Do the Little Things We Do Matter?

I love the above quote by Lao Tzu. It really highlights to me that all of the little choices we make in life are important, especially in the long run. Not any one choice, or any particular action, unless it is unusually severe or unforgivable. I’m talking about the little things that we do on… Read More

20 Fascinating Paradoxes About Life

What is a Paradox? According to the Oxford dictionary, a paradox is a noun that has two meanings: 1. A seemingly absurd or contradictory statement or proposition which when investigated may prove to be well founded or true. 2. A person or thing that combines contradictory features or qualities. I love paradoxes because they are… Read More

Ten Traits of Highly Successful People

12 Rules for Life? By now, a lot of you have probably heard of Jordan B Peterson and his immensely popular self-help book ’12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos’. Here are his 12 rules, which make up the chapters of the book: Stand up straight with your shoulders back Treat yourself like someone… Read More

How to Become Deliberately Better at Anything

At the start of 2018, I launched an idea called Deliberately Better. Deliberately Better was created with two main aims in mind: It was intended to inspire people to believe in positive change, and It was meant to motivate others to want to put some tangible and small steps into place towards achieving their overall… Read More

It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!

Life-trapsĀ are self-defeating ways of perceiving, feeling about and interacting with oneself, others and the world. If you are wanting to get a sense of what your life-traps may be, the book ‘Reinventing your life’ by Jeffrey Young is an excellent place to start, as it goes into 11 different ones. If you want a more… Read More

Change is Possible (and Inevitable)!

I haven’t announced it on my blog until now, but there have been a lot of changes for me lately… After an amazing five years of Clinical work at the Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre and Victorian Counselling and Psychological Services, I have decided to finish up and take on a brand new and exciting challenge.… Read More

25 Ideas That Could Change Your Life

1. KAIZEN A Japanese term meaning “improvement”. I think of Kaizen as ‘continuous improvement’ or ‘continual change for the better, one small step at a time’, as this is how I first heard of the term. A lot of the successful Japanese manufacturing companies in automobiles and technology have used this exact approach to obtain… Read More

How Much Could You Change Your Personality in a Year?

In April 2017, I looked at how my personality changed from 2011 to 2017 on the IPIP-NEO, my favourite free online personality test (see the website personality assessorĀ and choose the IPIP-120 if you are interested in taking it). I wrote this up for the Deliberately Better article: Is it possible to change your personality? Prior… Read More

Isolation & Loneliness: Which One Is More Damaging to Our Long-term Health?

Just the other day I was having a debate with a client about isolation versus loneliness. He believed that the amount of social contact we have with others was a more significant predictor of well-being, whereas I thought that how close we felt was more important for long-term health and happiness. In other words, he… Read More

The Error Called Nostalgia: Remember How the World Used to be Better? What if it Never Was?

One of my favourite movies of all-time is ‘Midnight in Paris’. Let’s just forget about the director of the film for a second, and focus on the main reason why I love it – nostalgia. The main character in the movie, Gil, played by Owen Wilson, is writing a novel about a character who owns… Read More