For many years, Psychologists focused exclusively on alleviating suffering. A worthy objective, but the treatments tried to reduce depression or anxiety, not increase happiness or life satisfaction. If someone is no longer feeling sad, will they suddenly feel happy? Perhaps, but not necessarily.
The field of Positive Psychology tries to address these concerns.
Martin Seligman has written three major Positive Psychology self-help books titled ‘Learned Optimism’, ‘Authentic Happiness’ and ‘Flourish’.
Seligman was interested in studying depression and ran some experiments at the University of Pennsylvania in the late 1960s to develop his theory of learned helplessness. Initially, the dogs were given electric shocks at random intervals and were not allowed to stop the shocks or escape the situation. After a while, even when Seligman provided the dogs with a chance to stop or exit the shocks, he found that they would not do anything about it. The relevance to people with depression is that an individual in an aversive environment who learns that they cannot change their outcome will continue to hold this belief even in situations where this isn’t the case. They won’t improve their position because they think it won’t make a difference anyway. But what if it does?
‘Learned Optimism’ was seen as the antidote to learned helplessness and focused on changing people’s outlooks and teaching them resiliency to better distinguish between things you can change and things that you can’t. By putting their energy into what they can do instead of blaming themselves for something out of their control, they became more motivated to develop knowledge and learn skills to make changes they desired in their lives. Regardless of what has happened in the past, having a slightly optimistic outlook on life leads to better emotional and physical health. It helps people persevere through the bad times, look after their health and put their best long-term interests first. Research has even shown that it can lead to a better survival rate following a heart attack.
In ‘Authentic Happiness’, Martin Seligman extended these ideas and said that happiness was not just a matter of genes or good luck but could be sought out and created. You can do this by discovering your character strengths and virtues and putting these into action as much as possible.
If you are interested in discovering what your natural character strengths are:
1. Please go to www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu and fill out the VIA Survey of Character Strengths.
2. The survey results will rank your Strengths from first to last. First, determine if your top 5 strengths are your key character strengths or virtues — you will know if the responses “feel right” to you. Then, if a lower-ranked item seems to better fit you than any of your top 5, write down your new top 5.
3. Ask yourself, how much do you currently put these strengths into practice? In what ways do you apply them or live by them? For example, if love of learning or creativity is your highest ranked strength, do any changes need to be made in your life so that you can experience these more (e.g. study a new course or take on another creative pursuit)?
4. If changes need to be made, set yourself some SMART (S — specific, M — measurable, A — attainable, R — realistic, T — timely) goals for how you can put these virtues into action. If these are your key character strengths and virtues, it is likely to lead to a higher overall sense of emotional well-being.
In ‘Flourish’, Seligman proposed only five elements crucial for optimal psychological well-being or for someone to flourish. He called this his PERMA model of well-being:
P — positive emotions — We all need love, joy, hope, compassion, gratitude, awe and excitement in our lives. What activities frequently bring about these emotions for you? Can they be sought out, or can you engage in these activities more regularly?
E — engagement — Sometimes referred to as ‘flow’, engagement is the state when we are no longer in our heads or consumed with worries but completely immersed in whatever we are doing. By reading the book, ‘Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life’ by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, I realised that we could create the conditions for these engagement experiences. Typically, you can achieve this with activities requiring some skill and challenge but not too much. So it is when I am playing a sport, in session with a client, or engaging in a creative pursuit. However, it is different for everyone and doesn’t always happen each time you do an activity. It is what athletes refer to when they are “in the zone” or what M. Scott Peck referred to when he spoke about how his best-selling book ‘The Road Less Traveled’ seemed to write itself. Mindfulness training, apart from its other benefits on stress, pain and prevention of depression relapse, can also lead to a higher likelihood of full engagement with a situation.
R — positive relationships — Whether we are extroverted or introverted, humans are still social creatures who seek to be understood and accepted for who we are and have a sense of belonging with others. We also like to share experiences, as you will notice with any child who waits for their parents to look and see what they are doing before engaging in an action. It was the moral of the story in “Into the Wild”, the 2007 movie starring Emile Hirsch, where the main character wrote, “Happiness only real when shared”. But negative relationships also cause a lot of pain, so the secret may be in how to seek out and foster the right connections (e.g. friends, partners), as well as how to improve the ones that we already have or may not be able to choose (e.g. family, bosses). If you are having problems with this area of your life, the book ‘The Relationship Cure’ by John Gottman is an excellent place to start, as is seeking out a trained relationship therapist.
M — meaning — Friedrich Nietzsche first said: “he who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” Viktor Frankl also determined in ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’ that purpose was required to withstand the daily atrocities he faced as a Jewish prisoner of a German concentration camp during World War II. Frankl, a Psychiatrist, believed so much about the importance of meaning that he developed a treatment called Logotherapy, which focused on helping others find meaning. He dedicated the second half of his book towards this goal and his subsequent psychotherapy. Depending on your beliefs, there may or may not be a universal meaning of life, but each individual must determine its importance. Where possible, it is then essential to try to live your life in that way, as long as it doesn’t break the laws of your society or cause harm to others. Values clarification exercises can assist with this.
A — achievement — People like to achieve things, succeed, and win for their own sake. It is why there are so many cheats for video games and corruption in the corporate world, and drug cheats in athletic competition. So many people will do what they can to win. Achievement can be winning something, gaining knowledge, building skills, or completing a task. Having three achievable goals each day would go a long way towards improved well-being.
Psychology is about more than the alleviation of suffering. It is about helping people understand, grow, develop mastery and self-efficacy, and live the best life they can!
Dr Damon Ashworth
Clinical Psychologist
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