Is it Better to be Completely Honest, a Strategic Truth-Teller or an Occasional Liar?

I used to lie a lot growing up. Not quite as bad as Holden Caulfield in ‘The Catcher in the Rye’: “I’m the most terrific liar you ever saw in your life. It’s awful. If I’m on my way to the store to buy a magazine, even, and somebody asks me where I’m going, I’m […]

To Trust or Not to Trust?

Recently, some things have come to light that I have found personally disappointing. A few people have behaved in a self-centred way and it puts me in an awkward situation. If given a choice, I always try to be kind, open, honest, respectful and co-operative with others. However, sometimes some people don’t play by these […]

Why Do Some People Cheat in Relationships and Others Remain Faithful?

With the development of the internet, dating websites, social media, smartphones and dating apps, it is now easier than ever for someone to cheat on their partner or spouse. This same technology can also make it easier to get caught too, due to the potential digital trail that is created with each of these unscrupulous […]

Parenting is Tough, but Science Suggests Clear Strategies that Help You to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children

In 2018, the American Psychiatric Association identified what they considered to be the three major goals of parenting: “1. Ensuring children’s health and safety 2. Preparing children for life as productive adults, and 3. Transmitting cultural values” Many environmental and biological factors influence a parent’s and a child’s capacity to reach these ambitious goals. However, […]

My 10 Favourite Laws of Power

A fascinating book that I read towards the end of 2017 was ‘The 48 Laws of Power’ by Robert Greene. Since the book was first released in 1998, it has sold over 2 million copies worldwide, and has influenced many successful people, from Will Smith to Kanye West, Jay-Z and 50 Cent, who later co-wrote […]

Dealing With Toxic People

What is a “toxic” person? Sometimes in life, we come across people who defy our natural belief systems about how people “should be”. While we assume that most people follow the golden rule of “treat others the way that you would like to be treated”, there are definitely some individuals who are not guided by […]

Do You Love​ Your Loved Ones in the Ways They Want to be Loved?

Where do we go wrong? One of the saddest things I see time and time again in my work as a Clinical Psychologist is partners who both love each other and try their best to show this to each other, and yet neither of them feel loved and appreciated. The same thing also happens frequently […]

Divorce: Common, Tough, and Sometimes Necessary

In July 2015 my divorce was officially finalised. It was a tough decision to end the marriage, and for this reason, I have yet to speak about it on my blog, but there have been a few events recently that have made me want to speak up and share my story. The first is that […]

How Have Intimate Relationships Changed Over the Years, and Where Does It Leave Us Now?

I just finished reading the book ‘Modern Romance: An Investigation’ by Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg and was pleasantly surprised to see such a well-researched book written predominantly by a Stand-up Comedian (with a helping hand from a Sociologist). For those of you who don’t know Aziz, his stand-up shows typically consist of interesting observations […]