Ten Traits of Highly Successful People

12 Rules for Life? By now, a lot of you have probably heard of Jordan B Peterson and his immensely popular self-help book ’12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos’. Here are his 12 rules, which make up the chapters of the book: Stand up straight with your shoulders back Treat yourself like someone… Read More

How to Become Deliberately Better at Anything

At the start of 2018, I launched an idea called Deliberately Better. Deliberately Better was created with two main aims in mind: It was intended to inspire people to believe in positive change, and It was meant to motivate others to want to put some tangible and small steps into place towards achieving their overall… Read More

Adolescent Mental Health in a Rapidly Changing World

October 10th, 2018 is World Mental Health Day Here are the top 10 tips for looking after your mental health, according to The Mental Health Foundation: 1. Talk about your feelings (with people who are likely to listen and not judge) 2. Exercise regularly (30 mins a day, 5 days a week) 3. Eat well… Read More

What Makes Some Things Fade Fast, and Others Stand the Test of Time?

After writing this blog for just over three years now, I find it quite interesting to see what types of posts are immediately successful, and which articles continue to be successful over a long period of time. The most popular blog post that I have written since 2015 is titled ‘How Have Intimate Relationships Changed… Read More

It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!

Life-traps are self-defeating ways of perceiving, feeling about and interacting with oneself, others and the world. If you are wanting to get a sense of what your life-traps may be, the book ‘Reinventing your life’ by Jeffrey Young is an excellent place to start, as it goes into 11 different ones. If you want a more… Read More

Change is Possible (and Inevitable)!

I haven’t announced it on my blog until now, but there have been a lot of changes for me lately… After an amazing five years of Clinical work at the Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre and Victorian Counselling and Psychological Services, I have decided to finish up and take on a brand new and exciting challenge.… Read More

25 Ideas That Could Change Your Life

1. KAIZEN A Japanese term meaning “improvement”. I think of Kaizen as ‘continuous improvement’ or ‘continual change for the better, one small step at a time’, as this is how I first heard of the term. A lot of the successful Japanese manufacturing companies in automobiles and technology have used this exact approach to obtain… Read More

How Much Could You Change Your Personality in a Year?

In April 2017, I looked at how my personality changed from 2011 to 2017 on the IPIP-NEO, my favourite free online personality test (see the website personality assessor and choose the IPIP-120 if you are interested in taking it). I wrote this up for the Deliberately Better article: Is it possible to change your personality? Prior… Read More

Can Your Personality Type Change Across Time?

I tried out a new personality test website the other day called 16 personalities. I came up as an Advocate, or an INFJ-A. This is a Myers-Briggs Type Inventory (MBTI) type personality test for those who aren’t familiar with the letters: The I means I am an introvert (63%) more than an extrovert (37%), and… Read More

What if You Could Change Your Attachment Style?

In my top 20 psychology books countdown, I put the 2012 title: ‘Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love’ by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller in 9th place, thanks to its Amazon.com star rating of 4.6/5.   Attachment styles research is an area… Read More