Mental Health, Physical Health & Disabilities


Mental Health Newsletter December 2019

The 3rd of December 2019 was the International Day of Persons with Disabilities.

The Biopsychosocial Model of Health

Mental health experts do not just look at the mental health or mental illness in isolation to the rest of the body or the rest of someone’s life. When conducting an assessment, they take into account:

  1. Biological factors, or what is going on in the body
  2. Psychological factors, or what is going on in the mind, and
  3. Social factors, or what is going on with other people.

Difficulties in any of these areas can make it more difficult to be both mentally healthy and physically healthy. Likewise, improving someone’s mental, physical or social capacity can also reduce the risk of someone suffering from poor physical health or a psychiatric illness.


What is a Disability?

According to the World Health Organisation, Disabilities are anything that limit activities, restrict participation and impair functioning. They can cause problems in body function or structure, make it difficult to execute a task or an action, and reduce involvement in life situations. A disability can occur on a mental, intellectual, physical, developmental, or sensory level.

Disabilities are NOT just physical health problems. They are always an interaction between the individual’s body, their mental state and the features of the society in which they live. Some societies are much more inclusive, with greater accessibility to neccessary services and activities and less stigma. We can all do things at a societal level to reduce stigma towards people with disabilities and increase the likelihood of physical, emotional, psychological, and social needs being met.

We Need to Take Mental Health More Seriously

When we feel sick, have a headache or a cold, most of us eventually try to do something about it if we can. We may take medicine or if it becomes worse, we might visit the hospital or a doctor.

However, if we cannot stop worrying or feel very stressed, are excessively angry or very emotional and unhappy all the time, we often carry on as though nothing is wrong.

It is estimated that in in most countries one-in-four people will at some stage in their lives suffer from a diagnosable mental disorder, yet less than half receive any form of treatment.

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The Connection between Good Physical Health and Mental Health

There is a strong connection between the mind and body. If you are in physical pain, your work and family life may be affected or you may not be able to do the activities you enjoy. This can lead to stress, anxiety and depression. Various research studies have confirmed this connection, noting that people with physical health problems are three times more likely to seek mental health care than those without a physical condition.

Just as physical health problems can lead to mental distress, mental health disorders can impair physical health (for example, by causing sleep disturbances or impairing immune function). When both mental and physical problems co-occur, doctors typically focus solely on the physical complaint and the cycle of illness continues. However, if the mental health problem is addressed, many patients report improvements in their physical health.

One study in 2003 found that the treatment of depression in patients experiencing chronic pain led to reduced pain and better overall health. When the pain was reduced, people were also more physical, more outgoing and socially engaging. These behaviors’ have a positive impact on the person’s life. People with improved mental and physical health are more productive and this may lead to greater financial stability.

When people are disabled by either a physical or mental condition they may not be able to work. They may need time off or they may become unproductive, lose opportunities or people around them may lose confidence in their ability to be part of the work team. This in turn may make the sufferer lose confidence in themselves and this could lead to economic and financial stress on themselves and their families.

In some cases undiagnosed and untreated mental health conditions may lead to more complex problems and behaviors, e.g. anti-social or illegal behaviours. This then places the individual in conflict with society and in some cases may end with them becoming homeless or incarcerated. Studies in Australia, Europe and the US have found that persons with untreated psychiatric illnesses make up one third of the unemployment and homeless population and are overly represented in prison populations.

Mental illness places strain on the family

Mental illness affects families as well as individuals. The children of people with mental illness are at greater risk of abuse, neglect, and a wide range of emotional and behavioral issues. Since they cannot look to their parents for help, they often isolate themselves from friends and many do not receive needed social support. In many cases, the effects carry over into adulthood, where they can then pass their mental health issues onto their own children. However, those who seek mental health treatment can reduce the impact it has on their family, and their children can also benefit from additional mental health support.
Other family members are likewise affected. Loved ones often report financial strain, job loss and their own psychological problems as a result of trying to help their mentally ill family member. For this reason, recovery should be a process undertaken by the entire family so that both the individual and their loved ones learn new skills at the same time.
Persons with untreated mental illness may be vulnerable to crime and victimization.
Studies suggest that people with untreated mental illness, especially in conjunction with other risk factors, may be at increased risk of committing violent crimes or even more likely, becoming victims themselves. The risk increases substantially when the individual uses drugs or alcohol or has acute symptoms, less insight into their illness or poor medication adherence. Most often, acts of violence are perpetrated against family members or someone in the individual’s close social circle.

Studies also suggest that many crimes against people with severe psychiatric disorders are not reported. Some of these crimes may be very serious such as physical or sexual assault and in some cases murders have been reported particularly against people suffering from schizophrenia. Women are also more vulnerable. One study in a North Carolina Psychiatric Service found that people with severe psychiatric disorders who weren’t taking medication were three times more vulnerable to be the victim of a violent crime than the general population.

Mentally healthy people live a longer and happier life!

According to a 2012 study in the British Medical Journal people with even a mild mental health problems may have a lower life expectancy. Those with the highest levels of depression or anxiety had a risk of death that increased by 94 percent, most often related to heart disease. People with mental health problems, especially mild symptoms of anxiety or depression, often do not seek help from physicians and mental health professionals. Even if you are able to work, fulfill family responsibilities and otherwise function in daily life, mental health problems can have serious consequences.

Caring for your mind as well as your body means you’ll not only live longer, but better. Just as we have effective treatments for physical illnesses, there are therapies, medications and lifestyle interventions that can ease mental suffering, especially if you get help at the earliest signs of a problem.


What can your workplace do to improve the overall health and well-being of your employees?

  1. Recognize that improving mental health and reducing the burden of disabilities is everyone’s business. Improving these factors would no doubt improve our physical health, our work, our relationships and help people to achieve their potential. The impact of poor mental and physical health can be devastating for individuals and their families and also has a major impact on the economy.
  2. Make a commitment to change. Commit to ending discrimination and stigma by making a public commitment from the top of the organization to the bottom. Send a strong message to employees to seek help and expert support from the MOH to deal with issues at work.
  3. Get some ‘First Aid’ training in mental health. Many organizations have an employee trained in first aid. But mental ill health is the most prevalent cause of illness among people of working age. Appointing someone to become involved and receive a training in mental health, so that they can then train and support others about these issues will make a huge difference. The MOH can provide such training at workplaces and organisations if they are interested too.

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The Pro Athlete’s Checklist for Optimal Performance: Part Two

This is the second part of a two part series exploring a checklist that professional athletes can go through to ensure that they are performing at their best.

Part One covered the mental aspects that are important to consider while training for an upcoming competition and preparing yourself right before an event. If you haven’t read it yet, I recommend checking out that article first.

Part Two will now cover the aspects you need to consider to perform at your best during a competition, and how to reflect and learn the most after the event has finished.

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When Competing in an Event

  1. Do you know how to get into a state of flow? [_]

The flow genome project has a 10 question survey that helps you to understand how you best find flow or get “into the zone”. My flow profile result said that I was a hard charger:

A hard-charger: You’re a focused go-getter. You thrive in intense situations, both personally and professionally. You seek out challenges. You lead a high-impact lifestyle. When you set out to learn a new skill, you look for training from the best and brightest in that field. If such training is not available, you hunker down and focus until you’ve figured it out yourself. Either way, “slow and steady” progress is not what you’re after.

The same intensity that fuels your drive and focus also feeds a relentless inner critic. One that ceaselessly pushes you to raise the bar. For you, the Flow State offers a rare escape from the relentless tallying and scoring of yourself against your own ideal goals and past performance. When you find activities that allow this blissful calm and relief, you make them a priority in your life.

Flow Hacks: Hard chargers gravitate towards adventure sports. Skiing delivers the intensity you seek. You favour non-traditional, off-the-beaten-path travel. You’re less interested in itineraries than you are in cultural immersion.

Pro-Tip: As a Hard Charger seeking flow, you may lose sight of the trade-off between risk and reward. Make sure you always stay on the recoverable end of that equation. Rather than pursuing bigger and faster, try going more in-depth. Slow down. Take time to develop discipline and to understand all your pursuits have to offer. It’s typically a lot more than thrills. Develop skills instead of seeking challenges. If you’re already hucking off 20-foot cliffs on Alpine skis, try a different approach, like telemark skiing. If you’re surfing big waves, try stand up paddleboarding. You might also benefit from mindfulness training.

Check out the website, take the quiz, and see what can help you to best get into a flow-state on a more regular basis.

  1. Do you have a clear objective? [_]

A clear objective is something that you can focus on that is within your control that if you do well will help you to win. In the excellent book ‘The Inner Game of Tennis’ by Timothy Gallwey, he said that tennis only has two requirements for success. The first requirement is to hit each ball over the net and the second is to hit each ball into the court. What are the requirements for success in your sport, or the essential things for you to keep your focus on during a game or performance?

  1. Are you able to observe what is going on so that you change things if they are not going right? [_]

How do you know if things are not working for you while competing? Is it that you are not focused on your objectives or you are easily distracted or irritated by less important things? Is it that you are in your head too much and not in your body or the zone enough? Is it that things don’t feel quite right? Is it that you feel too physically tense or your worries are getting the better of you? Is it that you are making mistakes or losing?

To me, being able to observe well is to first become clear of what my point of focus or objective is going to be during the game, then notice as soon as possible when my focus is no longer on this objective, and then gently bring my attention back to this without getting frustrated with myself for becoming distracted.

  1. Are you able to let go of judgment so that you are in your body and connected with your senses rather than caught up in your head or lost in your thoughts? [_]

Being non-judgmental of your performance and having trust in yourself and your body and your capabilities are some of the keys to staying in the zone or getting back into it during competition.

The more that you are caught up in judgmental thoughts, the more you will worry, the tenser you will become, and the more your performance will suffer. If you notice yourself being judgmental or self-critical, treat these thoughts just like you would any other unhelpful thought – challenge them, or try to let them go.

  1. Can you keep your focus on what’s most important and know how to minimise or block out distractions or worries? [_]

Whenever you find that you are distracted or worrying too much about things during a game, first take one slow, deep breath. Then accept that you have been distracted or worried without judging yourself. Remind yourself that these things are traps and are not helpful, then put all of your focus back onto your clarified objectives from #2 above. Try to be patient and trust that things will be better the more you try to immerse yourself in your movements and the game rather than worrying about what others are doing or saying, including your own mind.

  1. Do you know how to cope with adversity if you are not playing as you hoped or you are losing by more than you expected to be? [_]

When things aren’t going how you have planned, call a time out if possible and re-centre yourself. Select a focal point in the distance below eye level. Form a clear intention of what you aim to do, whether that is stick to the plan or make needed adjustments if the plan isn’t working. Breathe slowly and deeply, and release your muscle tension if you feel tight anywhere. Then find your centre of gravity and ground yourself with where you are and what you are doing. Have a process cue that you can say to yourself in these moments to re-focus on your objectives, and then try to channel all your remaining energy into these objectives and inspired performance.

  1. Do you know how to peak under pressure and still perform at your best when the game is on the line? [_]

Try not to overthink things too much. Although this is easier said than done, remember how much hard work you have put in during practice, and trust that your muscle memory will know what to do in the crucial moments. If you worry that you tense up or worry too much under pressure, remind yourself of times that you performed at your best in the past and visualise how your body was during these times. Try to channel this and see if you can have fun, enjoy the moment, and give 100% to the performance. You won’t regret it if you know that you have applied yourself as much as you could towards the important things that were within your control.

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After the Competition or Event

  1. Have you spent some time reflecting on how you felt your performance was? [_]

How do you normally feel after an event? Relieved? Disappointed? Happy? Sad? Whatever it is, spend some time just sitting with your feelings about your performance, all the hard work that you put into the lead up to the event, and how you prepared for the event. Do you feel grateful and appreciative of all the hard work you put in, or dissatisfied, knowing that you could have done more or better or pushed yourself harder?

  1. If you performed at your best, do you know what was it that you did that helped you to perform so well? [_]

If you managed to get into a flow state or were in the zone while competing, even if it was only for part of the time, do you know how you did it?  If you smashed your opponent and felt super confident and unbeatable, how did you do it? Do you know how you could replicate these things again next time?

  1. If you did not perform at your best, are you aware of what triggered the poor performance, or what traps you fell into? [_]

Let’s say you under-performed and did much worse than expected. What happened? Was it an issue with your training or your preparation, or was it purely what went wrong during the competition? Do you know how to make sure a similar outcome doesn’t happen again next time?

  1. Are you reflecting on your performance too much? [_]

Reflection doesn’t need to take any longer than 30 minutes, so if you find yourself continuing to stew over what has happened, especially in a self-critical way, you might be ruminating rather than reflecting.

  1. Regardless of how well you performed, have you written down three things that went well, either for you or the team? [_]

Writing this down will help you to remember that it wasn’t all bad and reinforce the positive. Even if you are bitterly disappointed, what did you or other people in your team do that went according to plan or better than expected? If it is what you did, give yourself some acknowledgment or a pat on the back.  Even though it didn’t quite work out how you wanted it to, you still put in so much hard work and effort and deserve some acknowledgment for that. If it’s what your teammates or coaches did, make sure you let them know when it is appropriate.

  1. If you made any mistakes, have you written down up to three things that you could do differently next time to overcome these mistakes and improve your performance next time? [_]

Even if you performed amazingly or won the event, was there anything that you could have done better? What will help you to shave an extra-millisecond off your time, or turn the ball over less, or take higher-percentage shots? Whatever it is, write it down so that you don’t forget what you can do keep improving and growing and getting better over time.

  1. Have you written down anything else that you would like to focus on that is in your control that you think will increase your likelihood of success next time? [_]

Things that you may want to write down include:

  • a different plan for training?
  • a different plan for pre-competition?
  • a different plan for during the next performance?

If you are not sure of what else to write after the 30 minutes of personal reflection, make sure that you also talk to your teammates and coaches about your performance. Others may be able to pick up on different things than you could. Maybe they saw things that you did not. They might also be more objective than you were about your performance too, especially if your emotions were high in the heat of the moment. If someone filmed your performance, watch it back with your teammates or coaches if possible. Ask for feedback, and then write down the essential points that you know you could improve. Only give your teammates honest feedback if they ask for this too. Then come up with a plan with everyone for how you can all address these issues together before the next event.

How many checklist items do you usually do? If it’s not many, are you willing to try and implement a few more of these steps by your next competition? If you do, I’d love to hear about how much it helps. Keep up the great work, and all the best in your athletic endeavours!


Dr Damon Ashworth

Clinical Psychologist




The Professional Athlete’s Checklist for Optimal Mental Performance: Part One

My last sports psychology article covered 21 strategies that you can apply to improve your sporting performance. If you struggle to cope with adversity, remain free from worry, tend not to peak under pressure, get offended by what your coaches say to you, or struggle to focus as much as you would like to, I highly recommend checking that article out first.

One question that I had when I shared these skills with the Vanuatu Women’s Beach Volleyball Squad was “What skills do I try to learn first?‘ Another question was “When exactly do I try to apply them?” These are both great questions, as I don’t want anyone to overthink what they are doing too much, especially during a significant competition.

This article and the next one will try to answer both of those questions. Firstly, if you already cope well with adversity or peak under pressure every time, don’t even bother trying to learn new skills. Just keep doing what you are already doing, because it is working. If you have poor concentration and goal setting skills, however, then do focus on learning the strategies that I have recommended and see if they work for you.

Now onto when to apply these skills. Below is a checklist that I have created to see if you are already doing everything that you need to do for optimal performance. This article goes into training for an upcoming event and before the competition. The next blog post will cover what is helpful to know how to do both during competition and afterwards.

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Training for an Upcoming Event

1. Are you training/ practising enough to improve as quickly as you would like to? [_]

If you notice that you are not growing as much as you hoped, it is important to look both at the frequency (how often you practice), duration (how long you practice for) and the intensity (how hard you practice when you do) to know if one or all of these variables need to change. You can assess this yourself or figure it out with your coach or trainer.

2. Is your practice deliberate enough? [_]

You must have specific objectives for each training session and each week. It is also essential that you have particular skills that you are trying to improve with each activity you do that aims to help you to meet these objectives.

3. Do you have baseline measurements of all the key things you want to improve and are you tracking your progress with these measures? [_]

If you have not conducted a baseline assessment of your skills or the things you want to improve, it will be tough to know how much progress you have made. Baseline measurements could include your weight, vertical jump, flexibility, 40m dash, reaction time. Whatever aspects you and your coach want to improve, figure out a way to assess them and keep track of your progress concerning these things as you train and prepare for a competition. Then you will know if you are on the right track with your training or will need to switch things up.

4. Are you over-training and not giving your body enough time to recover between practice sessions? [_]

Load management is all the rage in the NBA these days. Wilt Chamberlain used to play 48 minutes a night for a whole season at his prime, never subbing out. Now some of the stars will sit out the second night of a back-to-back set, as teams have realised that playing two nights in a row increases their risk of injury. Signs of over-training may include mental exhaustion, muscle fatigue, impaired motivation and concentration and reduced performance. If you are experiencing these things or are concerned that you are overdoing it, talk to your coach, reduce your workload for a bit, and see what happens. If your symptoms go away and your performance improves again, you will know that you are on the right track.

5. Are you eating healthily and enough for your training objectives? [_]

Fresh vegetables and fruit and good sources of protein (fish and lean meats) and fats (eggs, nuts, avocado, some oils) and whole-grains are generally considered healthy. Anything processed or deep-fried or too sugary or salty is not considered very healthy, and having too much caffeine and sugary drinks isn’t recommended either, but there are sport-specific recommendations that nutritionists can provide also. If you are burning an extra 3,000 calories of energy a day in your workouts, you will need to eat more and may require more carbs than an athlete who is only burning an extra 200-500 calories a day.

6. Are you getting enough sleep and rest? [_]

The average adult needs 7-9 hours of sleep, with more sleep than usual needed after strenuous and extended training sessions. In between training sessions, try not to always be on the go either. Give yourself enough downtime for leisure, fun, socialising, relaxation and recovery.

7. Are you practising mindfulness meditation daily? [_]

Even 10 minutes a day can significantly improve concentration abilities during practice and competitions. Some people prefer doing it first thing in the morning. Others prefer last thing at night. Whenever you think you could consistently do it, set a reminder on your phone, have a meditation app (e.g. headspace, smiling mind, calm, buddhify etc.) that can guide you through a meditation, and then do it at the same time every day for at least three weeks. Once it becomes a habit, you won’t regret that you have started to do it and built it into your daily routine.

8. Are you aware of unrealistic and unhelpful thoughts, and do you practice challenging them or letting them go? [_]

There are two ways that we can successfully manage unhelpful thoughts. Firstly, we can try to challenge and change them, which is a CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) strategy. To do this, notice what you are thinking. Ask if it is a realistic or a helpful thought? If it not practical or desirable, ask yourself what ideas might be more useful to have. Then every time you have the initial thought, try to remind yourself of the more suitable replacement thought instead. Secondly, sometimes it is not the thought that we have that is problematic, but how much we get caught up in the idea or fuse with it.  Each time you notice you are too fused with a thought, aim to create some distance or let it go using defusion skills, which is an ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) strategy. Imagine the belief in a different colour or font, or said in a funny voice, or put it on a cloud and let it float away. Both thoughts challenging and defusion can be helpful for people, so see which strategy you like best, and then apply it whenever your thoughts are impairing your performance during training sessions.

9. Are you practising in ways that simulate the conditions and pressure you will experience during the event? [_]

Andre Drummond was an awful free throw shooter in basketball games in his first few NBA seasons, making much less than half his shots. Yet, in training, he could make 9 or 10 out of 10 regularly. If this is similar to you with a skill that you do well in training but poorly during events, experiment with the stakes during practice to make it more game-like or have more on the line. Every missed free-throw at training might equal two laps of running around the court or 20 pushups.  It would mean that the athlete may tense up a bit more, meaning better preparation and more practice for tense in-game situations.

10. Are you also allowing yourself to have fun, experiment with skills and play games? [_]

Extreme athletes like skateboarders and freestyle skiers don’t always practice deliberately, especially not the athletes who started the field. They improved their skills by doing what they loved, playing around with their friends, and challenging each other to push their boundaries and see what is possible. So even though deliberate practice is the best way to improve specific skills, getting into a flow state and not thinking about things too much is the best way to improve performance. Don’t forget to have fun, play around, push yourself just outside your comfort zone, and see what happens.

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Before a Competition

1. Do you have a consistent pre-competition ritual? [_]

Before games, I try to have a low-GI carb-heavy meal the night before, get 8 hours of sleep if possible, get up at my usual wake time, eat protein shortly after waking, and not have too heavy a meal too close to competition. I pack my bag with all the things I need, arrive at the stadium about an hour before the game. I then warm up a little bit by myself. After this I stretch and listen to music that helps me to get pumped up and focused. I then discuss the game plan with my team and coach. We then all go out as a team and warm up together before the introductions and the game begins.

2. Does it help you to perform at your best regularly or allow you to get into the zone quickly? [_]

If your pre-game ritual doesn’t help you to perform at your best, see what you can do to shake it up. Maybe get there earlier than you usually do. Find a quiet spot. Bring headphones and do a 10-minute meditation. Practice a few easy skills to fire up your muscle memory and boost your confidence. Listen to music and focus on your objectives for the day. Visualise yourself doing the moves you want to do and being successful doing this. Add something in that you don’t usually do, or take something out that you don’t think is helping, and see what the result is. Over time, you’ll know what helps and what doesn’t, and what to do more before a competition.

3. Do you know what type of environment is most helpful for you to prepare yourself before the competition? [_]

Some people are more extroverted and like to be around people, socialising and connecting and laughing and having fun. Others are more introverted and like space from others and quiet. Experiment with this before competitions, and soon you’ll know what environment is best for the significant events.

4. If the ideal environment is not available, do you have a back-up plan of what you can do? [_]

Let’s say you prefer space and quiet, but there are no change rooms around, and you need to remain by the side of the court. You may need noise-cancelling headphones or other things that can still take you away from where you are a bit so that you can focus and do your pre-game ritual and get into the zone for when the competition begins,

5. Are you aware of your arousal level before a game? [_]

Think of this as a scale from 0 to 10, where ten is overwhelmed, anxious and panicky, and zero is as relaxed as you can be. Check in to your physical symptoms and give yourself a score from 0 to 10.

6. Do you know what arousal level is ideal for you at the start of the competition? [_]

If you compete in a sport where precision is critical, you may want to be at three or a four. If you need to be aggressive and reactive, like in boxing or American football, it may be better to be at eight or nine. Once you know what number you are at, determine if you need to increase it or decrease it for it to be ideal for the event.

7. Do you know how to pump yourself up if you are feeling apathetic, lazy or tired? [_]

Let’s say that your arousal level is at a one or two and you need it to be at a six, what can you do to pump yourself up? Do you need some caffeine or sugar or an energy drink? Do you need to jump around to get your lymphatic system flowing? Do you need to watch motivational videos or listen to a pump-up music soundtrack? Do you need to remember your values or goals, or why you put in all the hard work at training or why you love the sport? Whatever you decide to try, give it a go, and if it works, repeat it next time. If not, move onto something else.

8. Do you know how to relax if you are feeling too overwhelmed, worried, stressed or anxious? [_]

Let’s say you are at nine or ten and want to be at five or six. There are thousands of spectators ready to watch you. You start to worry that you are feeling too anxious and tense and won’t perform well as a result. Try to re-frame this anxiety as excitement. Remind yourself that being pumped up means more oxygen to the limbs, which can help you to run faster, jump higher, put in more effort. Then if your arousal level is still too high or you are worrying too much, ground yourself. Look at what you can see, hear, touch, taste and smell. Remind yourself that you are safe and there is no danger. Take some slow deep breaths and put your focus on one thing at eye level in the distance. Tense your muscles, breathe in, then release the tension as you breathe out. Stretch nice and slowly. Remember the objectives that you want to focus on that are within your control and think back to times when you have successfully done this. Remind yourself that you can do this, exhale all the air, and then go out there and give it all. People don’t tend to regret losing as much when they know they have given it their best!

part two is now up


Dr Damon Ashworth

Clinical Psychologist

20 Fascinating Paradoxes About Life

What is a Paradox?

According to the Oxford dictionary, a paradox is a noun that has two meanings:

1. A seemingly absurd or contradictory statement or proposition which when investigated may prove to be well founded or true.

2. A person or thing that combines contradictory features or qualities.

I love paradoxes because they are sometimes funny and usually also quite insightful. Listening to the audiobook version of the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu was like listening to one paradox after another. This was especially surprising to me, because it is an ancient book of wisdom. So a great paradox is much more than just a cliche, even though it can appear like that over time.

Below is a list of some of my favourites, starting with one from the Tao Te Ching:

  1. New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings” – Lao Tzu

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2. “Who you are speaks so loudly I can’t hear what you’re saying.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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3. “I’d rather be hated for who I am, than be loved for who I am not” – Kurt Cobain

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4. “I refuse to join any club that would have me for a member.” – Groucho Marx

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5. “You know what the issue is with this world? Everyone wants a magical solution to their problem, and everyone refuses to believe in magic.” – Alice in Wonderland

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6. “I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing.” – Plato

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7. “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi

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8. “We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behaviours.” – Stephen Covey

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9. “If you don’t risk anything you risk everything.” – Mark Zuckerberg

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10. “The more we do, the more we can do; the more busy we are, the more leisure we have.” – William Hazlitt

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11. “Only you can take responsibility for your happiness…but you can’t do it alone. It’s the great paradox of being human.” – Simon Sinek

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12. “If you try to fail and succeed, which have you done?” – George Carlin

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13. “Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty.” – Frank Herbert

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14. “Nowadays most people die of a sort of creeping common sense, and discover when it is too late that the only things one never regrets are one’s mistakes.” – Oscar Wilde

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15. “Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it.” ―Mahatma Gandhi

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16. “He who fears he shall suffer, already suffers what he fears.”― Michel de Montaigne

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17. “A lot of people never use their initiative because no-one told them to.” – Banksy

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18. “If someone doesn’t value evidence, what evidence are you going to provide to prove that they should value it? If someone doesn’t value logic, what logical argument could you provide to show the importance of logic?” ― Sam Harris

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19. “Let go of certainty. The opposite isn’t uncertainty. It’s openness, curiosity and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose up sides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.” Tony Schwartz

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20. “If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold onto it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. But change is law and no amount of pretending will alter that reality.” – Socrates

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Dr Damon Ashworth

Clinical Psychologist

What Psychological Strategies Can Improve Your Sporting Performance the Most?

I’ve played a lot of sport in my lifetime. My first basketball game was on the Diamond Valley mini-courts in Victoria, Australia when I was six years old. My most recent game was this week at Wan Smol Bag in Port Vila, Vanuatu. That means I’ve been playing organised sport for over 27 years now.

Both of my parents were Physical Education teachers and excellent sports coaches, and they consistently encouraged my two siblings and me to play sports and be active. I’m not sure if my siblings felt this too, but there was a sense that we should take sport seriously, and it was essential to try your best and be an unselfish team player and a fair opponent.

For example, this Larry Bird Converse poster hung on the wall in our house when I was younger:

It makes me sick when I see a guy just watching it go out of bounds.” – Larry Bird

I was a super competitive kid, with the majority of my childhood consisting of competing against whoever I could find, but especially my brother and friends. I also tried to compete in anything I could, including board games, computer games, card games and multiple sports.

I’ve managed to have some success in several sports. I finished in the top 10 in the state in swimming in Primary (Elementary) School, the top 20 in discus throwing, and the top 30 in alpine skiing. In High School I made the State team in volleyball for three years in a row and the Victorian Institute of Sport and the Australian Youth Squad for volleyball. I then moved to the USA at 16 to play Varsity volleyball, basketball and tennis in California and Virginia. Later on, I won a State Championship in the top division in the Victorian Volleyball League at 25 and won a championship playing Semi-professional basketball when I was 27 in Australia.

Despite this modicum of success, I don’t think that I reached my potential.

I was a bit like Allen Iverson in his famous “practice” speech:


I loved to play, but I hated to practice. I was not overly goal-focused outside of turning up on game day, giving my all, and doing whatever I could to help my team win. When I was younger, I also had what is known as a ‘fixed mindset’, and thought that I could not change my athletic capabilities with deliberate effort.

It wasn’t until I started to learn psychology at university that I began to realise that I could mentally change how I approached the games that I played. I began to apply the psychological skills that I had learnt and developed a growth mindset rather than a fixed one. I became less afraid of losing, more able to learn from setbacks and mistakes, and more able to step up when the game was on the line. I also discovered how to bounce back after making a few mistakes, keep pushing and trying when we were losing, and perform at my best on a much more consistent basis.

I wish I could have had these skills earlier in my life, and I would like to be able to share them with you so that you can hopefully take your game to the next level too.

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How Strong is the Mental Side of Your Game?

The Athletic Coping Skills Inventory (ACSI) looks at seven sub-scales related to how you mentally approach sport and helps to highlight areas in which you might struggle:

Sub-scale #1: Coping with adversity – assesses if you remain positive and enthusiastic even when things are going badly. Also determines if you stay calm and controlled, and can quickly bounce back from mistakes and setbacks. 

  • Do you remain positive and enthusiastic during a competition, no matter how bad things are going?
  • When things are going badly, do you tell yourself to keep calm and does this work for you?
  • When you feel yourself getting too tense, can you quickly relax your body and calm yourself?
  • Can you maintain emotional control regardless of how things are going for you?

How often do you do these things – rarely, sometimes, often or almost always?

If you have said rarely or sometimes to most or all of these items, you currently are not coping as well as you could with adversity.

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  • If things are going bad during a competition, try cognitive restructuring. Tune in to what thoughts are going through your mind. Then ask yourself if they are realistic thoughts and if they are helpful thoughts to be having right now? If you are thinking about anything that is not what you are meant to be doing in the present, they are probably not helpful. If it’s the mistake you just made, let it go and move on. If it is worrying that you might keep making mistakes and lose, let it go and move on. Tell yourself “this isn’t helpful!” or ask yourself “what is a more helpful way to be thinking right now?” It might be “keep calm”, or it could be another mantra that you find helpful. Then stop focusing on your thoughts and focus on whatever is in your control in the present that will help you to get back on track. Then do it. 
  • If you are feeling overwhelmed or out of control during a competition, try deep breathing.  Tune into your breathing. Chances are, your breath is probably rapid and shallow if you feel overwhelmed, tense or out of control. Then, exhale and breathe out all of the air in your lungs. Slowly breathe deeply into your stomach, pause for a second or two, and then exhale all of the air out again. Keep breathing slowly and deeply and exhaling all your air until you feel a bit calmer and more in control. Then stop focusing on your breath and put your focus back to the main objective that you have that is in your power in the present.
  • If you feel too physically tense during a competition, try progressive muscle relaxation. Tune in to where you feel most tense, then pick one area to target first. Squeeze it as hard as possible, take a deep breath in, pause, breathe out and relax. Then repeat if needed or move onto another tense muscle area. If you can’t tense it because of the sport you are doing, try to breathe in and around the tight area and then see if you can relax it with the out-breath. Repeat as often as needed. Once you feel less tense, stop focusing on your body tenseness and put your focus back to whatever is in your control in the present that will help you to achieve your objectives.

Sub-scale #2: Coachability – assesses if you learn from coaches instructions and are open to accepting constructive criticism or advice without taking it personally or becoming upset:

  • Do you manage not to take it personally or feel upset when a coach tells you how to correct a mistake you’ve made?
  • When a coach criticises you, do you feel helped rather than upset?
  • If a coach criticises or yells at you, do you correct the mistake without getting upset about it?
  • Do you improve your skills by listening carefully to feedback and instructions from your coaches?

How often do you do these things – rarely, sometimes, often or almost always?

If you have said rarely or sometimes to most or all of these items, you currently are not very coachable. My dad said that I was uncoachable growing up, but it did improve by applying a few strategies.

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  • When a coach criticises or yells at you, try not to take it personally. If it is a competition, the coach is likely to be on an emotional rollercoaster, just like you. They may care just as much or even more than you about winning, but they cannot control your behaviour on the field. They can merely make suggestions or sub you out, which may make them feel even more stressed or anxious than if they were out there performing. See if there is any merit in what they are saying to you regardless of how they have said it. If it is useful advice, take it on board. If it is not helpful, try to tune it out and re-focus on whatever it is that is within your control that will help you to achieve your objectives.
  • Develop a growth mindset and let go of your ego. When you make a mistake in practice, try to listen to feedback from coaches about what led to the error and how you can improve it. If they don’t give you any feedback, ask for it when it is appropriate. It is generally a lot easier for someone else to see what you are doing wrong and how you can improve it than it will be for you to view it. Asking someone in your coaching staff to film what you are doing can also help because then you can view what they see and can have a discussion with them about how to improve it. 
  • Listen carefully to the advice and instructions that your coaches have, especially during practice and before and after a game. The coach’s job is to help you perform at your best, so try to take on board what they suggest and give it a go before rejecting it as not helpful. Having a growth mindset sees mistakes and losses and failures as opportunities to reflect on what went wrong and how you can improve it. A coach can help with this, especially after a game and in practice. Asking questions to clarify what they said if you don’t understand can also help to ensure you are following or trying what they suggest. During a game, don’t overthink things too much, and get back to your game plan that you and your coach have established before the event.

Sub-scale #3: Concentration – reflects whether you become easily distracted and whether you can focus on the task at hand in both practice and game situations, even when adverse or unexpected conditions occur:

  • When you are playing sports, can you focus your attention and block out distractions?
  • Is it easy to keep distracting thoughts from interfering with something you are watching or listening?
  • Do you handle unexpected situations in your sport very well?
  • Is it easy to direct your attention and focus on a single object or person?

How often do you do these things – rarely, sometimes, often or almost always?

If you have said rarely or sometimes to most or all of these items, your ability to concentrate is not as good as it could be.



  • Meditate regularly. It doesn’t matter which type of meditation you do, but practice it for at least 10 minutes a day. Developing a daily meditation routine will help you to improve your concentration levels on a game day more than anything else. I prefer mindfulness meditation the most, and the apps I would recommend the most to download if you want to have a guided meditation session daily are:
    • Smiling Mind
    • Insight Timer
    • Headspace
    • Calm
    • Waking Up
    • Ten Percent Happier
    • Buddhify
    • Balance
  • Avoid multitasking. Whatever you are doing throughout the day, try to focus on one thing at a time rather than attempting to do two or three things at once. It will be less tiring for you, and will also train your concentration. Just ask yourself, no matter what you are doing “What is most important right now?” and try to put all of your attention and focus on that one task. If your mind tries to distract you or get you to do something else, thank your mind and bring your attention back to whatever is most important at that moment.
  • Practice informal mindfulness. Formal mindfulness involves sitting down and doing mindfulness meditation for a set period. You can also approach any other task that you are doing mindfully, which is called informal mindfulness. To do this, no matter what you are doing, try to see if you can approach the task as if you have never done it before in an open, accepting, non-judgmental way without wishing for it to be any other way. Jon Kabat-Zinn calls these the attitudes of mindfulness, and when applied to sports, you are likely to have a sense of relaxed concentration that is the key to getting into the zone or a state of flow more regularly.

Sub-scale #4: Confidence and Achievement Motivation – measures whether you are confident and positively motivated. Also assesses if you consistently give 100% during practices and games, and work hard to improve your skills:

  • Do you get the most out of your talent and expertise?
  • Do you feel confident that you will play well?
  • Do you give 100% during practices and competition, and don’t have to be pushed to practice or play hard?
  • Do you try even harder when you fail to reach your goals?

How often do you do these things – rarely, sometimes, often or almost always?

If you have said rarely or sometimes to most or all of these items, you do not have high levels of confidence and achievement motivation.



  • Know your personality: Take the IPIP-NEO personality assessment to get a good sense of your personality and what is likely to motivate you. If you are an extrovert, you probably need to train with other people and need excitement and fun. You may not need as much rest, either. If you are an introvert, you may need some individual sessions to remain focused and motivated and plenty of time to reflect and recover between practices and competitions. If you are agreeable, you will enjoy co-operating with the plans of your coaches or other athletes and helping out others. If you are disagreeable, you will probably need to do things your way a bit more to stay motivated and confident.  If you are highly conscientious, you could have a consistent training schedule and pre-game routine, and you will be able to follow it and benefit from it. If you are low on conscientiousness, you will need a bit more flexibility and variety in your training and preparation and goals to stay on track. If you are highly neurotic, you will have more times that you feel down, anxious, angry, self-conscious, but developing skills to assist you with these emotions will help. If you are low on neuroticism, you are unlikely to be bothered by intense emotions or self-doubt and won’t need additional strategies. Lastly, if you are very open to experiences, you are likely to remain confident and motivated even if things don’t go according to plan and accept whatever is happening and make room for whatever feelings arise. If you are low on openness, you will probably need more contingency plans so that you will know what to do and feel less overwhelmed when things don’t go according to plan. 
  • Clarify your essential values: The values exercise that I have previously written about is a great way to identify and remember why you are playing sport and what you are hoping to get out of it — knowing our why can help us to be much more motivated to push through pain and challenges when things get hard. By figuring out which values are essential, quite important and not relevant to you, you can see if you have been living in line with your fundamental values or applying them in your sport. If you haven’t, setting some goals that are consistent with these values will increase your motivation and hopefully improve your confidence too.
  • Apply your character strengths to your sport: The VIA character strengths survey is a similar principle to values clarification, with the VIA standing for values in action. Take the survey, identify your top 5 key strengths and apply them more to your practice and competition. It could help your confidence and motivation a lot.

Sub-scale #5: Goal setting and mental preparation – assesses whether you set and work toward specific performance goals. It also determines if you plan and mentally prepare for competition, and if you have a “game plan” for performing well:

  • Do you set concrete goals to guide what you do in your sport on a daily or weekly basis?
  • Do you tend to do a lot of planning about how you will reach your goals?
  • Do you set your own performance goals for each practice?
  • Do you have your game plan worked out in your head long before the game begins?

How often do you do these things – rarely, sometimes, often or almost always?

If you have said rarely or sometimes to most or all of these items, you are currently not setting enough goals for yourself in your sport or preparing yourself mentally as much as you could be.

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  • Get on the same page as your coach (and teammates if you have them) about your objectives in your sport and the steps that you will all need to take to achieve these objectives. By doing this, including having contingency plans for if things are not going well, your coach should be to help you stick to your plan and encourage you to switch to a contingency plan if things are not working as well as you both hoped. You can apply this for your training sessions, your weeks in the lead up to competition, before a game, during competition, and afterwards. If your coach changes the rules and goes off course, it is vital to be able to raise this and remind them of your overall objectives so that you can remain on track and make progress towards your long-term goals. 
  • Make sure the goals that you set are SMART goals. SMART means that your goals should be specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-framed. You will then know if you have achieved them or not in the time that you have set and can make adjustments as needed.
  • Have a consistent pre-game ritual to mentally and physically prepare yourself for the game. Maybe eat the same meal the night before a competition (carbo-loading), do things to wind down and switch off to ensure you don’t get to bed too late and obtain a good quality sleep. Wake up at a similar time in the morning if possible, and have the breakfast that your nutritionist has suggested is most helpful. Stay well hydrated. Have a game plan figured out with your coach well in advance before the competition and keep that fresh in your mind on game day. Get to the event place early enough to not have any unnecessary stress. Choose the location that allows you to get into the state you want to be when competition starts. If you can’t choose the room, bring noise-cancelling headphones or other things that can still help you to feel settled wherever you are. Then listen to music or motivational material as needed, warm up your body as required, visualise doing well or think back to times you have performed well in the past, and centre yourself before competition. Then go out there and enjoy it.

Sub-scale #6: Peaking under pressure – measures whether you are challenged rather than threatened by pressure situations and if you perform well under pressure — if you are a clutch performer:

  • Do you tend to play better under pressure because you think more clearly?
  • Do you enjoy the game more when there is more pressure during it?
  • Are pressure situations challenges that you welcome?
  • Do you make fewer mistakes when the pressure is on because you concentrate better?

How often do you do these things – rarely, sometimes, often or almost always?

If you have said rarely or sometimes to most or all of these items, you are currently not peaking under pressure or getting into the zone as much as you potentially could.

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  • Try the seven steps of centering:
    1. Select a comfortable focal point in the distance that is below eye level.
    2. Form a clear intention in your mind of what you aim to do.
    3. Breathe slowly and deeply in a mindful way and breathe all the air out with each breath.
    4. Release your muscle tension by observing where you are most tense in your body, then release this tightness by first tensing it further and then letting go, or just trying to release it with each out-breath.
    5. Find your centre of gravity or “chi” and use that to help ground you where you are and with what you are doing.
    6. Repeat your process cue, or imagine what it sounds, feels and looks like to achieve what you are aiming to do in step 2. If there is a word that describes this, you can use it as your cue. Golfer Sam Snead would use the word “oily” to describe the smooth and effortless swing that he wanted.
    7. Channel your remaining energy into a dynamic and inspired performance. Trust that all the hard work that you have put in during training will pay off and help you to achieve your aim, and see if you can enjoy the competition and the peak performances that can come with this.
  • Develop your inner game. Timothy Gallwey wrote one of the best sports psychology books of all time with ‘The Inner Game of Tennis.’ The first step of the inner game is to observe what is happening in a non-judgmental way. The second step is to picture the desired outcome. The third step is to trust your body to be able to reach your desired outcome and don’t try to overthink it. The last step is to nonjudgmentally observe the change in your performance and results by doing this.
  • Get into a flow state. To increase your chances of getting into a flow state, you first need to try to remove or zone out from all potential distractions. It is also important that the task that you are aiming for strikes a good balance between your current skill level and the challenge you are facing. If the challenge is slightly greater than you perceive your current skills to be, flow is most likely to happen. If it is not challenging enough, you are likely to be bored. If it is too challenging you are likely to be anxious. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi says that there are eight main characteristics of flow:
    1. you need to put all of your concentration on the task at hand.
    2. you need to be clear about your goals and be able to get immediate feedback about if you are on the right track.
    3. flow transforms time, and things feel like they are either speeding up or slowing down in a flow state.
    4. the experience must be intrinsically rewarding, or enjoyable in and of itself and not just a means to another end.
    5. your performance should feel effortless and easy in a flow state.
    6. there needs to be a good balance between challenge and skills, ideally the thing you are doing is both challenging and requires a lot of skill.
    7. your actions and awareness are merged, and you are no longer in your head thinking about what you are doing or worrying about your performance.
    8. you feel fully in control of what you are attempting to do in pursuit of your objectives.

Sub-scale # 7: Freedom from worry – assesses whether you put pressure on yourself by worrying about performing poorly or making mistakes. It also determines if you worry about what others will think if you perform poorly:

  • Do you worry quite a bit about what others think of your performance?
  • Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself by worrying about how you will perform?
  • While competing, do you worry about making mistakes or failing to come through?
  • Do you think about and imagine what will happen if you fail or screw up?

How often do you do these things – rarely, sometimes, often or almost always?

If you have said rarely or sometimes to most or all of these items, your worries are probably impairing your performance.

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  • Try constructive worry. I don’t recommend this strategy during competition, but it is excellent to do before or after a game or when you are training for an upcoming event and are feeling worried. Create a table with three columns, and say what is worrying you in column one, what you can do to address the worry in column two, and when you can solve it in column three. It shouldn’t take much more than 5 minutes, and might look like this:


What Can I do to address this?

When can I address this?

What if I lose?

Train hard, prepare well, try my best

Now and at the competition

What if I make mistakes or fail?

Mistakes help me to learn and improve. Remember the Michael Jordan quote about failure leading to success

Anytime I have a setback, try to have a growth rather than a fixed mindset and see what I can learn from it to get better

What if others judge me?

Try to care less about this and focus on what is in my control, which is training hard, preparing well and trying my best. Also, don’t forget to have fun. If others judge me for trying my best, that is more about them than it is about me

Now. I can put my energy into things that are within my control, which is my intention and my actions, and let go of everything else

  • Practice grounding yourself in the present. Ask yourself: “What are five things I can see right now?” “What are four things I can touch or feel right now?” “What are three things I can hear right now?” “What are two things I can smell right now?” “What is one thing I can taste right now?“. These questions help you to become fully grounded in the present, instead of worrying about things going wrong in the future or ruminating about a mistake you made in the past. Finally, ask yourself: “Am I safe?“. If there is no imminent physical danger, you do not need to be in ‘fight-or-flight’ mode, and your brain can relax while you take a few deep breaths and re-focus on what you need to do next to achieve your objective.
  • Defuse from unhelpful thoughts. Sometimes it is helpful to challenge our worries if we know they are unhelpful. If you instead think of something more useful to believe, it might eliminate your fears. If it does not, try to defuse from your worry instead and aim not to get too caught up in it. Thinking “I’m going to miss this shot” won’t help, so if it crosses your mind, imagine putting this worry on a leaf on a river and let it float downstream, or put it on a cloud and watch it float away, or put it in a box on a conveyor belt and let it speed away into the distance. There are many different defusion strategies to help you let go of worrying thoughts. Look them up, try them out when you are not competing, see which ones are most effective for you, and then apply the most effective ones during your next competition. The less you worry, and the more you focus on what you can do that is in your control, the better your performance is likely to be.

To answer the title question, the best psychological strategies to improve your sporting performance are the ones that work best for you. See which sub-scales you score the lowest on, try some of these strategies that I have recommended, and then let me know what worked and how much your performance improved. I look forward to hearing about your improvement and growth!

Dr Damon Ashworth

Clinical Psychologist

Dealing With Work Stress and Burnout


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Not all stress is bad for you. Sometimes stress is exciting, like planning a holiday or a family function, starting a new job or moving into your new home. In these circumstances, your feelings can be a combination of excitement and anticipation mixed with some concerns or fear. You hope things will go well, but at the same time, you worry about something not working out. This is normal, and the stress you feel, as long as it is not too much, can help you to plan better and anticipate problems.

A moderate level of stress can lead to you feeling increased energy levels, sharper in your senses, and better able to focus and concentrate on what is happening and what you need to do.

What is Stress?

A simple explanation of distress is the feeling you get when you no longer feel in control of a situation. This means is that the situation itself is less important to how stressed you feel than your perception of how in control of the situation you are.

Our brain is like a problem-solving machine, and is always trying to figure out if we have the resources available to meet, the demands of the task that we need to do:

  • If we feel that we have sufficient resources to do what we need to do successfully, we are not likely to feel too stressed.
  • If we are not sure if we have sufficient resources, we may feel overwhelmed or stressed out until we have more information that suggests that we can manage the situation successfully.
  • If we feel that we do not have sufficient resources, we are likely to become overwhelmed and stressed out, and sometimes even despondent or hopeless, two warning signs for burnout.

Too many situations where we feel out of control leads to a build-up of distress and many negative consequences over time. The trouble is that modern life is so full of frustrations, deadlines, and demands that many of us don’t even realise how stressed we are. Whatever your job, by recognising the symptoms and causes of stress, you can take the first steps to reduce its harmful effects and improve your quality of life.

The Physiology of Stress

Stress is your body’s way of responding to any demand or threat. When you feel threatened, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, which prepare the body for emergency action. This is known as the “fight or flight” response and it is an inbuilt survival mechanism that is your body’s way of protecting you from danger.

The body’s nervous system often does a poor job of distinguishing between daily stressors and life-threatening events. If you are stressed over an argument with a friend, a traffic jam or too many bills, your body can still react as if you are facing a life-or-death situation. Most workplace and everyday stressors these days are not likely to kill us, so it is important to be able to successfully manage these stressors before they build up too much and exceed what is healthy for you.

When stress is within your comfort zone, it can help you. In emergencies, stress can save your life by giving you extra strength to defend yourself. Stress can also help you rise to meet challenges. Stress is what keeps you on your toes during a presentation at work, sharpens your concentration or drives you to study for an exam when you would rather be doing something else. However, when you start to lose control stress stops being helpful and can start causing significant damage to your mind and body.


The Effects of Chronic Stress

When you repeatedly experience too much stress, there is a disruption to nearly every system in your body. It can shut down your immune system, upset your digestive and reproductive systems, raise blood pressure, increase the risk of heart attack and stroke, speed up the aging process and leave you vulnerable to many mental and physical health problems.

Potential health problems caused by chronic stress include:
1. Depression and anxiety
2. Weight problems
3. Autoimmune diseases
4. Skin conditions, such as eczema
5. Reproductive issues
6. Pain of any kind
7. Heart disease
8. Digestive problems
9. Sleep problems
10. Cognitive and memory issues

Causes of Stress

Common external causes of stress:
1. Major life changes
2. Work or school
3. Relationship difficulties
4. Financial problems
5. Being too busy
6. Children and family

Common internal causes of stress:
1. Chronic worry
2. Pessimism
3. Rigid thinking, lack of flexibility
4. Negative self-talk
5. Unrealistic expectations/Perfectionism
6. All-or-nothing attitude


Signs and Symptoms of Burnout

The following table lists some of the common warning signs and symptoms of burnout, which is likely to occur when we have been too stressed for too long. The more signs and symptoms you notice in yourself, the closer you may be to stress overload or burnout.

Cognitive symptoms:
* Memory problems
* Inability to concentrate
* Poor judgment
* Seeing only the negative
* Anxious or racing thoughts
* Constant worrying

Emotional Symptoms:
* Depression or general unhappiness
* Anxiety and agitation
* Moodiness, irritability, or anger
* Feeling overwhelmed
* Loneliness and isolation
* Other mental or emotional health problems

Physical symptoms:
* Aches and pains
* Diarrhoea or constipation
* Nausea, dizziness
* Chest pain, rapid heart rate
* Loss of sex drive
* Frequent colds or flu

Behavioural symptoms:
* Eating more or less
* Sleeping too much or too little
* Withdrawing from others
* Procrastinating or neglecting responsibilities
* Using alcohol, cigarettes, or drugs to relax
* Nervous habits (e.g. nail biting, pacing)

Managing Stress in the Workplace

What can you do to better manage stress?

  • Learn to distinguish between normal stress and stress that is overloading you.
  • Learn to recognise the signs of a build-up of chronic stress.
  • Discover the factors that may influence your tolerance for stress.
  • Learn about your body and how you react to stress.
  • Try to not let things build up. Do not waste time if possible. Deal with things as soon as you can to minimise overload.
  • If you can, make changes in your life to protect you from stress.
  • Where possible deal with matters and people to solve problems.
  • Learn more about the things that stress you out and use this knowledge to protect yourself from these stressors. This is known as increasing your resilience.
  • Unless it is not possible, avoid certain situations or people that you know cause you a lot of stress. Anticipate and better prepare yourself in these circumstances so that you can control the situation.
  • If you have a failure or setback take a moment to reflect on what actually happened. Do not immediately blame yourself, as it may not have been your fault. It may have been outside your control regardless of what you tried to do.
  • Increase your level of physical activity when you can, exercise helps your body to recover more quickly and improves your immune system which is often compromised by stress.
  • Don’t avoid people who can help you. Work colleagues, friends and family are your psychosocial supports. When you share your concerns, others may see solutions that you cannot see or they may be able to help you in other ways.
  • Examine your diet particularly when you are experiencing stress. Certain foods, alcohol or other drugs may actually increase your stress levels even though you might feel that they help you in the short-term.
  • Learn relaxation strategies and or practice meditation to help you calm down when you are feeling too stressed, panicky or overwhelmed.
  • Deep and slow breathing into your stomach and then exhaling all of the air with each breath can really help after even 1-5 minutes.
  • Progressive muscle relaxation where you tense and release various muscle groups in your body while you breathe in and out slowly and deeply also helps.
  • Imagining yourself in a nice, calm and peaceful place or out in nature can provide a brief escape and reduce stress.
  • Mindfulness mediation is a very effective way to manage stress, reduce pain and improve your focus. Mobile phone apps such as headspace or calm or smiling mind can teach you these skills in about 10 minutes each day
  • If you cannot manage your stress, seek professional advice.

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What Can Organizations Do to Manage Stress and Burnout?

Organizations and employers can do any of the following:

  • Seek information about stress and how to successfully manage it.
  • Develop policies and procedures to deal with discrimination and to help support people who are too stressed or suffering from burnout.
  • Give mental health the same importance as general health and safety and provide education and training.
  • Improve HR processes and become more aware of what is happening in the workplace to ensure that situations or high levels of stress during certain times are monitored and those involved receive support. E.g., precisely in high-risk areas such as police, correctional or accident and emergency and military services some situations will impact on many people and these incidences should be monitored and processes put into place to protect and support those involved.
  • They can also ensure that staff are aware that their organisation has a positive attitude towards stress and mental health and takes these matters seriously.
  • A larger organization may also be able to staff a specialist confidential counselling position or train some staff to provide psychosocial education and support to people affected by stress.

Colleagues can also play a vital role. You do not have to be a psychiatrist or mental health worker to know when a workmate mate is under stress or is not coping. You can provide necessary support by asking the person affected if they are okay or is there anything you can do. Having a friendly ear is sometimes exactly what is needed to start a healing conversation. This can lead to a referral to a more appropriate service.

One vital skill that a friend or colleague needs to learn is to not to give advice or judge a person when they are trying to explain their situation. It is better to allow the person to talk through their issue and offer support. If you are able to do it, you could help by finding an appropriate place for the person to seek professional help, e.g. a mental health clinic or women’s support group or perhaps a pastor or community leader if appropriate.

Stress, Burnout and Mental illness are often misunderstood, and education and awareness of what these issues are and how they affect people are vitally important in all organisational settings.

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What Separates a Good Athlete From a Truly Great One?

Could You Be Like Mike?

Michael Jordan is potentially the greatest basketball player of all time. He is also thought to be the king of staying laser focused and composed under pressure, and consistently performing at his best. He holds the record of 866 straight games in the NBA scoring at least 10 points, and he scored over 20 points in all of his last 47 playoff games.

Jordan holds ten scoring titles for the most points scored in a season, as well as the highest career regular season scoring average (30.12 points per game) and career playoff average (33.45 ppg). He went to the NBA finals 6 times, and won 6 championships with the Chicago Bulls, alongside 6 NBA most valuable player (MVP) awards. Jordan also won the defensive player of the year award once, played in 14 all-star games, made ten all-NBA first teams and won five MVP awards. He was inducted into the basketball hall of fame in 2009, and was named ESPN’s greatest North American athlete of the 20th century. Not too bad a career.


How did Jordan perform to such a high level so regularly, especially when the stakes were the highest? The stadiums were packed with media and screaming and jeering fans, and millions more watched on TV around the world, and yet he managed to consistently step up, night after night.

Maybe it was just was genes or natural talent. However, if this was the case, Jordan’s children should have also been great, and Jordan wouldn’t have been cut from his high school basketball team as a sophomore.

Maybe it was his physical conditioning. Again, this might be true, but there have been plenty of fit and athletic players in the NBA, and not all of them go on to become superstars.

There’s also the infamous ‘flu game’ in game 5 of the 1997 NBA finals against the Utah Jazz, where the commentator Marv Albert said this:

“The big story here tonight — the story concerning Michael Jordan’s physical condition. He is suffering from flu-like symptoms.”


Because the series was tied at 2 all, Jordan didn’t want to let his physical state prevent him from playing. Jordan started slow, and later admitted that he felt weak, had really low energy and couldn’t breath properly. In spite of almost passing out and having to slump over with his hands on his knees whenever the game stopped, Jordan helped the Bulls fight back from a 16-point first quarter deficit to win 90-88 and then go onto win the series in 6 games. In the process, he scored 38 points, 7 rebounds, 5 assists, 3 steals, 1 block and the three-pointer that sealed the game with less than a minute to play.

What separated Michael Jordan from the rest and helped him to become one of the greatest athletes of all time was his mental fortitude and mindset. He never gave up, truly believed that great things were possible as long as he put in the work and tried his best, and he never backed down from a challenge.

Here are two of his most famous quotes that perfectly exemplify this:

Jordan didn’t care about making mistakes or failing in the eyes of others. What he really cared about was trying his absolute best, and not letting fear of failure hold him back from doing everything he could to help his team win. It could be that Michael Jordan is an anomaly here, but I don’t think he is.

If you look at all the greats, their mindset and mental strength played a huge role in their overall level of success. Let’s look at Simone Biles in gymnastics, who has now won 25 medals at the World Gymnastic Championships in her career, including 19 gold.

Here’s how she approaches training and competitions:

Biles believed in working harder than anyone else in practice to be the best, but also prioritized being confident in herself and her abilities, and knew that in order to do this, she needed to also ensure that she looked after her mental and emotional health.  

What about Michael Phelps, who is the most decorated Olympian of all-time with 28 Olympic medals in swimming, including 23 gold:

Phelps, like Biles, tried to train harder than anyone else to be the best. He also focused on building belief and confidence in himself and not listening to any doubters who tried to tell him that something couldn’t be done. Like Jordan, he did not view it as failure to try as hard as he could to achieve his goals, even if he fell short.

All three amazing athletes had incredible success when it mattered most. Their mental attitude towards themselves, setbacks, practice and competition was no doubt a huge factor in the results that they achieved.

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The Equation for Success

Some people may still try to put their success down to talent, but hopefully all of you know that this is wrong. Psychologist Angela Duckworth, in her book ‘Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance’ developed an equation for success based on her research into the area:

talent + effort = skill

skill + effort = achievement

This means that the amount of hard work and effort you put into your training and preparation is twice as important for success than your initial level of talent.

Duckworth doesn’t exactly say this in her book, but once the effort has been put in at training, I truly believe that the next most important predictor of success is your mindset and mental strength on the day of the competition.

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Finding Flow

Most professional athletes know what it is like to be “in the zone” or in a “peak experience” as Psychologist Abraham Maslow called it. It has also been commonly referred to as a “flow state”, which was initially coined by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and examined in detail in his book ‘Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience’.

Flow can be defined as:

“being so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter. The ego falls away. Your perception of time changes. Every action, movement and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you are using your skills to the utmost, and those skills are significantly magnified. Physical skills, mental skills, psychological skills, social skills, creative skills, decision-making skills. Flow breaks boundaries. You are flow. It is you. There is no thought. You are fully immersed in your body and the moment. You experience profound mental clarity and a sense of oneness. Everything just works.”

I’ve never been to an Olympics before, but I can tell you that when I am confident and in the zone playing basketball or volleyball, I feel like no one can stop me, the game is so easy, things seem to move in slow motion and my level of performance astounds me. I am not exactly the best shooter in basketball, but I have had some games where making a basket was as easy as throwing a stone into the ocean from the edge of a pier.

If you don’t know what I mean, check out Klay Thompson’s shooting performance in only one quarter of basketball, smashing the previously held record:

Notice how it didn’t seem to matter where he was or who was defending him; he was in the zone, and he was going to shoot the ball as soon as he caught it, and those shots were going to go down.

The book ‘The Rise of Superman’ by Steven Kotler suggests that extreme and adventure sport athletes are the best at getting into flow states consistently and remaining there while competing. Because of the real risk of death and serious injury with mistakes, flow is not just a desired state to aim for but a necessity in these sports. Consequently, only the athletes that can consistently do it survive, both in the sport and in their lives.

Kotler tries to go beyond flow to explain unbelievable performances, such as pro-skater Danny Way jumping the great wall of China with a broken ankle:

Kotler says that every athlete has the capacity to get in the zone. Unbelievable performances are about experimenting with the impossible once you are in a flow state, pushing your limits, and seeing what you are truly capable of. 

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The opposite is also true. When I am not in a good headspace or my confidence is low, even the most basic moves feel difficult and scoring points can feel almost impossible. I’m going to guess that most of you have had similar experiences in your own sports too. When things just aren’t clicking. Where you start to doubt yourself. Where no matter what you try you just can’t get out of your head and you tense up. You start to miss free throws like Shaq:

What if you could be like Michael Jordan or Danny Way, and consistently perform at your best and reach your potential when it matters most? How would that feel, and how much would you pay to figure that out?

Fortunately, I won’t be charging you anything, but I do hope to help you unlock your own secrets to consistently great performance. In my next article, I’m going to teach you the mental skills and strategies to bounce back from adversity, take on helpful feedback from your coaches, and remain focused and composed even in highly stressful and distracting situations. I’m also going to help you to become more consistently confident and motivated, have clear objectives and be well prepared, perform at your best under pressure and not let your worries interfere with your game or prevent you from getting into a consistent state of flow. Stay tuned. 


Dr Damon Ashworth

Clinical Psychologist

Understanding Anxiety

Ministry of Health Vanuatu

October 2019 Mental Health Newsletter

Understanding Anxiety

Is Anxiety the same thing as Stress?

Sometimes people use the terms stress and anxiety to explain the same feeling. However, to a mental health expert, the difference is essential, because the management of each condition are different.

Negative stress or distress is the feeling you get when you “lose control of a situation” and do not believe that you have the necessary resources to handle the situation successfully.

Stress is your body’s way of responding to any demand or threat. When you feel threatened, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, which rouse the body for emergency action. Your heart pounds, you feel tense and alarmed and experience many sensations as well as thoughts.

Anxiety can produce feelings of distress too, but it is the excessive worrying about the future and the things you are afraid of coming true.

If someone has a big exam coming up, they may feel the physical symptoms of stress because they want to do well, and this can help them to study. However, if they are too anxious about failing the exam, they will want to avoid studying because it feels too scary for them.

When does Anxiety become a problem?

Everyone gets nervous or anxious from time to time. If we have to make a speech, attend an interview, or deal with a problematic upcoming event, we can all experience stress, fear and worry. However, for some people, anxiety becomes so frequent, or so forceful, that it begins to take over their lives.

Anxiety also comes in many different forms including generalised anxiety, panic attacks, phobias, social anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, hoarding and post-traumatic stress disorder. The distinction between an official diagnosis of anxiety and “normal” levels of worry isn’t always clear. Anxiety can be a complex disorder to diagnose and treat, and a person’s background and personality may also be a significant factor.

The best way to know if anxiety is becoming a problem for you is if you find yourself always worrying about something that may or may not happen in the future. If this worrying is causing you a lot of distress and making it difficult for you to focus on what you need to do in the present moment or enjoy life, then it is becoming an issue.

Anxiety is usually “future” oriented. Even if you are worrying about something that happened in the past, the anxiety is focused on what the consequences will be from this in the future. The most common question a person with anxiety asks themselves is “What if?’ The answer to what if questions for someone with problematic anxiety tends to be the worst case scenario. This is called catastrophizing, and only leads to more stress and worry over time.

What are the Different Anxiety Disorders?

The following are the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (DSM-5) definitions for each anxiety disorder. Please not that these symptoms need to cause significant distress or impairment to daily activities for them to be significant enough to warrant a diagnosis.

Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD)

  1. Excessive anxiety and worry about a wide variety of topics, events or activities.
  2. Worry occurs more often than not for at least 6 months and is clearly excessive.
  3. The worry is difficult to control, and may easily shift from one topic to another.
  4. The anxiety and worry is accompanied by at least one of the following symptoms in children, and at least three in adults:
    1. Restlessness or edginess
    2. Tires or fatigues easily
    3. Impaired concentration or mind going blank
    4. Irritability which may or may not be observable by others
    5. Increased muscle aches and soreness
    6. Difficulty sleeping, including falling to sleep or staying asleep or poor sleep quality
    7. Sweating
    8. Nausea
    9. Constipation/diarrhea

Specific Phobia

Specific phobias are an intense and irrational fear of specific natural events, mutilation, animals or situations. A specific phobia diagnosis needs to have:

  • Unreasonable, excessive fear
  • An immediate anxiety response
  • Avoidance or extreme distress
  • Presence of symptoms regularly for at least six months

The top ten most common specific phobias are:

  1. Arachnophobia – fear of spiders
  2. Ophidiophobia – fear of snakes
  3. Acrophobia – fear of heights
  4. Agoraphobia – fear of crowds or open spaces
  5. Cynophobia – fear of dogs
  6. Astraphobia – fear of thunder and lightning
  7. Claustrophobia – fear of small spaces
  8. Mysophobia – fear of germs
  9. Aerophobia – fear of flying
  10. Trypophobia – fear of holes

Panic Attacks

A panic attack needs to have four or more of the following symptoms:

  • Palpitations or increased heart rate
  • Sweating
  • Shaking or trembling
  • Shortness of breath or a feeling of not being able to breathe
  • A feeling of choking
  • Pain or discomfort in the chest
  • Nausea or upset stomach
  • Feeling dizzy, lightheaded, faint or unsteady
  • Feelings of unreality or being detached from oneself
  • Fear of losing control or “going crazy”
  • Fear of dying
  • Numbness or tingling in different parts of the body
  • Sudden chills or hot flushes

Panic disorder occurs when after someone has a panic attack, they then begin to worry about having more panic attacks and avoiding situations or places that they worry will trigger another one.

Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

  1. For a diagnosis of PTSD, the person needs to have been exposed to a situation that involved:
  • Death
  • Actual or threatened serious injury
  • Actual or threatened sexual violence

This could be exposure via direct experience, witnessing it happening to someone else, or hearing about it happening to a relative or close friend.

  1. Presence of at least one persistent intrusive or re-experiencing symptom:
    • Nightmares about what happened
    • Flashbacks about what happened
    • Unwanted upsetting memories
    • Emotional distress after exposure to reminders of the traumatic event
    • Physical reactivity after exposure to reminders
  2. Presence of avoidance in at least one way:
    • Avoidance of having trauma-related thoughts or feelings
    • Avoidance of external places or things that act as reminders of the traumatic event
  3. Presence of at least two negative changes to beliefs and mood:
    • Overly negative thoughts about self, others or the world
    • Strong negative feelings, including sadness, anger and guilt
    • Exaggerated blame of self or others for the traumatic event
    • Decreased interest in engaging in activities that one used to enjoy
    • Feeling isolated and cut off from others
    • Feeling emotionally numb or unable to experience positive emotions
  4. Presence of at least two symptoms of hyper-arousal:
    • Irritability and aggression
    • Risky or destructive behaviour
    • Hypervigilance or being “on guard”
    • Exaggerated startle response
    • Difficulty concentrating
    • Difficulty sleeping
  5. These symptoms must have occurred for at least one month, or it is an acute stress reaction.

Obsessions and Compulsions (OCD)

Obsessions consist of two important elements:

  1. Recurrent and persistent thoughts, urges, or impulses that are experienced as intrusive and unwanted, and that in most individuals cause marked anxiety or distress
  2. The individual attempts to ignore or suppress such thoughts, urges or images, or to neutralize them with some other thought or action (i.e., by performing a compulsion)

Compulsions have two core features also:

  1. Repetitive behaviours (e.g., hand washing, ordering, checking) or mental acts (e.g., praying, counting, repeating words silently) that the individual feels driven to perform in response to an obsession or according to rules that must be applied rigidly.
  2. The behaviours or mental acts are aimed at preventing or reducing anxiety or distress, or preventing some dreaded event or situation, however, these behaviours or mental acts are not connected in a realistic way with what they are designed to neutralize or prevent, or are clearly excessive.

For a diagnosis of OCD, the obsessions and compulsions must be time-consuming and take more than one hour per day or cause significant distress or impairment. Some people with OCD have good insight into their behaviours and why they do it, but struggle to change, and other people may not have any insight into why they do what they do or how they can change it.

Hoarding Disorder

Hoarding disorder is characterized by the following symptoms:

  1. Persistent difficulty in parting with or discarding possessions, regardless of their actual value.
  2. This difficulty is due to a perceived need to save the items and wanting to avoid the distress associated with discarding them.
  3. The difficulty discarding possessions results in the accumulation of possessions that congest and clutter active living areas and substantially compromises their intended use. If living areas are uncluttered, it is only because of the interventions of third parties (eg. Family members, cleaners, authorities).
  4. The hoarding makes it difficult to maintain a safe environment for self and others

The person with the hoarding behaviour may have good insight and realise their excessive acquisition of things is a problem, or they may have poor insight and not recognise that their behaviour is unhealthy.

Treatment of Anxiety

There is a variety of treatments available for anxiety. Most psychological treatments of anxiety disorders are supported by research as being effective treatments that can significantly improve functioning and reduce distress.

If you or someone close with you is experiencing one of the above anxiety disorders, it would be wise to discuss this with your health professional and in some cases obtain a referral to a mental health unit.

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Self-harm and Suicide Prevention

Ministry of Health Vanuatu

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September 2019 Newsletter

The 10th September 2019 is World Suicide Prevention Day.


According to the World Health Organisation, a person dies from suicide somewhere in the world every 40 seconds. This means that nearly 800,000 people die from suicide across the world every year.

Guyana has the highest suicide rate of any country in the world, with 44.2 per 100,000, but South Korea (28.9 per 100,000), Sri Lanka (28.8 per 100,000), Lithuania (28.2 per 100,000) and many other countries are also way too high.

76% of those who died by suicide were male, a ratio of more than 3:1. This ratio stays pretty steady for nearly all age groups, with men always dying from suicide at a higher rate than women.

The most alarming thing about these findings is that our suicide rate is increasing, an extra 2.1 per 100,000 in only five years. The percentage of suicide has also grown in the US by 24% from 1999 to 2014, after consistently declining the 14 years before that, according to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (Aboujaoude, 2016).

In the US it’s meant to be increasing due to the increasing use of antidepressants and their link to suicidality, to inadequate health insurance coverage, to the global financial crisis, increased divorce rates, higher opiate drug use, and the internet (Aboujaoude, 2016).

While it is good that many of these factors do not apply in Vanuatu, there are still over 11% of suicide-related search results on the internet that are pro-suicide (Recupero, Harms & Noble 2008). This means that we need to provide as much material as possible that shows people that suicide is neither the best option or the only option.

Warning signs of suicide:

After a completed suicide you will hear everyone in the family and community ask the same questions – Why? Why did this happen? What could I have done differently so that they would still be alive right now? These are natural questions that we all go through so that we can try to make sense of something that doesn’t make any sense. It is part of the grieving process, and these questions do become less frequent and less intrusive over time.

While some suicides may occur without any warning signs, most people who are suicidal do give warnings, such as:

  • Increasing their alcohol and/or other drug use
  • Taking unnecessary risks and impulsivity, e.g. suddenly overtaking in a dangerous situation
  • Threatening suicide and/or expressing a strong wish to die
  • Exhibiting rage and/or anger often in helpless situation
  • Talking about wanting to die or to kill oneself
  • Being preoccupied with the topic of death
  • Researching ways to die
  • Buying equipment such as guns, weights, ropes or sharp instrument
  • Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live
  • Talking about being a burden to others
  • Acting anxious or agitated often; behaving recklessly
  • Isolating or withdrawing oneself
  • Displaying mood swings frequently
  • Telling loved one’s goodbye
  • Setting one’s affairs in order
  • Giving things away, such as prized possessions
  • Referring to death via poetry, writings and drawings
  • Exhibiting dramatic changes in personality or appearance
  • Big changes in eating or sleeping patterns
  • Noticeable decline in performance at school, work or other important activities

Why do people attempt suicide?

There are many reasons why people die from suicide but untreated Depression is probably the main reason.

Here are some other reasons why people attempt suicide:

  • Untreated mental illness
  • The death of someone close
  • Loss of a child or custody of children
  • Divorce or major relationship issue
  • A serious illness
  • Chronic pain
  • Intense emotional pain
  • Bullying, both adults and children
  • Trauma from and an accident, rape, assault or loss from a disaster
  • Feeling trapped in a stressful situation
  • Inability to deal with humiliation
  • A serious business or financial loss
  • A terminal illness
  • Inability to deal with failure
  • Alcohol or drug abuse and confusion or false perceptions
  • Inability to accept growing old
  • Need to protect someone else
  • Not be a burden on someone
  • Not feeling connected or a sense of belonging with others
  • To punish someone or make a point
  • Uncontrollable impulses
  • Major legal problem/embarrassment or financial burden
  • Loss of hope
  • Copycat suicides where someone has died by suicide and someone else follows the example. This usually happens where people have looked up to the person who died and/or identified strongly with them.

If you are noticing some warning signs of suicide in someone who has also had some big changes or significant events happen to them recently, it is important to check in with them, ask how they are doing, and get additional support if they are having suicidal thoughts and are considering different ways that they could end their life. Treatment with a mental health professional can make a big difference and reduce the risk of someone dying from suicide.

What is Self-Harm and How Can We Manage It?

The terms self-harm and suicide often get grouped together but actually mean two different things. Both are infliction of pain and sometimes people who begin with selfharm may later commit suicide. Generally, people who selfharm do not wish to kill themselves; whereas suicide is a way of ending life.

Self-harm is the intentional and deliberate hurting of oneself

Most common methods of self-harm include:

  • Cutting
  • Burning
  • Picking at the skin
  • Pulling hair
  • Biting
  • Deliberately hitting one’s body so that they feel pain or break something, e.g. punching a wall
  • Placing oneself in some danger where they won’t die but are likely to sustain an injury
  • and other less common ways

Indicators of self-harm

If you are worried that someone you care about is self-harming, there are signs that you should look out for:

  • Many cuts/burns on the wrists, arms, legs, back, hips, or stomach
  • Wearing baggy or loose clothes (e.g., wearing hoodies or long sleeves during hot days to conceal the wounds)
  • Always making excuses for having cuts, marks or wounds on the body
  • Finding razors, scissors, lighters or knives in strange places e.g. in a bag or under the bed
  • Spending long periods locked in a bedroom or bathroom
  • Isolation and avoiding social situations more frequently than they used to

Why do people self-harm?

  • To escape their feelings
  • To cope with life stressors
  • To express their pain
  • To punish themselves for some perceived guilt
  • Some people lack self-esteem and feel that they deserve what they are doing to themselves because of something they did wrong or something someone said to them that proves to them that they are “bad” or “no good”
  • To feel “high”. When we get hurt, endorphins are often released into the blood stream, resulting in a mild feeling of euphoria. Self-harming behaviours can become addictive and habit forming.
  • To feel more in control. Some people have said that “when they hurt themselves” they reconnect with their body or are able to focus on the pain they feel from the harm they have caused rather than feeling disconnected or overwhelmed from all the other issues in their lives.

So in a strange kind of way, many people who self-harm are doing this as a means to try and cope with their distress rather than commit suicide. Self-harm is a response to painful emotions and experiences. Unfortunately, self-harm is dangerous, and can lead to people accidentally killing themselves. It may also become a habitual way of coping with any stress, and is therefore considered a maladaptive or unhelpful coping strategy. Consuming too much alcohol, or junk food, or even social media are other maladaptive coping strategies.

Adaptive or helpful coping strategies for dealing with distress include:

  • Socialising with friends
  • Problem solving
  • Journalling about the issue and writing about how you feel and what you could do
  • Talking to someone that you trust and that can help you to solve your problem
  • Being proactive about addressing the issue if there is something that you can do to fix it
  • Any form of exercise or movement, including walking, running, dancing, yoga, sports
  • Getting outside into nature and connecting with the world around you
  • Listening to music
  • Eating healthy foods including lots of fruit and vegetables
  • Learning relaxation techniques including deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, imagery or visualisation exercises and meditation
  • Pray or go to church or discuss how you are feeling with a spiritual or community leader
  • Seek professional help from the mental health team in your province.

What Else Can You Do?

Self-harm and suicide are complex matters and sometimes difficult to talk about. Some people believe that if you raise your concerns with someone you may increase the risk that they will attempt suicide. This is not the case.

If you become aware that someone is self-harming be gentle and ask them what is leading to them self-harming and if there is anything else is wrong in their life at the moment? Don’t criticise or judge them as they may not be willing to talk to you about the topic again. Be patient and ask how you can help. Suggest a referral or a meeting with other people that the person accepts.

If you think that someone is suicidal ask them what they are planning to do. Sometimes it’s just a passing idea so stay connected and talk gently and suggest seeking help. If they are just talking about suicide it means they have some ideas but may not act.

But if they begin to become specific and say how they will hurt themselves or they have bought a rope or poison or have other means (a definite plan) then they are very vulnerable so its best that they seek professional help from a doctor, paramedic, mental health nurse or psychologist.

Remove the means if you can and be honest with them about seeking help. Try not leave them completely alone if they are not able to say to you that they they feel safe and want to live.  It is very difficult to watch someone all the time and people who are feeling suicidal can be impulsive.

Suicidal thoughts and feelings do change and can get better. It is mostly about trying to keep people feeling safe and as calm as possible until the thoughts and feelings pass and they begin to feel different.

If you are struggling with the fear of death, the following book can help:
  • “Staring at the Sun: Overcoming the Terror of Death” by Irvin D. Yalom.
If you are struggling with lack of meaning and purpose in life, the following books can help:
  • “Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life” by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
  • “Finding Your Element: How to Discover Your Talents and Passions and Transform Your Life” by Ken Robinson and Lou Aronica
  • “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl.
If you are being held back by fear and self-doubt, the following books can help:
  • “The Confidence Gap” by Russ Harris and Steven Hayes
  • “Feel the Fear, And Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers
  • “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead” by Brené Brown
If you are struggling with grief, the following books can help:
  • “Why Bad Things Happen to Good People” by Harold S. Kushner
  • “On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss” by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler

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What Values Do You Try to Live Your Life By?

Values are guiding principles for our lives that are endless pursuits. We cannot achieve a value in the same way we can accomplish a goal. However, at any point in time, you can connect with them, act in accordance to them, and receive the vitality, energy, improved self-worth, greater emotional well-being and happiness that are often the result of living consistently with our values.

To figure out your most important values, first write if each value in the list below is very important to you (V), quite important to you (Q), or not important to you (N).

It is essential that we choose the values that feel right to us, rather than pick the values that we think our parents or society might want us to follow.

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Then, for only your very important values, score from (0-10) how much you have been living according to this value over the past month, with:

0 = not following this value over the past month,

1 – 3 = following this value occasionally,

4 – 6 = following this value sometimes,

7 – 9 = following this value often, and

10 = always living by this value.


  1. Connecting with Nature: Importance of value to you (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency with value if it is very important to you (0-10?) = _________
  2. Gaining wisdom: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  3. Creating beauty (in any domain, including arts, dancing, gardening): Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  4. Promoting justice and caring for the weak: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  5. Being loyal to friends, family and/or my group: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  6. Being Honest: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  7. Helping others: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  8. Being sexually desirable: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _____, Consistency (0-10?) = ________
  9. Having genuine and close friends: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = _____
  10. Having relationships involving love and affection: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  11. Being ambitious and hard working: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = ____
  12. Being competent and effective: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _____, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  13. Having a sense of accomplishment and making a lasting contribution: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  14. Having an exciting life: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  15. Having a life filled with adventure: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  16. Having a life filled with novelty and change: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  17. Being physically fit: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  18. Eating healthy food: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  19. Engaging in sporting activities: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  20. Acting consistently with my religious faith and beliefs: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  21. Being at one with God: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  22. Showing respect for tradition: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = _____
  23. Being self-disciplined and resisting temptation: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  24. Showing respect to parents and elders: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) =____
  25. Meeting my obligations: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ______, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  26. Maintaining the safety and security of my loved ones: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  27. Making sure to repay favours and not be indebted to people: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ______, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  28. Being safe from danger: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ______, Consistency (0-10?) = _______
  29. Being wealthy: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  30. Having authority, being in charge: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = ____
  31. Having influence over other people: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = ____
  32. Having an enjoyable, leisurely life: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = ____
  33. Enjoying food and drink: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ______, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  34. Being sexually active: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  35. Being creative: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  36. Being self-sufficient: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  37. Being curious, discovering new things: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ______, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  38. Figuring things out, solving problems: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ______, Consistency (0-10?) =______
  39. Striving to be a better person: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _____, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  40. Experiencing positive mood states: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  41. Feeling good about myself: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _______, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  42. Leading a stress-free life: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _______, Consistency (0-10?) = _______
  43. Enjoying music, art or drama: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _____, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  44. Designing things: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  45. Teaching others: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  46. Resolving disputes: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  47. Building and repairing things: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _____, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  48. Working with my hands: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = ______
  49. Organising things: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  50. Engaging in clearly defined work: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _____, Consistency (0-10?) =_____
  51. Researching things: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  52. Competing with others: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _______
  53. Being admired by many people: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _____, Consistency (0-10?) = _____
  54. Acting with courage: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  55. Caring for others: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  56. Accepting others as they are: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ____, Consistency (0-10?) = _______
  57. Working on practical tasks: Importance (V, Q, N?) = _____, Consistency (0-10?) = ________
  58. Seeking pleasure: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  59. Avoiding distress: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________
  60. Avoiding self-doubt: Importance (V, Q, N?) = ________, Consistency (0-10?) = _________

It will be difficult/impossible to always live by all of our very important values, because some values will come into conflict with each other. However, if you are have scored it a 5 or below in your consistency rating, then try to set a goal for the next month of how you can live more consistently with this value.

This is especially true with your top 5 values, so identify your top five values from this list if you can, and try to live according to these core values on a regular basis. If you manage this, you are much more likely to feel that you are on the right track and heading in the right direction in your life.

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Dr Damon Ashworth

Clinical Psychologist

PLEASE NOTE: These value descriptions were taken from a values cards exercise that I did during my doctoral degree. I am not sure who developed it, but will happily give credit to them if anyone can let me know who did.