The Error Called Nostalgia: Remember How the World Used to be Better? What if it Never Was?

One of my favourite movies of all time is ‘Midnight in Paris’. Try to forget about the director for a second and focus on the main reason I love it — nostalgia. In the movie, Gil, played by Owen Wilson, writes a novel about a character who owns a nostalgia shop. He clearly idealises the past, especiallyContinue reading “The Error Called Nostalgia: Remember How the World Used to be Better? What if it Never Was?”

Shame and Guilt: Which One is Helpful, and How Can We Effectively Manage These Difficult Emotions?

What are shame and guilt? The fascinating and comprehensive book ‘Shame and Guilt’ by June Tangney and Ronda Dearing describe shame and guilt as universal human emotions that are functionally important at both an individual and a relationship level. Features shared by shame and guilt (Tangney & Dearing, 2002): Shame and guilt are both very privateContinue reading “Shame and Guilt: Which One is Helpful, and How Can We Effectively Manage These Difficult Emotions?”

Money and Happiness: How to spend for optimal benefits

Not all the best things in life are free. I was on holiday in Queenstown, New Zealand, back in 2016 and was amazed at how beautiful the scenery was. I was also amazed by how many experiences were on offer for people visiting or living there. On my first day in Queenstown, I walked intoContinue reading “Money and Happiness: How to spend for optimal benefits”

How High is Your Physical Intelligence?

Physical intelligence is concerned with how different elements of our environment interact with our senses to influence or distort our perceptions, judgments, and emotions, affecting our behaviours. In her excellent book ‘Sensation’, Thalma Lobel has neatly summarised all of the important findings accumulated so far in the emerging field of physical intelligence, or ‘embodied cognition’.Continue reading “How High is Your Physical Intelligence?”

Positive Psychology – The Secret to Optimal Well-being

For many years, Psychology, following in the footsteps of Medicine, was preoccupied with alleviating suffering. A worthy objective, but the treatments were focused on reducing depression or anxiety, not how to increase happiness. Does not feeling bad equate to the same thing as feeling good? If someone is no longer feeling sad, will they suddenlyContinue reading “Positive Psychology – The Secret to Optimal Well-being”

The Need to Belong

Historically Before the industrial revolution, humans lived in small groups that they were born into and had minimal interaction outside these groups for the duration of their lives. Because humans were not great at surviving in the wild, we used our frontal lobes, communication skills and opposable thumbs to work together to build villages andContinue reading “The Need to Belong”

Dealing With Toxic People

What is a “toxic” person? Sometimes in life, we come across people who defy our natural belief systems about how people “should be”. For example, while we assume that most people follow the golden rule of “treat others the way that you would like to be treated”, there are definitely some individuals who are not guidedContinue reading “Dealing With Toxic People”

What Are the Secrets to Long-term Happiness, Health and Wellbeing?

Recently I’ve begun taking an interest in a field called public health. The World Health Organisation has defined public health as: “The art and science of preventing disease, prolonging life and promoting health through the organized efforts of society” — Acheson, 1988 As time has gone on, there have been some studies that have helped publicContinue reading “What Are the Secrets to Long-term Happiness, Health and Wellbeing?”

10 Things You Need to Know About Adverse Childhood Experiences

1. There are 10 categories of experience that are considered to have adverse consequences on the later development of children These include: Abuse: Emotional Physical Sexual Neglect: Emotional Physical Household Dysfunction: Domestic Violence Substance Abuse Mental Illness Parental Separation/Divorce Crime 2. It is possible to determine your own Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) score The ACEContinue reading “10 Things You Need to Know About Adverse Childhood Experiences”

Are You Asking the Right Questions In Your Search For a Therapist?

If you were searching the web as a consumer, looking for the best Psychologist, would you know what to search for? If you said that you would look for someone experienced, it is a good guess, but years of experience don’t seem to make too much of a difference in improving therapeutic outcomes (Minami etContinue reading “Are You Asking the Right Questions In Your Search For a Therapist?”