To Trust or Not to Trust?

Recently, some things have come to light that I have found personally disappointing. A few people have behaved in a self-centred way and it puts me in an awkward situation. If given a choice, I always try to be kind, open, honest, respectful and co-operative with others. However, sometimes some people don’t play by these […]

The Four Ultimate Concerns in Life

I’ve been afraid to say this for a while because of how it will be perceived, but my favourite book of all time is actually a textbook. Now before you think that makes me someone that you would never want to speak to, I’ll ask if you have ever read anything by Irvin Yalom, American […]

33 Thoughts About Turning 33

This will be an unfiltered post. No thinking things through. No edits. Just reflections on life, age, and anything else that pops into my head. Here goes nothing: Turning 33 feels weird I feel old at times, especially in my body I still feel like a child at other times too, and I wonder whether […]

Do the Little Things We Do Matter?

I love the above quote by Lao Tzu. It really highlights to me that all of the little choices we make in life are important, especially in the long run. Not any one choice, or any particular action, unless it is unusually severe or unforgivable. I’m talking about the little things that we do on […]

How to Become Deliberately Better at Anything

At the start of 2018, I launched an idea called Deliberately Better. Deliberately Better was created with two main aims in mind: It was intended to inspire people to believe in positive change, and It was meant to motivate others to want to put some tangible and small steps into place towards achieving their overall […]

It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!

Life-trapsĀ are self-defeating ways of perceiving, feeling about and interacting with oneself, others and the world. If you are wanting to get a sense of what your life-traps may be, the book ‘Reinventing your life’ by Jeffrey Young is an excellent place to start, as it goes into 11 different ones. If you want a more […]

Change is Possible (and Inevitable)!

I haven’t announced it on my blog until now, but there have been a lot of changes for me lately… After an amazing five years of Clinical work at the Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre and Victorian Counselling and Psychological Services, I have decided to finish up and take on a brand new and exciting challenge. […]

25 Ideas That Could Change Your Life

1. KAIZEN A Japanese term meaning “improvement”. I think of Kaizen as ‘continuous improvement’ or ‘continual change for the better, one small step at a time’, as this is how I first heard of the term. A lot of the successful Japanese manufacturing companies in automobiles and technology have used this exact approach to obtain […]

How Much Could You Change Your Personality in a Year?

In April 2017, I looked at how my personality changed from 2011 to 2017 on the IPIP-NEO, my favourite free online personality test (see the website personality assessorĀ and choose the IPIP-120 if you are interested in taking it). I wrote this up for the Deliberately Better article: Is it possible to change your personality? Prior […]

Can Your Personality Type Change Across Time?

I tried out a new personality test website the other day called 16 personalities. I came up as an Advocate, or an INFJ-A. This is a Myers-Briggs Type Inventory (MBTI) type personality test for those who aren’t familiar with the letters: The I means I am an introvert (63%) more than an extrovert (37%), and […]