The Advice I’d Give to My Stepdaughter Before She Graduates from High School in 2027

My stepdaughter is now in year 7 and at a new school this year. We’ve all moved across to Melbourne, Australia, after being in Port Vila, Vanuatu, since 2018. Her new school seems to be going well for her. They have asked all parents of year 7’s to write a letter to their children forContinue reading “The Advice I’d Give to My Stepdaughter Before She Graduates from High School in 2027”

The 10 Truths of Longevity

“The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.” — Isaac Asimov The Longevity Project Over 1,500 of the most promising and brightest boys and girls were recruited in 1921 by Lewis Terman. Unfortunately, he died in 1956, but the study continued for decades afterwards. All participantsContinue reading “The 10 Truths of Longevity”

Harvard University studied 700 People’s Health and Happiness from their Teen Years Until They Died

Here Are 10 Fascinating Findings from the Study The Harvard Study of Adult Development began in 1938. It is sometimes also called ‘The Grant Study’. This longitudinal prospective study aimed to identify predictors of healthy ageing in real-time. For 79 years, it has examined the lives of 268 physically and mentally healthy Harvard college sophomoresContinue reading “Harvard University studied 700 People’s Health and Happiness from their Teen Years Until They Died”

Isolation and Loneliness: Which One Is More Damaging to Our Long-term Health?

Just the other day, I was having a debate with a client about isolation versus loneliness. He believed that social contact with others was a more significant predictor of well-being, whereas I thought how close we felt was more important for long-term health and happiness. In other words, he thought that the number of interactionsContinue reading “Isolation and Loneliness: Which One Is More Damaging to Our Long-term Health?”

Is Your Screen Time Eating Up Your Free Time?

How Did We Get Here? In the classic Sociology book ‘Bowling Alone’, Robert Putnam argues that social capital (reciprocal connections among people) has been in a steady decline ever since its peak in 1964. By 2000, the average American was 58% less likely to attend a club meeting than an individual only 25 years earlier.Continue reading “Is Your Screen Time Eating Up Your Free Time?”

How to Predict Whether or Not a Couple Will Break Up

John Gottman is a legendary relationship researcher. He began using “The Love Lab” as his research centre at the University of Washington in 1986. Here, he would have couples stay in the apartment at The Love Lab, and watch as they bring up an old topic that they would typically fight about. During this conflict,Continue reading “How to Predict Whether or Not a Couple Will Break Up”

What Are the Virtues and Faults of Your Personality Style?

You may not be the right fit for everyone or everything, but no one is. What is more important is to first try to understand yourself, change what you would like to and are able to, accept what you do not want to or cannot change, and then find the places and people that love and appreciate you for who you are.

The Four Ultimate Concerns in Life

I’ve been afraid to say this for a while because of how it will be perceived, but my favourite book of all time is actually a textbook. So before you think that makes me someone you would never want to speak to, I’ll ask if you have ever read anything by Irvin Yalom, American PsychiatristContinue reading “The Four Ultimate Concerns in Life”

33 Thoughts About Turning 33

This will be an unfiltered post. No thinking things through. No edits. Just reflections on life, age, and anything else that pops into my head. Here goes nothing: Turning 33 feels weird. I feel old at times, especially in my body. I still feel like a child at other times, and I wonder whether I willContinue reading “33 Thoughts About Turning 33”

It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!

Life traps are self-defeating ways of perceiving, feeling about, interacting with oneself, others, and the world. If you want to get a sense of what your life-traps may be, the book ‘Reinventing your life’ by Jeffrey Young is an excellent place to start, as it goes into 11 different ones. If you want a moreContinue reading “It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!”