Parenting is Tough, but Science Suggests Clear Strategies that Help You to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children

In 2018, the American Psychiatric Association identified what they considered to be the three major goals of parenting: “1. Ensuring children’s health and safety 2. Preparing children for life as productive adults, and 3. Transmitting cultural values” Many environmental and biological factors influence a parent’s and a child’s capacity to reach these ambitious goals. However, […]

Do the Little Things We Do Matter?

I love the above quote by Lao Tzu. It really highlights to me that all of the little choices we make in life are important, especially in the long run. Not any one choice, or any particular action, unless it is unusually severe or unforgivable. I’m talking about the little things that we do on […]

20 Fascinating Paradoxes About Life

What is a Paradox? According to the Oxford dictionary, a paradox is a noun that has two meanings: 1. A seemingly absurd or contradictory statement or proposition which when investigated may prove to be well founded or true. 2. A person or thing that combines contradictory features or qualities. I love paradoxes because they are […]

Ten Traits of Highly Successful People

12 Rules for Life? By now, a lot of you have probably heard of Jordan B Peterson and his immensely popular self-help book ’12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos’. Here are his 12 rules, which make up the chapters of the book: Stand up straight with your shoulders back Treat yourself like someone […]

How to Become Deliberately Better at Anything

At the start of 2018, I launched an idea called Deliberately Better. Deliberately Better was created with two main aims in mind: It was intended to inspire people to believe in positive change, and It was meant to motivate others to want to put some tangible and small steps into place towards achieving their overall […]

It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!

Life-trapsĀ are self-defeating ways of perceiving, feeling about and interacting with oneself, others and the world. If you are wanting to get a sense of what your life-traps may be, the book ‘Reinventing your life’ by Jeffrey Young is an excellent place to start, as it goes into 11 different ones. If you want a more […]

Change is Possible (and Inevitable)!

I haven’t announced it on my blog until now, but there have been a lot of changes for me lately… After an amazing five years of Clinical work at the Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre and Victorian Counselling and Psychological Services, I have decided to finish up and take on a brand new and exciting challenge. […]

25 Ideas That Could Change Your Life

1. KAIZEN A Japanese term meaning “improvement”. I think of Kaizen as ‘continuous improvement’ or ‘continual change for the better, one small step at a time’, as this is how I first heard of the term. A lot of the successful Japanese manufacturing companies in automobiles and technology have used this exact approach to obtain […]

How Much Could You Change Your Personality in a Year?

In April 2017, I looked at how my personality changed from 2011 to 2017 on the IPIP-NEO, my favourite free online personality test (see the website personality assessorĀ and choose the IPIP-120 if you are interested in taking it). I wrote this up for the Deliberately Better article: Is it possible to change your personality? Prior […]

Isolation & Loneliness: Which One Is More Damaging to Our Long-term Health?

Just the other day I was having a debate with a client about isolation versus loneliness. He believed that the amount of social contact we have with others was a more significant predictor of well-being, whereas I thought that how close we felt was more important for long-term health and happiness. In other words, he […]