Adolescent Mental Health in a Rapidly Changing World

October 10th, 2018 is World Mental Health Day Here are the top 10 tips for looking after your mental health, according to The Mental Health Foundation: 1. Talk about your feelings (with people who are likely to listen and not judge) 2. Exercise regularly (30 mins a day, 5 days a week) 3. Eat well… Read More

It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!

Life-traps are self-defeating ways of perceiving, feeling about and interacting with oneself, others and the world. If you are wanting to get a sense of what your life-traps may be, the book ‘Reinventing your life’ by Jeffrey Young is an excellent place to start, as it goes into 11 different ones. If you want a more… Read More

Change is Possible (and Inevitable)!

I haven’t announced it on my blog until now, but there have been a lot of changes for me lately… After an amazing five years of Clinical work at the Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre and Victorian Counselling and Psychological Services, I have decided to finish up and take on a brand new and exciting challenge.… Read More

How Much Could You Change Your Personality in a Year?

In April 2017, I looked at how my personality changed from 2011 to 2017 on the IPIP-NEO, my favourite free online personality test (see the website personality assessor and choose the IPIP-120 if you are interested in taking it). I wrote this up for the Deliberately Better article: Is it possible to change your personality? Prior… Read More

Can Your Personality Type Change Across Time?

I tried out a new personality test website the other day called 16 personalities. I came up as an Advocate, or an INFJ-A. This is a Myers-Briggs Type Inventory (MBTI) type personality test for those who aren’t familiar with the letters: The I means I am an introvert (63%) more than an extrovert (37%), and… Read More

What if You Could Change Your Attachment Style?

In my top 20 psychology books countdown, I put the 2012 title: ‘Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love’ by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller in 9th place, thanks to its Amazon.com star rating of 4.6/5.   Attachment styles research is an area… Read More

Isolation & Loneliness: Which One Is More Damaging to Our Long-term Health?

Just the other day I was having a debate with a client about isolation versus loneliness. He believed that the amount of social contact we have with others was a more significant predictor of well-being, whereas I thought that how close we felt was more important for long-term health and happiness. In other words, he… Read More

The Best Psychology Books of the Past Five Years (10-1)

Welcome to the final segment of my countdown. If you’d like to check out part one first, click here. Otherwise, enjoy! 10. ‘Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance‘ by Angela Duckworth (2016). Goodreads star rating = 4.08/5. Why it’s good: Duckworth shows that talent tends to be hugely overrated when looking at who is… Read More

The Best Psychology Books of the Past Five Years (20 – 11)

I’ve already written a previous post on my top 20 psychology books of all time.  These were quite popular and well-known titles, but the most recent publications ‘The Power of Habit’ and ‘The Honest Truth About Dishonesty’ were both written in 2012. Since 2013, there have been some other great reads that have had a… Read More

Shame and Guilt: Which One is Helpful, and How Can We Effectively Manage These Difficult Emotions?

What are shame and guilt? In the fascinating and comprehensive book ‘Shame and Guilt’ by June Tangney and Ronda Dearing, they describe shame and guilt as universal human emotions that are functionally important at both an individual and a relationship level. Features shared by shame and guilt (Tangney & Dearing, 2002): Shame and guilt are both… Read More