It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!

Life-traps are self-defeating ways of perceiving, feeling about and interacting with oneself, others and the world. If you are wanting to get a sense of what your life-traps may be, the book ‘Reinventing your life’ by Jeffrey Young is an excellent place to start, as it goes into 11 different ones. If you want a more… Read More

25 Ideas That Could Change Your Life

1. KAIZEN A Japanese term meaning “improvement”. I think of Kaizen as ‘continuous improvement’ or ‘continual change for the better, one small step at a time’, as this is how I first heard of the term. A lot of the successful Japanese manufacturing companies in automobiles and technology have used this exact approach to obtain… Read More

What if You Could Change Your Attachment Style?

In my top 20 psychology books countdown, I put the 2012 title: ‘Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love’ by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller in 9th place, thanks to its Amazon.com star rating of 4.6/5.   Attachment styles research is an area… Read More

Is it Possible to Improve Depression Without Therapy?

If you walk into a bookstore these days, there is an ever-expanding self-help section, all claiming to have the secret answer to help you to overcome your Depression. But do these titles even teach us anything new, and do they actually help individuals to improve? What is Depression? Although it is considered normal to experience… Read More

Shame and Guilt: Which One is Helpful, and How Can We Effectively Manage These Difficult Emotions?

What are shame and guilt? In the fascinating and comprehensive book ‘Shame and Guilt’ by June Tangney and Ronda Dearing, they describe shame and guilt as universal human emotions that are functionally important at both an individual and a relationship level. Features shared by shame and guilt (Tangney & Dearing, 2002): Shame and guilt are both… Read More

Positive Psychology – The Secret to Optimal Well-being

For many years, Psychology, following in the footsteps of Medicine, was preoccupied with the alleviation of suffering. A worthy objective, but the treatments were focused on how to reduce depression or anxiety, not how to increase happiness. Does not feeling bad equate to the same thing as feeling good? If someone is no longer feeling… Read More

Do You Love​ Your Loved Ones in the Ways They Want to be Loved?

Where do we go wrong? One of the saddest things I see time and time again in my work as a Clinical Psychologist is partners who both love each other and try their best to show this to each other, and yet neither of them feel loved and appreciated. The same thing also happens frequently… Read More

Are You Asking the Right Questions In Your Search For a Therapist?

If you were searching the web as a consumer, looking for the best Psychologist, would you know what to look for?  If you said that you would look for someone experienced, it is a good guess, but years of experience don’t seem to make too much of a difference when it comes to improving therapeutic… Read More