How Much Could You Change Your Personality in a Year?

In April 2017, I looked at how my personality changed from 2011 to 2017 on the IPIP-NEO, my favourite free online personality test (see the website personality assessor and choose the IPIP-120 if you are interested in taking it). I wrote this up for the Deliberately Better article: Is it possible to change your personality? PriorContinue reading “How Much Could You Change Your Personality in a Year?”

Can Your Personality Type Change Across Time?

I tried out a new personality test website the other day called 16 personalities. I came up as an Advocate, or an INFJ-A. This is a Myers-Briggs Type Inventory (MBTI) type personality test for those who aren’t familiar with the letters: The I means I am an introvert (63%) more than an extrovert (37%), andContinue reading “Can Your Personality Type Change Across Time?”

How Do You Deal With Your Problems?

Throughout my schooling years, I was a horrible procrastinator. I would leave everything to the last minute, sometimes even having to take a day off high school so that I could finish an assignment that was meant to be due that day. Once I got to university, I couldn’t do this anymore, as the due dateContinue reading “How Do You Deal With Your Problems?”

What if You Could Change Your Attachment Style?

In my top 20 psychology books countdown, I put the 2012 title: ‘Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love’ by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller in 9th place, thanks to its Amazon.com star rating of 4.6/5. Attachment styles research is an area thatContinue reading “What if You Could Change Your Attachment Style?”

Isolation & Loneliness: Which One Is More Damaging to Our Long-term Health?

Just the other day I was having a debate with a client about isolation versus loneliness. He believed that the amount of social contact we have with others was a more significant predictor of well-being, whereas I thought that how close we felt was more important for long-term health and happiness. In other words, heContinue reading “Isolation & Loneliness: Which One Is More Damaging to Our Long-term Health?”

The 10 Best Laws of Power

A fascinating book that I read towards the end of 2017 was ‘The 48 Laws of Power’ by Robert Greene. Since the book was first released in 1998, it has sold over 2 million copies worldwide and has influenced many successful people, from Will Smith to Kanye West, Jay-Z and 50 Cent, who later co-wroteContinue reading “The 10 Best Laws of Power”

Is Your Screen Time Eating Up Your Free Time?

How Did We Get Here? In the classic Sociology book ‘Bowling Alone’, Robert Putnam makes the compelling argument that social capital (reciprocal connections among people) has been in a steady decline ever since its peak in 1964. By the year 2000, the average American was 58 percent less likely to attend a club meeting thanContinue reading “Is Your Screen Time Eating Up Your Free Time?”

Shame and Guilt: Which One is Helpful, and How Can We Effectively Manage These Difficult Emotions?

What are shame and guilt? In the fascinating and comprehensive book ‘Shame and Guilt’ by June Tangney and Ronda Dearing, they describe shame and guilt as universal human emotions that are functionally important at both an individual and a relationship level. Features shared by shame and guilt (Tangney & Dearing, 2002): Shame and guilt are bothContinue reading “Shame and Guilt: Which One is Helpful, and How Can We Effectively Manage These Difficult Emotions?”

Money and Happiness: How to spend for optimal benefits

Not all the best things in life are free I was on holidays in Queenstown, New Zealand earlier this year, and was amazed at how beautiful the scenery was. I was also amazed by how many experiences were on offer for people visiting or living there… On my first day in Queenstown, I walked intoContinue reading “Money and Happiness: How to spend for optimal benefits”

How High is Your Physical Intelligence?

Physical intelligence is concerned with how different elements of our environment interact with our senses to influence or distort our perceptions, judgments, and emotions, which then affect our behaviours. In her excellent book ‘Sensation’, Thalma Lobel has neatly summarised all of the important findings that have accumulated so far in the emerging field of physicalContinue reading “How High is Your Physical Intelligence?”