Why Do Some People Cheat in Relationships and Others Remain Faithful?

With the development of the internet, dating websites, social media, smart phones and dating apps, it is now easier than ever for someone to cheat on their partner or spouse. This same technology can also make it easier to get caught too, due to the potential digital trail that is created with each of these… Read More

Parenting is Tough, but Science Suggests Clear Strategies that Help You to Raise Emotionally Healthy Children

In 2018, the American Psychiatric Association identified what they considered to be the three major goals of parenting: “1. Ensuring children’s health and safety 2. Preparing children for life as productive adults, and 3. Transmitting cultural values” Many environmental and biological factors influence a parent’s and a child’s capacity to reach these ambitious goals. However,… Read More

33 Thoughts About Turning 33

This will be an unfiltered post. No thinking things through. No edits. Just reflections on life, age, and anything else that pops into my head. Here goes nothing: Turning 33 feels weird I feel old at times, especially in my body I still feel like a child at other times too, and I wonder whether… Read More

Do the Little Things We Do Matter?

I love the above quote by Lao Tzu. It really highlights to me that all of the little choices we make in life are important, especially in the long run. Not any one choice, or any particular action, unless it is unusually severe or unforgivable. I’m talking about the little things that we do on… Read More

20 Fascinating Paradoxes About Life

What is a Paradox? According to the Oxford dictionary, a paradox is a noun that has two meanings: 1. A seemingly absurd or contradictory statement or proposition which when investigated may prove to be well founded or true. 2. A person or thing that combines contradictory features or qualities. I love paradoxes because they are… Read More

Adolescent Mental Health in a Rapidly Changing World

October 10th, 2018 is World Mental Health Day Here are the top 10 tips for looking after your mental health, according to The Mental Health Foundation: 1. Talk about your feelings (with people who are likely to listen and not judge) 2. Exercise regularly (30 mins a day, 5 days a week) 3. Eat well… Read More

It’s Okay to Still Fall into Life Traps… We All Do!

Life-trapsĀ are self-defeating ways of perceiving, feeling about and interacting with oneself, others and the world. If you are wanting to get a sense of what your life-traps may be, the book ‘Reinventing your life’ by Jeffrey Young is an excellent place to start, as it goes into 11 different ones. If you want a more… Read More

Change is Possible (and Inevitable)!

I haven’t announced it on my blog until now, but there have been a lot of changes for me lately… After an amazing five years of Clinical work at the Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre and Victorian Counselling and Psychological Services, I have decided to finish up and take on a brand new and exciting challenge.… Read More

How Much Could You Change Your Personality in a Year?

In April 2017, I looked at how my personality changed from 2011 to 2017 on the IPIP-NEO, my favourite free online personality test (see the website personality assessorĀ and choose the IPIP-120 if you are interested in taking it). I wrote this up for the Deliberately Better article: Is it possible to change your personality? Prior… Read More

Can Your Personality Type Change Across Time?

I tried out a new personality test website the other day called 16 personalities. I came up as an Advocate, or an INFJ-A. This is a Myers-Briggs Type Inventory (MBTI) type personality test for those who aren’t familiar with the letters: The I means I am an introvert (63%) more than an extrovert (37%), and… Read More