everyone. If anything, things have been improving for more people over the last 18 years worldwide than worsening.

    In Nordic countries, life satisfaction continues to be high even though it may not be improving overall. And in other countries, especially several in Eastern Europe, things are getting a lot better than what they used to be and there is hope that things will continue to improve going forward.

    I hope that you find some of these findings as fascinating as I do.

    Dr Damon Ashworth

    Clinical Psychologist

  • 10 Bits of Advice I’d Give My 10-Year-Old Self

    10 Bits of Advice I’d Give My 10-Year-Old Self

    When I was ten, I was in grade four at primary school. I was one of the tallest kids in the class, skinny and uncoordinated.

    I loved sport and computer games. I enjoyed living where I did in the northeast suburbs of Melbourne and had some good friends who I saw regularly.

    I was not too fond of school, talking on the phone, doing chores around the house, and my little sister. I also tried to regularly take sick days from school with a sore tummy that I now know was anxiety. I’d had a horrible teacher the year before who didn’t seem to like me, and I had no idea how to cope.

    Here are ten thoughts that I would say to myself if I could go back in time and have a chat with my ten-year-old self:

    1. Before you do anything else, breathe

    I know you worry a lot and stress yourself out by overthinking, but you don’t have to have all the answers yet, or maybe ever. So before you do something you may regret, stop. Take ten slow and deep breaths, and try to breathe out all the air with each breath. Then see how you feel and what you can do.

    2. Focus on one thing at a time

    I know that you feel you have too many things to do and not enough time. But multitasking is a myth and will stress you out more. Instead, determine whatever is most important to you at any given moment, and then try to put all of your intention and effort into that until it is complete or you need to take a break.

    3. Don’t always believe what your thoughts tell you

    I know that you personalise things and catastrophise or imagine the worst. Some things are your fault, but many things are not. You are not “bad” or “evil”, but you can be mean if you want to be. You’re also probably not going to die over the homework assignment that you forgot to save on your computer. Start meditating 10 minutes a day before you go to bed, and you will eventually understand your thoughts and manage your emotions much better.

    4. Write things down

    I know you feel that your mum and dad don’t always understand you, but you can learn to understand yourself through reflection. First, write down three things that you are grateful for every day. Then, make a plan to address any concerns or worries before they all build up and become overwhelming for you. If you spend 5–10 minutes writing in a journal every day, you won’t regret it. Also, learn how to use a calendar or diary as soon as possible. Good organisational habits now will make life much easier for you later on.

    5. Don’t forget to have fun

    I know that you are super competitive and hate to lose, but basketball, swimming, tennis, baseball or any other sport is for fun. Practice isn’t always fun as that’s focused on helping you get better, but if you don’t enjoy competing or playing the games, find another sport that you think you will enjoy, and put more time into that. You will not become a professional athlete who gets paid, which is okay. Sport is a very healthy hobby to have, and if you can enjoy it, it’s even better.

    6. It’s okay to make mistakes, get rejected or fail

    I know that you struggle not being very good at something. Even though it doesn’t feel that good to be a novice or a beginner, the only way to become good at something is to be okay at sucking at it. If you persist through the sucking part, you will become a lot better over time, not suck so much, and eventually enjoy it. So keep playing and practising guitar and trombone, drawing and being creative, and paying attention in Italian class. It’s pretty cool to make art and speak multiple languages, and easier to learn when you are still young. Also, take French at high school, not Indonesian.

    7. Keep reading and learning outside of school

    I know you don’t like school much at the moment, but don’t just let your teachers dictate what you should learn. If something interests you, explore it further. If you have questions that you want to answer, see if you can find the answers in books or the internet once it gets faster. Many wise people have clarified their thoughts and written them down for you. Their words will help you a lot as you get older, and fostering curiosity and a love of learning at your age is fantastic. If mum wants to teach you how to cook, bake, clean, iron, sew, listen to her, watch what she does, try it and get feedback until you know what you are doing. The same goes with dad trying to teach you about sport, cars, gardening and making things with tools. You won’t regret having these skills once you move out on your own.

    8. Make time for friends and family

    I know that playing video games is fun, but technology shouldn’t replace face-to-face contact with other people. Be interested in people more than you are in things. You will learn a lot from them, and it will make you happier if you are yourself and they appreciate you for it. Your family won’t always be around as much as they are now, so try to enjoy the time you have with them even though they can all be annoying at times. And be nice to your sister. It’s not her fault that she is cuter and more extroverted than you. She’ll turn out to be a pretty cool person and a good friend to you one day.

    9. Invest in index funds

    I know that it is fun to spend money if you have it, but saving and investing doesn’t have to take much time and effort and is worth it. No matter how much money you earn, put 10% aside and stick it into an index fund. The power of compounding interest means that you will be setting yourself up for your financial future. You will have more freedom to do what you want to do when you are older without worrying about money as much. You probably won’t feel like you are sacrificing much, but the long-term benefit will be great.

    10. Try to be the best you that you can be

    You often compare yourself to others and don’t feel like you are as good or lovable as them. The truth is you will never be as good as your brother at being your brother, so don’t even try. Rather than comparing yourself to who others are today, try to compare yourself to who you were yesterday. As long as you strive to be a better person each day, that is all you can do. Be proud of yourself for who you are and for the effort you put in. Although you don’t see it all the time, know that mum and dad are proud of you and love you too. Unfortunately, they don’t always show it the way you want them to, but they do care. Your life will be pretty cool in the future, and it doesn’t keep getting harder, so try not to worry about the future too much. Instead, focus on what is healthy and in your control each day. The future will take care of itself.

    Dr Damon Ashworth

    Clinical Psychologist

  • 25 Ideas That Could Change Your Life

    25 Ideas That Could Change Your Life

    1. KAIZEN

    A Japanese term meaning “improvement”.

    I think of Kaizen as ‘continuous improvement’ or “continual change for the better, one small step at a time”, as this is how I first heard of the term.

    Many successful Japanese manufacturing companies in automobiles and technology have used this exact approach to obtain massive success over time.

    What could you achieve if you just focused on taking one small step in the right direction today and then another one every day after that?

    2. BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE…

    Gandhi did not say, “Be the change you want to see in the world,” even though people attribute this quote to him. What he said was this:

    “We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.”

    Mahatma Gandhi

    3. BE HERE NOW

    If we are fully present in the moment and aware of what is going on both internally and externally, we choose what we decide to do.

    If you do not feel present, meditate, ground yourself, get outside, move and connect with your five senses in the moment and the world around you.

    “Awareness is all about restoring your freedom to choose what you want instead of what your past imposes on you.”

    Deepak Chopra

    4. CHOICES DEFINE YOUR LEGACY

    It is a lengthy process of choices becoming actions, actions becoming habits, and your habits informing your character and ultimate legacy. A Mr Wiseman first said a quote like this in 1856. It tells us that whatever we sow, we must later reap.

    Therefore, it is essential to engage in positive actions before what we do becomes habitual. Gambling, smoking and binge drinking all start as choices. But the more engrained something is, the harder it is to stop. If we choose to engage in healthy activities enough, they too can become automatic for us.

    “Neurons that fire together, wire together.”

    Donald Hebb

    5. LIFE WASN’T MEANT TO BE EASY

    We often don’t appreciate things that fall into our lap, and we tend to value things much more when we put in some hard work to get them. Even people who build their own IKEA furniture think these items are worth more than those who do not.

    I know I’d be more proud of the $3 million I built up through hard work than the equivalent amount of money won through a lottery. How about you?

    Anything in life worth having is worth working for.

    Andrew Carnegie

    6. THE MAGIC HAPPENS OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE

    Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.

    Brian Tracy

    So many people want a comfortable life and therefore stick to what feels safe. But, unfortunately, if you are not willing to feel uncomfortable, your life will only get smaller over time.

    When you first step out of your comfort zone, it will be scary; you will feel awkward and even feel unsafe. But is it really, or does it just feel threatening because it is new? If at this moment, you run back to what you are used to, you won’t grow. However, if you persist through the initial pain, it will only get more comfortable in time, and your comfort zone will continue to expand and grow.

    7. RETHINK WHAT IT MEANS TO BE FREE

    What does freedom mean to you?

    You are doing whatever your parents, school, bosses, or government wants you to do? UMM NO. That is called compliance.

    You are rebelling against everything and doing the exact opposite of what your parents, school, bosses and government tell you to do? STILL NO. That is called counterpliance. Your actions are still being defined by what others tell you to do. Plus, it doesn’t always work out too well for you.

    You are just living for the moment and indulging in all of your passions and pleasures whenever you want because YOLO, right? NOPE. Hedonism may feel great for a night but not for a lifetime. It can also have nasty side effects if you aren’t careful, including weight gain, disease, debt, dissatisfaction, and even death.

    True freedom must come from making the choice that is likely to be the best for you in the long term, even if it denies you that last alcoholic drink or dessert or the fun that happens after 2 am. You might want the added snooze time in the mornings, but If you can’t get yourself to do things that are difficult or painful in the short term but beneficial in the long run, you can never honestly be free in the future. As a former NAVY SEAL famously said:

    Discipline equals freedom.

    Jocko Willink

    8. GETTING STARTED IS ALWAYS THE HARDEST PART

    The secret of getting ahead is getting started

    Mark Twain

    In a book that I once read (the Willpower Instinct, I think), I came across a 10-minute rule that I found surprisingly helpful. If you are not sure if you are up for doing something, give it a go for 10 minutes, and if after 10 minutes you still don’t feel up to it, stop. I tried it a few times by going to the gym, and usually, once I get there and get into it, I’m fine, but my brain often tries to tell me that I am too tired before I go.

    The 10-minute strategy seems to work because it is much easier to get our brains to do something for 10 minutes than for a considerable chunk of time. It is because it requires much less energy when we are forecasting our capacity to do the task. In addition, human brains are cognitive misers, which means they are always trying to “help” by conserving energy. So if you want to get started or you feel tired, think small.

    9. THE FIRST DRAFT OF ANYTHING IS TRASH

    Don’t get discouraged because there’s a lot of mechanical work to writing. There is, and you can’t get out of it. I rewrote the first part of A Farewell to Arms at least fifty times. You’ve got to work it over. The first draft of anything is shit. When you first start to write you get all the kick and the reader gets none, but after you learn to work it’s your object to convey everything to the reader so that he remembers it not as a story he had read but something that happened to himself.

    Ernest Hemingway

    This quote is fantastic because people often think they need to produce a masterpiece the first time they try or do something. However, if one of the most famous authors of all time made horrible first drafts, why should we expect more on ours? The solution is to focus on the process, not the outcome, and produce a draft before editing, reviewing, or criticising what you have done.

    10. DON’T PUT THINGS OFF UNTIL LATER

    If something takes less than 2 minutes to do, don’t write it down or add it to your to do list — do it now.

    David Allen, Getting Things Done

    Most people have so much stuff to do at any time that it is challenging to ever get their to-do list down to zero. It causes anxiety and stress for many people. However, the key is to have an excellent system to manage everything that comes in so that you don’t have to keep worrying and thinking about everything you need to do. Getting things done (GTD) is one such system. And the two-minute rule from GTD says that small tasks should never go on your to-do list if you can get them done now. This rule alone means that my email inbox rarely has any unopened or unreplied emails.

    11. BE YOURSELF; EVERYONE ELSE IS TAKEN

    Some believe that Oscar Wilde first said this, but the fascinating quote investigator website said they could not find it in any of his writings. However, Keith Craft noted something similar in announcing that we all have a unique fingerprint, and we can, therefore, “leave a unique imprint that no one else can leave.”

    To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

    Ralph Waldo Emerson

    12. WE REGRET THE THINGS WE DON’T DO MORE THAN THE THINGS WE DO

    We tend to think about what we may lose if we take a risk when deciding the future. However, when reflecting on the past, we regret what we missed by not taking a chance. The question then becomes, do we:

    1. Play it safe, and not put ourselves out there because people may judge or criticise us for giving something a go and not succeeding? Or
    2. Criticise others for being brave enough to try something? Or
    3. Throw caution to the wind and give it our best shot, knowing that we will learn and grow more from mistakes and setbacks than we ever would have by sitting back and criticising others?

    It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

    Theodore Roosevelt

    13. FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY!

    Susan Jeffers was my hero back when I read her top-selling self-help book. I couldn’t believe that I didn’t have to get rid of my fear before I tried to act courageously.

    The Confidence Gap by Russ Harris then further highlighted to me that the actions tend to come before the feeling of confidence, not the other way around.

    Fear was designed to keep us safe as a hunter-gatherer but holds us back more in modern-day life than it helps us sometimes. So instead, we need to assess the actual level of risk whenever we feel fear and go for it if the situation feels scary but is pretty safe. It could be horror movies, roller coaster rides, plane flights, or public speaking.

    The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

    Franklin Delano Roosevelt, inaugural address, 1932

    14. WYSIATI

    What you see is all there is.

    Daniel Kahneman

    How you are thinking and feeling in the moment is very much influenced by how you are thinking and feeling. If you feel on top of the world, you are likely to be feeling happy, thinking positively about yourself, others, the world and your future. Anything may feel possible. Then the next week, you have a setback or get sick, and you start to feel depressed and hopeless and think negatively about yourself, others, the world and your future. Of course, both can’t be true if they are only a week apart. It’s therefore essential to understand the power of WYSIATI.

    Don’t think too big picture if you feel flat and down, and try not to do your weekly shop when you’re too hungry. The choices you’ll make once you’ve picked up a bit and have eaten something are likely to be very different.

    15. MEMENTO MORI

    Remember that you have to die.

    Latin phrase

    In many cultures worldwide and throughout history, acknowledging our mortality through prayer, meditation, reflection, ceremony, or celebration is more common than in atheistic or modern-day Western life.

    The phrase memento mori helped people consider the transient nature of earthly life, our goods and our pursuits and enabled them to become humble and clarify what was important to them.

    16. THINGS FADE; ALTERNATIVES EXCLUDE

    Two things that are inevitable in life are:

    1. no matter what we do, time passes and things erode over time (also known as the second law of thermodynamics), and

    2. if we go down one path, we cannot go down another track simultaneously.

    Decisions are difficult for many reasons, some reaching down into the very socket of our being. John Gardner, in his novel Grendel, tells of a wise man who sums up his meditations on life’s mysteries in two simple but terrible postulates: “Things fade: alternatives exclude.” […] Decision invariably involves renunciation: for every yes there must be a no, each decision eliminating or killing other options (the root of the word decide means “slay,” as in homicide or suicide).

    Irvin Yalom (1991). Love’s executioner. p. 10. Penguin Books.

    17. PARKINSON’S LAW

    Have you ever wondered how you get way more work done on some days when you are super busy? Then on quiet days, you don’t have much work to do but struggle to get it all done. The reason for this is Parkinson’s law:

    Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.

    The Stock–Sanford corollary to Parkinson’s rule is better, in my opinion, and it is something I used a lot when studying at uni:

    If you wait until the last minute, it only takes a minute to do.

    If productivity is what you are going for, give yourself a closer deadline and someone to hold you accountable if you don’t meet it, and voila, productivity and efficiency improve!

    18. THE IMPORTANCE OF MEANING AND PURPOSE

    He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.

    Friedrich Nietzsche

    Nietzsche was a nihilist, which meant that he didn’t think the world had any meaning in it. Irvin Yalom said that even if the world is meaningless overall, it is still essential for us to find personally meaningful things individually or as a group. Viktor Frankl showed that in the concentration camps in WWII, those with some higher purpose beyond the camps were the ones who could manage to survive the horrible atrocities they faced every day.

    What’s personally meaningful to you? Where could you find purpose?

    19. DON’T LISTEN TO THE DOUBTERS

    Impossibility is not a fact — it’s an opinion.

    Muhammed Ali

    Think of anyone who has done something groundbreaking or is still trying to do something pioneering today — Henry Ford, Walt Disney, Steve Jobs, Barack Obama, Richard Branson, Elon Musk, Bill Gates. I wonder how many people told them to give up, grow up, stop being deluded, or think realistically? I’d say most of them.

    Just because someone hasn’t done something doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t do it. Otherwise, we wouldn’t have had the massive amount of progression that we have had over the past 200 years.

    20. CLARIFY YOUR VALUES AND MAKE DECISIONS BASED ON THESE

    (Some people spend) their lives doing work they detest to make money they don’t want to buy things they don’t need in order to impress people they dislike.

    Emile Gauvreau

    Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that your life has to be a certain way just because everyone else is doing something a certain way and telling you that you should too.

    By clarifying your values first and building your hierarchy, you can see if what you are currently doing is consistent with what is essential. If not, what changes could you make that you’d be willing to make to help you start heading in the right direction? The earlier you make these changes, or at least concrete plans to make them, the higher chance you will be happy with the path you are on.

    21. RELATIONSHIP WARMTH IS THE NUMBER ONE PREDICTOR OF LONG-TERM HEALTH AND HAPPINESS

    Love people, use things. The opposite never works.

    Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus, The Minimalists

    The minimalist movement has picked up in the last 20 years in response to most of us in the Western world having way too much stuff and realising that it doesn’t make us any happier. If anything, it causes us more stress. Clothing used to be a scarce and valuable thing. Now wardrobes and houses are overflowing, and storage facilities are popping up everywhere to help clear some space.

    What if we just bought fewer things and focused more on what matters: our connections with the important people in our lives. Robert Waldinger, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, found that in the end, close relationships are more critical to our health and happiness than anything else.

    22. OCCAM’S RAZOR

    Given several possible explanations about something, the simplest one is probably right.

    Is the dog above trying to read, or is it merely sniffing the book?

    Occam’s razor is why conspiracy theories are never likely to be true. Think about the moon landing, or 9/11, or the Illuminati, flat earth theories, or any other conspiracy out there. For the conspiracy plot to be accurate, so many added levels are needed. Even people keeping the scheme a secret for years without anyone turning themselves in or trying to make money out of it is unlikely. So it’s much simpler and more likely that there is no conspiracy.

    You can also apply Occam’s razor to losing weight, sleeping well, getting stronger, or improving any skill. Some people have complicated theories, but usually, the answer lies in relatively simple explanations. Doing too much or complicating things beyond what is necessary often backfires.

    Reduce things back to the bare essentials, and see what happens.

    23. LAW OF DIMINISHING RETURNS

    The law of diminishing returns says that each time we do something to receive a benefit, the benefit will be less and less.

    Let’s say you order this massive stack of pancakes in the picture above. The first pancake may taste amazing, and the pleasure received is a 9 out of 10. After that, each bite is likely to be slightly less enjoyable than the bite before. Finally, if you somehow managed to get through the whole stack, the last taste might only be a 1 out of 10 on the pleasure scale.

    However, a month later, your next pancake might reach 9 out of 10 on the pleasure scale again.

    The solution is to wait for long enough between doing the same thing twice so that you enjoy it just as much the next time.

    Variety is the very spice of life, that gives it all its flavour.

    William Cowper

    24. BE KIND

    If you’re kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.

    Mother Teresa

    If you know why you are doing something, try not to worry about what others think. People who do not understand why you are doing what you are doing will see it from their point of view.

    If they could only do what you are doing by getting something in return, they will assume you have the same intention. But being kind is a reward within itself. If you can give just for the sake of it, do it. You can thank me later.

    25. DESIGN YOUR OWN LIFE

    When you grow up you tend to get told the world is the way it is and (you should) just live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family, have fun, save a little money. That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact: Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you and you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again”.

    Steve Jobs

    As far as I see the world, we only have one life to live. We can spend it doing what others expect of us, or we can spend it doing what is suitable for us. We can blame everyone else for how things turn out, or we can go our own way.

    Regardless of what you decide, time passes, and eventually, you will either feel that you made the most of what you had or accumulate regrets. I try to live my life in a way where I learn from my past mistakes, and make choices that I hopefully won’t regret in the future. What about you?

    Dr Damon Ashworth

    Clinical Psychologist

  • The Importance of Seeing Fully Qualified Professionals

    The Importance of Seeing Fully Qualified Professionals

    Please consider the following scenario:

    You require open-heart surgery to fix something that could otherwise severely impact your quality of life or kill you prematurely.

    I’m guessing that you would have a pretty similar hierarchy to most people of who you would try to book for the surgery:

    1. The best heart surgeon in the world
    2. The best heart surgeon in your area/state/country
    3. A fully qualified heart surgeon with lots of experience doing the procedure you need
    4. A registered heart surgeon with some experience doing the operation you need
    5. A fully qualified surgeon with lots of successful heart operations
    6. A fully trained surgeon with some successful heart operations
    7. A supervised heart surgeon intern with some successful heart operations
    8. A fully qualified surgeon who has performed successful surgeries
    9. A registered medical doctor (such as your General Practitioner) with some surgical experience
    10. A fully qualified nurse with some surgical experience

    Notice that everyone else who is unqualified to perform surgeries is not on the list, regardless of how highly they think of themselves or how much they care about hearts or surgery. Suppose an unqualified person has some experience completing surgeries or comes highly recommended by someone. Even in that case, there is still no way I would risk myself or someone that I love going under the knife with them.

    man looking at a rock formation

    Now let’s compare this to if you have a mental health issue and want additional support:

    Imagine that you are a top athlete and want to improve the mental side of your game.

    What would your hierarchy look like for who you’d see to help improve your psychological health and overall performance?

    For me, it would look like this:

    1. The best Sports Psychologist in the world
    2. One of the best Sports Psychologists in your area/state/country
    3. A fully qualified Sports Psychologist
    4. A recommended and fully qualified Psychiatrist with some experience successfully helping top athletes
    5. A recommended and fully qualified Psychologist with some experience successfully helping top athletes
    6. A fully supervised Sports Psychology intern with some experience helping top athletes
    7. A fully qualified Psychiatrist
    8. A fully qualified Psychologist
    9. A fully qualified Psychiatric or Mental Health Nurse
    10. A fully qualified Social Worker
    11. Someone who has completed a Master’s Program in Counselling at an accredited university

    Notice again that I do not put anyone on my list who is not a fully qualified and registered mental health professional, regardless of how much they love sports or mental health. Like surgery, I believe that if you are going to pay for mental health support, try to obtain it from fully qualified people.

    A fully qualified Psychiatrist has studied at University for at least 12 years, including a complete medical degree and then a four-year residency in Psychiatry. A Psychologist has completed at least a Doctorate or a PhD in the USA. In Australia, they need to study mental health for at least six years before becoming a Psychologist. Both Psychiatrists and Psychologists must also be registered each year with a regulatory body, have professional indemnity insurance, continue to abide by their respective code of ethics and provide empirically supported treatment. They must also continue their professional development and keep a logbook of everything they have learned and the supervision they have sought.

    As a Psychologist, if treatment is not effectively helping someone, you cannot continue treating them indefinitely. Because of our ethical code of practice, if someone is not getting any better, we need to refer them to another mental health professional who can hopefully help them more. We’re also not allowed to use testimonials or make unsubstantiated claims about how much we can help you. If these marketing strategies are not banned, someone can use them to persuade you unfairly.

    A person working in the mental health field without any qualifications or protected titles does not have these limitations. They can practice unscientifically and unethically. They can continue charging you to see them regardless of the harm they are causing you. They can breach your confidentiality and tell others that they see you. They don’t have to get any professional supervision or do any continued professional development. They also don’t have to keep any notes or records of your sessions together or keep them in a secure and locked place for the next seven years. And they can make up fake testimonials saying how exceptional their services are and how much they help people just like you.

    black bird perching on concrete wall with ocean overview

    A Difficult Lesson to Learn

    In 2017, the Adelaide Crows Football Club was one of the strongest teams in the AFL. They were hoping to win the club’s first premiership in 19 years. But, unfortunately, they lost to Richmond by 48 points in the Grand Final.

    After their loss, the football department questioned the players’ mental fortitude. The department told them that they must improve the mental aspect of their game and build resilience to win it all in 2018.

    Hoping to gain a mental edge over the rest of the league in preparation for the 2018 season, they decided to head off on an experimental preseason camp involving knives, blindfolds, army gear and the removal of personal phones for the duration of the four-day camp. Run by Collective Mind, a consultancy group of two people who are self-proclaimed Executive Coaches and Trainers.

    Since this camp, things have only gone downhill for Adelaide. As of July 4th, 2020, head coach Don Pyke, head of football Brett Burton, senior assistant coach Scott Camporeale and eight of the best 22 players from 2017 left the club.

    Eddie Betts left Adelaide to head back to Carlton in 2019 and said in February 2020, “that (camp) was one of the main reasons it was so hard to enjoy footy.”

    Mitch McGovern was another player who left the crows. Furthermore, his manager said, “the reasons Mitch left the Crows was because of the camp and the Adelaide football department, and that’s it.

    After finishing minor premiers in 2017, Adelaide dropped to 12th in 2018. In 2019, they won fewer games but finished 11th. They then lost 13 games to start the season and finished last in 2020. This year they improved slightly again and finished 15th out of 18. Collective Minds do not blame themselves for this decline, even though they credit themselves for Adelaide’s first place at the end of the regular season in 2017. Perhaps this drop from first to last in three years was just a coincidence.

    I first wrote this Facebook post back on June 26th 2018:

    Dear Adelaide Crows,

    If you want to get the mental edge over other AFL teams, why would you choose a company run by two individuals who do not even have an undergraduate degree in psychology?

    There are 92 endorsed sport and exercise psychologists in Australia, 322 health psychologists, 513 organisational psychologists, 615 clinical neuropsychologists and over 8,000 clinical psychologists. Generally speaking, there are over 29,000 registered psychologists in Australia in 2018, and 1,469 psychologists in South Australia alone.

    Psychologists… are held accountable by the Australian Health Practitioners Regulation Agency. Not all psychologists are amazing, but it is a nice way to monitor psychologists’ behaviours and ensure a certain level of quality control.

    Let’s hope that other professional teams, sporting clubs, organisations, businesses and individuals learn from this experience and try to seek support from people that are adequately qualified in whatever services they are offering.”

    More than three years later, I still think that hiring people without even a Bachelor’s degree in a mental health field can be pretty dangerous if you want them to improve the mental side of your game.

    two man hiking on snow mountain

    But Have we Learnt Our Lesson?

    It sure doesn’t look like it.

    I enjoyed reading ‘The Resilience Project: Finding Happiness through Gratitude, Empathy and Mindfulness’ by Hugh van Cuylenberg. My brother first read it and said he loved it and found it an emotional read. He recommended that I check it out.

    The author was a great storyteller, and it was nice to see someone talk about the benefits of gratitude, empathy and mindfulness. Van Cuylenberg calls these three components GEM and says that they are the key to resilience and finding happiness.

    I’ve never seen him run a presentation to a group before, but Hugh is a compelling public speaker. He is a qualified teacher who has previously worked in schools as a teacher and has a Master’s degree in education. Hugh has some skills in how to craft and portray an engaging message. 

    His Resilience Project website says that he has worked with the Australian Cricket Team, Australian Netball Team, Australian Women’s Soccer and Rugby teams, National Rugby League, and ten Australian Football League teams. He highlights that he works closely with the Port Adelaide Football team and has worked individually with Steve Smith and Dustin Martin.

    He is not working with these teams or individuals on how to best teach others. Or how to give effective presentations.

    He is talking to them about improving their mental health or ‘resilience’. And he has zero mental health degrees, as far as I can see.

    He has mentioned reading some of the work by Dr Martin Seligman on Positive Psychology and the benefits of GEM. But doing some personal reading on topics is not the same as passing examinations and observations year after year and meeting all of the requirements to be fully qualified and endorsed as a practising mental health specialist.

    Remember, there are over 100 specialised sports psychiatrists and sports psychologists in Australia and 29,000 psychologists. They are all much more qualified to provide practical mental health support to these teams and athletes. Yet, these athletes and teams overlook this expertise and go with someone with no formal training in mental health. And they are not alone.

    The resilience project claims that they have worked with 500 workplaces, 1000 schools, and over one million Australians. Yet, interestingly, none of the 14 Resilience Project employees indicates that they have an undergraduate or postgraduate degree in mental health.

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    The #1 player in the world

    Ben Crowe calls himself the Director of Mojo Crowe and a Mindset Coach. He has a Bachelor of Arts degree majoring in Creative Writing and has studied sports management for three years. He convinced Ash Barty, the current #1 female tennis player globally, to be her mindset coach. She seems happy with their working relationship so far.

    With his previous experience as a director of sports marketing at NIKE in the Asia Pacific, Ben is well experienced and suited to working with athletes as the co-founder of his company Unscriptd.com. He says that he helps athletes share and market themselves to the world.

    If Barty were working with him in this regard, that would be entirely appropriate and possibly very helpful. Regarding her mental health or ‘mindset’, I don’t see how his education or qualifications relate to this. But he does say that he works with Dylan Alcott, Stephanie Gilmore, the Australian Cricket Team, Richmond Football Club, leaders at Macquarie Bank, and the World Health Organisation. So again, she’s not alone. These individuals and companies have enough money to hire the best professionals in an area. How do people think that the best person to teach about mindset is someone without mental health training?

    Conclusion

    There is a need for more mental health funding and education to increase access. 75–95% of people in lower to middle-income countries cannot access specialised mental health services.

    Until we can have more qualified mental health specialists, there will be a role for life coaches, counsellors, and psychotherapists.

    However, the public needs to be well informed about the differences between the education and regulations required to work in each profession. Twelve years of study after high school for Psychiatry. At least six years for Psychology. A personal coach, counsellor, or psychotherapist may have no formal mental health education or qualifications at all.

    As ‘life coach’, ‘counsellor’ and ‘therapist’ are unprotected titles in Australia, you could open up your own business or practice tomorrow and start treating and managing mental health or ‘mindset’ or ‘resilience’ problems. You could also start working with some top athletes and teams if you are a great self-promoter and they are uninformed enough to hire you.

    I know it seems like an extreme comparison, but would you allow yourself to be operated on by someone who wasn’t qualified or didn’t go through a long and formal education process to develop and maintain their skills? If not, why should your mental health treatment and support be taken any less seriously?

    If there are no psychiatrists, psychologists, mental health nurses or social workers available in your area, see if you can access any of these individuals online. If you still can’t and need mental health support, unregulated professions like life coaches, therapists, or counsellors might help. I would make sure you know how long they have studied first and hope they practice ethically and scientifically.

    Dr Damon Ashworth

    Clinical Psychologist

  • 20 Fascinating Paradoxes About Life

    20 Fascinating Paradoxes About Life

    What is a Paradox?

    According to the Oxford dictionary, a paradox is a noun that has two meanings:

    1. A seemingly absurd or contradictory statement or proposition which when investigated may prove to be well founded or true.

    2. A person or thing that combines contradictory features or qualities.

    I love paradoxes because they are sometimes funny and usually also quite insightful. Listening to the audiobook version of the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu was like listening to one paradox after another. This was especially surprising to me because it is an ancient book of wisdom. So a great paradox is much more than just a cliche, even though it can appear like that over time.

    Below is a list of some of my favourites, starting with one from the Tao Te Ching:

    1. New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings” – Lao Tzu

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    2. “Who you are speaks so loudly I can’t hear what you’re saying.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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    3. “I’d rather be hated for who I am, than be loved for who I am not” – Kurt Cobain

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    4. “I refuse to join any club that would have me for a member.” – Groucho Marx

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    5. “You know what the issue is with this world? Everyone wants a magical solution to their problem, and everyone refuses to believe in magic.” – Alice in Wonderland

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    6. “I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing.” – Socrates

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    7. “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi

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    8. “We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behaviours.” – Stephen Covey

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    9. “If you don’t risk anything you risk everything.” – Mark Zuckerberg

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    10. “The more we do, the more we can do; the more busy we are, the more leisure we have.” – William Hazlitt

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    11. “Only you can take responsibility for your happiness…but you can’t do it alone. It’s the great paradox of being human.” – Simon Sinek

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    12. “If you try to fail and succeed, which have you done?” – George Carlin

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    13. “Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty.” – Frank Herbert

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    14. “Nowadays most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one’s mistakes.” – Oscar Wilde

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    15. “Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it.” ―Mahatma Gandhi

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    16. “He who fears he shall suffer, already suffers what he fears.”― Michel de Montaigne

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    17. “A lot of people never use their initiative because no-one told them to.” – Banksy

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    18. “If someone doesn’t value evidence, what evidence are you going to provide to prove that they should value it? If someone doesn’t value logic, what logical argument could you provide to show the importance of logic?” ― Sam Harris

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    19. “Let go of certainty. The opposite isn’t uncertainty. It’s openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.” Tony Schwartz

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    20. “If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold onto it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. But change is law and no amount of pretending will alter that reality.” – Socrates

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    Dr Damon Ashworth

    Clinical Psychologist

  • Improving Your Health Begins With Your Nutrition

    Improving Your Health Begins With Your Nutrition

    I am definitely not a nutrition expert. Especially when you look at my behaviours or what I eat and drink daily.

    I remember several years back when I tried to track my food and drink intake using My Fitness Pal’s phone application. They have a feature where you can share your diary with friends and family or make it available so they can see it too. I did this and had my cousin Shannyn see my diary. Let’s just say that she was slightly shocked at my diet. She was also not afraid to tell me this.

    After this, I did not want to share my food and drink diary with anyone else.

    I don’t believe my actions are based too highly on a lack of knowledge. By now, I have read a lot and have a general sense of what is considered healthy or unhealthy habits.

    However, in terms of what specific actions I should take, I’m unsure exactly what to do. There are a lot of competing diets and rules out there. I don’t just want something to help me lose weight until my BMI is back in a healthy range of between 20 and 25 kg/m2. I want sensible and not too complicated or restrictive guidelines for how to eat to maintain a sustainable and healthy lifestyle.

    The Healthy Eating Pyramid

    Nutrition Australia first introduced their Healthy Eating Pyramid back in 1980. When I was in school, I remember it being in all of the school textbooks and on posters around the place. Of course, the pyramid has evolved over the years. The one I remember the most looked like this one from 1982:

    My father was a physical education teacher and took on the food pyramid’s advice. So we would eat cereal and toast for breakfast, sandwiches for lunch, and often pasta or rice with dinner. However, some of the most recommended diets now, including the low carb, high fat (LCHF) diet, the slow carb diet, Atkins diet and the ketogenic diet, all recommend staying away from the things at the bottom of the pyramid (apart from vegetables), especially bread, cereals, rice and pasta.

    The most recent pyramid in 2015 has shifted to accommodate the learning that has taken place worldwide since 1982. Unfortunately, over these 33 years, the average waistline has continued to expand, and the percentage of people that are overweight and obese has continued to climb:

    Grains have shifted higher up the pyramid, and sugar has come out altogether. There are now some extra parts at the bottom about choosing water rather than any other drink, enjoying herbs and spices, and being active daily. The section at the bottom has also increased for vegetables and shrunk for fruit, indicating that we want to prioritise vegetables more in our nutrition than fruit. Finally, margarine is no longer mentioned at the top, but rather eating healthy fats. It doesn’t tell you what they are, but Nutrition Australia says that some fats are more nutritious than others. These unnamed fats are considered okay in small doses.

    The Australian Guide to Healthy Eating

    Similar to the food pyramid, but slightly different. The Australian Guide to Healthy Eating shows the recommended nutritious foods that the average Australian should eat. One of the most noticeable differences is putting the food in a circle rather than a pyramid. This makes it easier to think about how much of your plate should have the five recommended food groups:

    It recommends a similar portion size of grains to vegetables, which is more in line with the older pyramid from 1982 than the latest one from 2015. It also shows specific oils that some people may consider unhealthy, including canola spray and margarine. It does recommend water as the main drink. Still, it is more realistic than the pyramid by showing that people sometimes eat and drink unhealthily, including alcohol, sugary, deep-fried, or fatty foods. Therefore, it recommends having these things occasionally and in small amounts. I’m not sure why chickpeas and red kidney beans have to be in two different food groups, but they are. 

    The Star System in Australian Supermarkets

    The Health Star Rating System is an interesting intervention with the right intention. The aim is to help educate the Australian public about the healthiness of different foods in the supermarket so that consumers can make healthy choices for their shopping carts and homes. I’ve found myself looking at the star ratings for various products and being influenced by what is written when deciding what to buy. 

                With cereals, for example, there is a lot of variety. All-Bran Original tastes dull, but with a five-star health rating, it suddenly seems more appealing than the two-star Crunchy Nut Clusters or the 1.5-star Crispix cereal. More sugar and less fibre and protein generally mean fewer stars for the cereal, which makes sense and seems pretty straightforward. 

                A more contentious area is the oils and fats. From various things that I have read and heard, there is a big difference in how healthy or recommended certain oils are from others. For example, some experts and diets say that butter is healthy. In the Bulletproof Diet, people even add it to their morning coffee. Yet it obtains the worst star rating of 0.5/5 because it is high in saturated fat. Another oil that people have told me to cook before is coconut oil. It also receives a 0.5/5 health star rating. On the other hand, with all its chemicals, margarine gets a score of 4.5/5. I’ve even seen 5-star vegetable oils, even though some experts have told me to stay clear of these oils as much as possible. 

                Comparing the star rating between one type of food and another is also contentious. For example, Up-and-Go drinks receive 4.5 stars out of 5, even though they have 28.7 grams of carbs, 15.8 grams of added sugar, sunflower and canola oil. But, then, foods such as smoked salmon receive 2/5 stars, even though they only contain salmon and salt and have healthy omega-3 fats and zero sugar or carbs. However, because of the higher amount of saturated fat, salmon is penalised and considered a poorer health decision. This might lead to some people choosing the highly processed Up and Go instead of the smoked salmon. 

                Another problematic issue with the Health Star Rating System is that it is not compulsory. Because of this, star ratings are currently only posted on 31% of eligible foods in Australian supermarkets. Suppose people use this as a guide to what is healthy or unhealthy in determining their choices at the supermarket. In that case, they are left in the dark with 69% of the eligible products. 

                An even bigger issue is that big corporations are gaming the star system to trick the public into thinking that their products are healthier than they are. For example, if vegetable oils obtain a five-star rating, does this mean they are one of the most beneficial food options? 

    It shouldn’t mean this, but how is the consumer to know? The food pyramid says to avoid foods with added salt and sugar and only consume healthy fats in moderation. It’s debatable if vegetable oils and margarine are healthy fats. Still, the Health Star Rating System says nothing about this or how people should only eat them in moderation.  

                I’m guessing that if someone consumed all their food in deep-fried vegetable oil, they wouldn’t remain healthy for very long. So how does a use sparingly (or not at all) food obtain a five-star health rating? Is it helpful if the system doesn’t give better ratings to the foods that we’d be better to eat more often?

                Other health books I have read advise steering clear of as many packaged foods as possible and trying to eat things without an ingredient list. So, vegetables, fruit, meat, unsalted nuts, and eggs. As soon as the product has items in the ingredients list where you aren’t sure what they are, maybe it’s not the healthiest choice. 

    Is it helpful to recommend that people count the calories they eat?

    The average American is recommended to consume 2000 calories daily to maintain a healthy weight. On the back of all packaged foods in the USA, the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) requires a specific nutrition label. Here is an example of the latest nutrition label:

    As you can see, 2,000 calories a day is used for general nutrition advice. Furthermore, in some countries and states, fast food and chain restaurants must state how many calories their products have in them. It is done to help educate people about how many calories their food has. By doing this, people hopefully do not go too far above the 2,000 calories a day recommendation. 

                            A large Double Whopper with Cheese Meal from Burger King is 1,530 calories. After eating this, a person has only 470 calories they can consume for the rest of the day without going on their daily recommended limit. A large Cheese Lovers pizza from Pizza Hut in Australia contains 9909kj, well over the recommended 8700kj per day that the Australian Government recommends for people to consume daily. I don’t know about you, but I’ve definitely eaten a large pizza on a few occasions. I might think twice about doing this if I know it will put me over my recommended daily calorie intake. So, forcing fast-food restaurants to post the calorie content of their food might help some people not overindulge in one sitting and unknowingly gain weight over time.

    All Calories Are Not Equal

    A big issue with calorie counting is assuming that the only thing that matters to our overall health is how many calories we consume daily. It’s just not true. Drinks like Diet Coke and Pepsi Max have zero calories, but that doesn’t mean they are healthy. They contain several artificial ingredients, including colour (Caramel E150d), sweeteners (Aspartame, Acesulfame K), flavourings, acids (Phosphoric and Citric Acid), a preservative (Potassium Sorbate) and Phenylalanine. If you only look at the zero calories, then people should be able to drink as much of this each day as they want without it being an issue. But I’m not sure if a healthy person would want to knowingly ingest lots of these ingredients daily. 

               When it comes to being healthy, there are more important things than just how many calories we consume. A Diabetes Victoria website describes a deep-fried battered fish, two potato cakes, and twenty chips from a takeaway shop (1053 calories). They compare it to a skim latte for a snack, hummus and salad sandwich and a medium apple for lunch, a handful of almonds for an afternoon snack, and baked fish with sweet potato wedges for dinner. These snacks and meals equal 1075 calories, only 22 more than the fish and chips. They would also pack 24g less fat, 21g less saturated fat, 319mg less sodium, and 16g more fibre. The second option is more nutritious, with fewer things that could contribute to inflammation. Even though there are more carbohydrates across the two snacks and two meals than the one meal of fish and chips, they are spread out over more time, leading to less of a blood sugar spike and subsequent crash. 

    Calorie Density

    A different way of thinking about food and calories is what the weight loss and healthy eating app Noom do. They still encourage recording all the foods, drinks and calories you consume daily. However, they also try to document how calorie-dense your food is. Your food or drink then receives a colour score based on its density. 

                Suppose you eat something low in density, such as vegetables or a salad without dressing; it receives a green score. With green foods, you can eat plenty of these and feel fuller for longer without worrying too much about going over your daily calorie goal. 

                Essentially, the more water a particular food has, the less calorie density it is likely to have. So, a grape is considered a green food, whereas a raisin, or dried grape, is a red food. Chicken breast and eggs are both medium or yellow foods with lots of nutrients. Still, a moderate number of calories compared to their weight. Many nuts, especially walnuts, are nutrient-rich but very high in calories. Therefore, they receive a red colour. There are no good or bad foods, but if you want to keep your calories low while also feeling satisfied and full, having more low-density or green foods in your meals and snacks is the way to go. Or at least that is what Noom says. 

    Intermittent fasting can help without cutting down on how many calories you consume daily

    Some interesting recent studies have also begun to see the potential health and fat loss benefits of intermittent fasting. The book ‘Life in the Fasting Lane: How to Make Intermittent Fasting a Lifestyle—and Reap the Benefits of Weight Loss and Better Health’ by Dr Jason Fung, Eve Mayer, and Megan Ramos describes the potential health benefits. It also details how to practice it for those who want to learn more.

                Intermittent fasting is another example of how there are other things to consider apart from how many calories we should consume every day. Eating and not eating at different times also affects our health and body composition. For example, healthy males, who frequented the gym, found that eight weeks of feeding (between 1pm and 9pm only) reduced fat mass but not overall muscle mass. The comparison group consumed the same calories but ate between 8am and 9pm (Moro et al., 2016).

                A review article looking at intermittent fasting studies between 2000 and 2018 found similar results. Fat mass was significantly reduced in participants who underwent an intermittent fasting protocol (Ganesan, Habboush & Sultan, 2018). The review also found that some biochemical markers reduced significantly, whilst other changes were inconsistent. Therefore, intermittent fasting may be worth trying if you aim to reduce your overall fat mass without losing too much strength or weight.  

    Both low-fat and low-carbohydrate diets can produce positive short-term results

    An interesting meta-analysis reviewed randomised controlled trials of diets in overweight and obese adults (BMJ, 2020). The reviewers found that both low-carbohydrate and low-fat diets produced similar benefits in weight loss and reduced blood pressure at six months. Compared to a usual diet, low-carbohydrate diets resulted in 4.63kg of weight loss at six months, and low-fat diets resulted in 4.37kg of weight loss. Atkins produced the most prominent weight loss of 5.5kg after six months of all the popular diets. Not surprisingly, dietary advice without substantial behavioural changes led to no weight loss after six months. Moderate macronutrient diets, such as DASH or Meditteranean, led to about 3kg weight loss and slightly improved blood pressure after six months. However, it was not as effective as either low-fat or low-carb diets. 

                Unfortunately, at 12 months, most weight loss benefits diminished across all diets, including low-carb, low-fat or moderate macronutrient diets (BMJ, 2020). Only the Meditteranean Diet maintained the cardiovascular benefits by 12 months, which puts it as the top eating plan if you want to improve your heart health in the long run. 

    If You Want to Lose Weight

    At www.dietdoctor.com, they provide 18 tips that can help people lose weight. They also back up their recommendations with scientific evidence and rank them in importance. I don’t agree with all of their advice. Still, they tell you how strong the evidence they are using is. Below are my modified tips; based on their recommendations. You might find some of these tips helpful if you apply them to your life. However, please talk to a qualified Dietician before taking on any significant changes in your diet to see if they are right for you. If you have also suffered from any eating disorder-type behaviours, please seek assistance from a GP or psychologist who can support you on your health journey. 

    My top 7 weight loss tips

    1. Avoid eating foods or drinking beverages high in sugar, and minimise your intake of highly processed or deep-fried carbohydrates.
    2. Eat when hungry, and don’t feel that you need to eat if you are not feeling hungry.
    3. Eat real food or foods without an ingredient list. 
    4. Eat as many vegetables or salads as you want to, assuming you go easy on the sauces and dressings.
    5. Measure your progress wisely.
    6. Be persistent by choosing a sustainable eating plan for yourself and stick to it as much as possible. If you have a meal where you do not, get back to the plan after that, not the next day or the following Monday. 
    7. Avoid beer and other alcohol as much as possible.

    **Exercise is positive for your heart, health, mood and sleep. It is not a super effective weight-loss strategy, but it is beneficial in many other ways. 

    So many different rules and recommendation

    If you can’t tell by now, knowing what to consume as part of a healthy and nutritious diet is tricky. Some organisations or Governments will recommend certain things. But, at the same time, other experts will tell you to avoid all that and suggest something different altogether. 

               I could potentially test out all the different variables and see which one is the best fit for me. Fortunately, US News & World Report have released their Best Diets Overall 2022, which ranks 40 popular diets for me. They look at which eating plans are the healthiest, which ones are easiest to follow, which ones lead to the fastest weight loss, which ones are the best for long-term weight loss, and which eating plans are the best overall:

    Best Diets for Healthy Eating in 2022

    1. Mediterranean Diet = 4.8/5
    2. DASH Diet = 4.7/5
    3. The Flexitarian Diet = 4.7/5
    4. MIND Diet = 4.6/5
    5. TLC Diet = 4.4/5

    Easiest Diets to Follow in 2022

    1. Mediterranean Diet = 3.7/5
    2. The Flexitarian Diet = 3.4/5
    3. The Fertility Diet = 3.3/5
    4. MIND Diet = 3.3/5
    5. WW (weight watchers) Diet = 3.3/5

    Best Fast Weight-Loss Diets in 2022

    1. Atkins Diet = 3.9/5
    2. HMR Program = 3.8/5
    3. OPTAVIA = 3.8/5
    4. Biggest Loser Diet = 3.7/5
    5. Keto Diet = 3.7/5

    Best Long-term Weight-Loss Diets in 2022

    1. The Flexitarian Diet = 3.5/5
    2. Volumetrics Diet = 3.5/5
    3. WW (weight-watchers) Diet = 3.5/5
    4. Vegan Diet = 3.4/5
    5. Mayo Clinic Diet = 3.2/5

    The Best Diets Overall in 2022

    1. Mediterranean Diet = 4.2/5
    2. DASH Diet = 4.0/5
    3. The Flexitarian Diet = 4.0/5
    4. MIND Diet = 3.8/5
    5. Mayo Clinic Diet = 3.7/5
    6. TLC Diet = 3.7/5
    7. Volumetrics Diet = 3.7/5
    8. WW (weight watchers) Diet = 3.7/5
    9. Vegetarian Diet = 3.6/5
    10. Ornish Diet = 3.5/5

    I want a sustainable diet to help me lose weight initially and keep my body mass index in the healthy range for the rest of my life. The Flexitarian Diet, therefore, seems like the best option for me. However, with the best overall diet score of 4.2/5, the Meditteranean Diet also seems like a good choice.

    If I wanted to lose weight as fast as possible, I might choose The Atkins Diet. However, The Flexitarian Diet achieves a better long-term weight loss score than the Atkins Diet. The Atkins Diet’s overall score is also 2.2/5, which is 34th out of 40. Much worse than the 4.0/5 score and 2nd overall for the Flexitarian Diet.

                Interestingly, the things I have been hearing the most about regarding eating plans are not at the top of the list. For example, the Ketogenic Diet comes in 5th for best fast weight loss but is nowhere near the top-recommended diets (37th best eating plan out of 40). Neither is the Paleo Diet (30th best eating plan overall) or Intermittent Fasting (27th best eating plan). Jordan Peterson’s diet of only eating meat doesn’t even rank. Still, the AIP Diet, which also claims to target autoimmune diseases, is the 35th best-ranked eating plan overall.  

    Which nutritional recommendations do you think will work best for you and be possible for you to stick to long-term?

    What guidelines work best for you to change your nutrition and eating habits? Are they any of the diets listed in the US News & World Report rankings? Or the 2015 food pyramid? Or the Australian Guide to Healthy Eating? Or the Health Star Rating System? Or Calorie Counting or using the data provided on Nutritional Labels? Or whatever the expert you see suggests is best for you? I’d love to hear how people try to approach their nutrition in a healthy, effective and sustainable way.

  • Would You Prefer to Enjoy Your Life Now, or Wait Until You Are Retired?

    Would You Prefer to Enjoy Your Life Now, or Wait Until You Are Retired?

    Recently, my girlfriend has been sharing some videos of people who follow the FIRE principle with me.

    FIRE is an acronym that stands for Financial Independence, Retire Early.

    Some people describe FIRE as a financial movement involving frugality and extreme savings and investments. To do this, you work hard, save up to 70% of your annual income, and reinvest your savings into investments that will help you make even more. Eventually, you can retire early and use small amounts of money from your ongoing investments to live off.

    It’s not a bad idea in theory. Who wouldn’t like to not have to work and do the things they would like to do instead of what they have to do?

    I wonder how happy a life it would lead to in reality? The few videos I have seen show extremely driven couples working excessively for over ten years, spending very little money while they are doing this, and then retiring in their 40s.

    While they are sacrificing so much in the present, what are they missing? Fun activities, school events or holidays with their children while they are young? Socialising with their friends and extended family? Even having enough time or being willing to pay for things that help them look after their health? Including healthy eating, gym memberships, massage or spa treatments, or a fun day out to a concert or movie? If reaching FIRE as early as possible is the primary goal, then most of this stuff will be seen as unnecessary or against the plan you are trying to achieve.

    But who gets to the end of their life and looks back and thinks, “I should have worked longer and harder, especially when my children were young?”

    And then once you reach FIRE, is the life that you are going to live suitable to who you are and your essential values?

    In 2021, I had to take the first seven months off work while recovering from a severe health condition. Having no paid work to do each week or day was not as enjoyable or glamorous as other people may imagine.

    Especially if you are in your 30s or 40s, most of your friends will be busy with work and family. So it’s not like you will have heaps of buddies that you can hit the golf course with throughout the workweek unless most of your friends are in their late 60s or early 70s. 70 something was the typical age of people I went on long bike rides while I kept rehabilitating my health last year.

    Suppose a driven person is willing to sacrifice everything in the short-term for at least ten years to reach their FIRE goal. Will they be happy sitting around on a beach, doing nothing except relaxing and sipping Pina Colada’s every day?

    I doubt it. Maybe for the first week. But then what?

    So why do people do it?

    I think it’s because we get the dream sold to us. We get told that work is a nightmare that we couldn’t possibly enjoy. But we are also told that we should study hard at school to get into a good University or College. Then we can get a good degree. Then we can get a good job. Then we can work hard in this job until we have enough money to retire. And then we can FINALLY enjoy life.

    It reminds me of the story of the fisherman who is told by a Westerner on holiday in his coastal town that the fisherman needs to work harder to make more money. “But why?” asks the fisherman. “So that you can buy bigger boats and more of them!” says the Westerner. “But why?” says the fisherman. So that you can make more money and then retire after 20 or 30 years!” says the Westerner. “And then what?” asks the fisherman. “Well, then you can buy a boat and live by the beach and enjoy your life!” says the Westerner. “But that is what I already do,” replies the fisherman, as he shakes his head at the Westerner for having such silly thoughts.

    Maybe we can stop trying to wait for the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and see if we can try to enjoy our lives now? We may not need to have an excessive amount of money to do this. And we don’t need to retire early and do nothing every day.

    Not all work is glamorous. And going to university and obtaining a good degree does lead to more considerable earning potential later in your career. Regardless of how much someone makes though, work does help provide a sense of purpose and structure for a lot of people.

    My Personal Experience

    Completing a Doctorate for me did enable me to work as a Clinical Psychologist. It is a job that I love but also one that I can find emotionally exhausting. Seeing seven or eight people a day, five days a week for individual therapy is not ideal even though it would be lucrative.

    After working as a Psychologist since September 2013, I’ve learned to do whatever is sustainable and enjoyable for me.

    Yes, I am volunteering in Port Vila, Vanuatu, as a Clinical Psychologist on the Australian Volunteer Program, funded by the Australian Government. I receive a stipend for this, or just enough money to get by here and pay for my accommodation and food and living expenses.

    I am receiving way less money than I could get working back in private practice in Melbourne, Australia. However, I am also working in a way that feels sustainable to me. I am six months into volunteering here on a full-time basis again, and I haven’t felt the need to take any holidays yet. Weekend trips to beautiful beaches now and then is sufficient for me.

    Even though I am working full-time hours each week, I am not wrecked when it gets to Friday at 5 pm. I am happy that it is the weekend and that I can do some fun things with my girlfriend, daughter, and friends. But I do not feel like I need to spend half the weekend by myself just recovering.

    I am also happy. Happy to be working. Delighted to be experiencing all of these things. Glad to be meeting all of the people that I do. And happy that I am doing something meaningful and hopefully making a difference in the lives of the people I see.

    No matter how hard I work, I do not get paid any extra, and I kind of like it that way. By choosing to volunteer, I highly doubt that I will be reaching FIRE anytime soon, or at all. 

    One of my favourite writers is the Psychiatrist Irving Yalom, and he was still seeing patients and writing a few hours on weekdays well into his 80s. Now that seems much more enjoyable and meaningful than retiring in my 40s.

    What does everyone else think?